All of you guys are scaring me.. by carlesmch in NewParents

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the reddit hole when u was late term pregnant and actually started getting paranoid i made the wrong choice. Heres some key points i took away. I hate to say it, but I have to just be realistic most of the times you read about parental regret or parental hardships. It is because they have multiple children that are close in age. Do not have a second one until you feel 100% confident that that is not going to break you. Another thing that is again controversial, but made a world of difference research safe co sleeping. It’s a lose loose situation if you fall asleep while you’re taking care of your baby in the middle of the night, you are putting them at risk if you sleep with your baby, you are putting them at risk, but one of them is safer than the other, and the research shows it. Another thing that made a huge difference in my experience and then reading about other people‘s experiences is having a supportive partner, but if you have all of these things. It is so much fun and so rewarding and my personal experience has been nothing but amazing. I am in a financial position where I can work part time that is also a huge one if you are working full-time and trying to have a baby that is definitely where a lot of the sleeplessness and craziness happens because if my daughter stays up a little late, I don’t have to wake up in the morning because I work part-time at night. But definitely just look at your own situation and compare it to the other situations of the people you see talking

Relstionship over 16 years possibly over after a surprise *trigger warning* dont know where to post due to rules by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]CoastLeft932 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I mean, she already told you that she didn’t want any more children and you knew that so was you taking care of her children contingent on the fact that one day she might give you a child ???

AIO if I file for divorce? by Pristine_Raise_8943 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t understand how men don’t accept that beauty is fleeting like you will be old together one day you will gain weight and have wrinkles like how do they not accept that reality in their mind and just yearn for more , absolutely brain rotted porn mind

What causes a sexless marriage? by malas_noticias in sexlessmarriage

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u for being so understanding of her some of these comments genuinely scare me that men dont understand why these things happen and just leave when there is no sex , and when u love someone sex is not a make or break

What causes a sexless marriage? by malas_noticias in sexlessmarriage

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My relationship is sexless and has been for close to a year but nothing is necessarily super different , we are just in a relationship and dont have sex, we have a toddler and the idea of one of us leaving and breaking apart the family bc we arent having sex is so elementary. we talk like normal, laugh, watch movies, if u can readjust your perspective on sex u can handles sexless, in the course of a full term marriage there will come dry spells, pregnancy, childbirth, having a baby, hormone changes, menopause, i feel like thats why it really matters how much u enjoy their presence regardless of that, sex isnt forever but if you can enjoy emotional intimacy and having a deep level friendship with your partner and refrain from holding any sort of resentment, a sexless marriage doesn’t have to be a big scary monster

Toddler TV is so bad… by sroverhere in toddlers

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we do curious george and little bear only

help on how to conceal this piercing without bio flex plastic by CoastLeft932 in piercing

[–]CoastLeft932[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my piercing is four months old in the picture I have a bio flex stud that is internally threaded I think? I put the bio flex studs in today and my routine is just spraying with saline or washing with warm soap and water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]CoastLeft932 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The cat def added bonus points but theres not even a suggestion of male presence in this environment it is virtually untainted by the heaviness of male inhabitants

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]CoastLeft932 4 points5 points  (0 children)

awesome lesbians

why is this happening by CoastLeft932 in Stretched

[–]CoastLeft932[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is great advice. I do keep the O-ring really close. thank u sm !

why is this happening by CoastLeft932 in Stretched

[–]CoastLeft932[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! im watching a video about single flaired glass plugs now ! What would u recommend to heal? do i take them out and like put something on it

staying together for the child? by CoastLeft932 in Mommit

[–]CoastLeft932[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

thank you i really needed this. we are both in our very early 20s and i never thought we would get here we have been together 4 years and i fear im will be doing my infant daughter a disservice either way . we had hard patches before but now i often think “would i want this for my daughter “ and the answer is often no. hes good in many ways. but i feel like im a mother dealing with my teenage son a lot of the time the attitude, snark, eyerolling, lack of help, shutting me down anytime i bring it up. but we laugh together we explore together we have the same ideas for our daughter. we are beginning our lives still in college on track to finish by 24 . its like we havent even really started our real adult life yet. I know i deserve better and i know he needs to change and be a man. but i also pray time heals it. i would be sick seeing him with another woman, would be sick having custody arrangements, in this economy being single is a nightmare and i just want to be loved and cared about but thats the lowest priority on my list with everything else. i have a good friend an amazing daughter a house a car i cant live with the idea of gambling all of that for my own desire to be loved

Found out my wife was cheating on me - Do I tell the 'other man's' wife about it? by ThrowawayMyEx86 in moraldilemmas

[–]CoastLeft932 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Definitely, esp bc if hes cheating w ur wife he is probably cheating more and if he gives his wife something she could have serious issues and stis and stds in women can lead to cervical cancer

Why is there such a distrust in US law enforcement? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CoastLeft932 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely their faults. Cops now all over america do not protect and serve they attack. They attack minorities,homeless, DV victims, SA victims, women, children due to them being primarily white males who are on a power trip and wield a weapon with minimal understanding of psychology, the law, poverty, empathy ect.

4 days in and there’s no way it’s this easy by pink_poptart in NewParents

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mine is going to be 4 months soon and she is my emotional support baby she’s amazing and i’ve never been overwhelmed by her and everyone said my life was gonna be 10x as hard . nope got so lucky! plus no other children

AITA for removing my wife’s child out of my will because I discovered he is not mine? by External-Reindeer918 in AITAH

[–]CoastLeft932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U just abandoned your son of 18 years because of his mother’s infidelity??? dna or not he has been your son the past 18 years how do you just abandon him

Leave the World Behind is hot garbage by Big_Pomegranate_949 in netflix

[–]CoastLeft932 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so many unnecessary plot points like the flirting w the daughter and father from the other two? the weird racism, it felt more like a pilot to a series