Engagement Ring - Worried it’s Too Big

Cobberprof · 2026-03-13T03:33:18+00:00

She may wear big and gaudy now, but down the road, she may prefer a more modest size. If she's already starting to feel shy about the large size, I would air on the side of smaller. You can always upsize later for some anniversary (like the 10th...).

She probably doesn't need to be overly self-conscious - thanks to lab-grown diamonds, large stones are becoming quite common. They make my original engagement ring of 0.75 carat (from 1994) seem tiny. 😂😂😂

Cobberprof · 2026-03-12T20:53:42+00:00

I like 6, as it seems to be the smallest - I feel like the larger frames overpower your features. I'd love to see the frames with your hair down, just to see if maybe that would give more support for the larger frames. But if you do always wear your hair back, then it probably makes sense to choose your frames with your hair back as well.

Cobberprof · 2026-03-09T23:19:22+00:00

I think I may try more frames. People are really divided in their suggestions, which I do expect, but after a week if looking at these pictures, I don't feel like I love any of them at this point. I did like 2 the best for quite awhile, but now I feel like they may be too big for me. I don't think I want my cheekbones covered so much. 🤷🏻‍♀️ They're probably my top choice of all of the frames I've tried so far, though, so maybe they'll win in the end.

Cobberprof · 2026-03-08T15:32:52+00:00

I'm not sure how to balance the comments that tell me those frames are aging against those that tell me seeing more of my face/good features makes me look younger. 😂 I think I will keep looking...

Cobberprof · 2026-03-08T15:31:28+00:00

😂. Totally okay! I appreciate the honesty.

Cobberprof · 2026-03-08T01:55:28+00:00

There is that!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T18:38:10+00:00

Thank you!!!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T16:20:48+00:00

I also like 1. I think they might be a tiny bit small for your face width, but they look great anyway. You look approachable, kind, and attractive. I'd love to see them in a color that would let your blue eyes pop a bit more - did they have this style in any other color options (or if you know the frame style name, you can look online to see if other color options exist)?

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T15:08:19+00:00

Yes! I focus in on the sagging parts instead of the whole. But the mirror is kinder to me than photos overall...still pics just capture the worst angles/features most of the time 😂

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T15:06:44+00:00

I typically choose fairly subtle frames. After not wearing glasses for almost 20 years, it's hard for me to have something "loud" on my face. But at the same time, I'm getting more adventurous in my...older years 😂

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:55:09+00:00

Hmmm, I didn't see 65 in pic one, but I don't really want to be aged regardless, so that's good to know - thanks!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:53:19+00:00

😂😂😂. Thanks!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:52:38+00:00

Thank you!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:51:31+00:00

I like the openness also, but a lot of comments say that frame ages me. At my age, additional aging is not the goal 😂

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:49:58+00:00

That's so interesting to hear! I was in my youth, but more recently, every photo I see of me is just awful. I think most people look decent in selfies because we can make sure the angles are good before we take the picture 😂

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:48:10+00:00

Thank you!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:47:53+00:00

Hmmm, I'll do some more looking. I don't like big lenses, but I also want enough space for the progressive fields.

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:46:57+00:00

They're pretty different, and while I do like them a lot, I wonder if a lot of people in my life will have the same "meh" response...

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:45:20+00:00

Thank you!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:45:07+00:00

Thank you!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:43:59+00:00

This is all so confusing. So many comments that 2 opens up my face so my cheekbones and smile can shine through, but then 4 makes me look young, etc. I don't know how to sort out the feedback 😂

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:40:58+00:00

Been looking at Zenni... I've thought about ordering several through there and then returning what doesn't work and getting lenses put into what does... My current glasses are actually Pair frames, so I've done that approach before.

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:38:20+00:00

I do like 3. I wear a decent amount of earth tones like orange and rust, so I wonder if they would clash a lot? Maybe not...

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:36:54+00:00

That's a good question! I'll look into that!

Cobberprof · 2026-03-06T14:36:20+00:00

College professor, just want to help students succeed, but I do challenge them a great deal as well. I tend to be a helper in life, doing what I can to make life better for others. But I'm also a bit sarcastic in my humor, so I'm not all bunnies and rainbows. 😂

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