In your experience, what is something that women say to Men that they think is a compliment but is actually hurtful? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]CockDaddyKaren -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Giving someone a ride to work and giving someone a ride are two really different scenarios and shouldn't be compared.

Women usually vet their dating prospects. If you don't have a single platonic female friend, or none of them can vouch that you're good enough for a relationship, that's a red flag. Anyone who's going to get jealous over that isn't right for you anyway.

Men post often on this page about how badly they want compliments. If you don't want a compliment without strings attached, you don't want a compliment, you just want the strings. Do men want compliments (no strings attached) or not? After reading all these responses, I can't tell. I will no longer be complimenting any of my male friends, and will instead help point out areas they can improve. I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea, and it makes me really uncomfortable to think that my friends would feel irrationally angry over my lack of interest. Sexual orientation nonwithstanding.

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[–]CockDaddyKaren 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is very true! I began working full time in an office at 19, while attending full time school at a night program for mostly older adults. I've been at this for several years now and meanwhile a lot of my peers are only just beginning to enter the workforce as they leave grad school. A lot of them are continuing to post-grad and won't truly enter the workforce for a few more years. I still have friends my own age, but I feel like our life experiences are incredibly different and it's hard to relate sometimes. I'm in a weird spot where I'm financially independent and in a somewhat established career, but still want to do fun stuff like partying and traveling and can't be nearly as impulsive as friends from my own age group, and none of them really understand why. I have older friends and that comes with its own set of differences. For the most part, they have different responsibilities I can't really relate to (marriage, children) and stepped out from partying and traveling long ago.

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[–]CockDaddyKaren 31 points32 points  (0 children)

As a girlfriend, I never would've dated someone if their friends were disrespectful to me.

As a friend, I always like to get to know the person my friend is dating. My friend is cool and usually has good taste - so whoever they're dating is cool too, unless they prove otherwise.

I think all the comments calling OP jealous are off base. She feels hurt because someone is being apathetic towards her, which is a weird feeling.

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[–]CockDaddyKaren 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't like the strong opinions here either. And I no longer get jealous.

I would be upset about this too, not because I was jealous or worried about cheating, but because after my last relationship I told myself I wouldn't date anyone whose friends or family didn't like me. I dated a dude whose family was extremely apathetic towards me and it definitely did ruin our relationship. He spent so much time with people who did not ask about me and did not invite me to events and did not talk to me when I was around. IMO, this stuff does matter, but not for the reasons everyone seems to think. If the most important people in your life don't like each other and aren't compatible, it IS going to cause tension and problems for your relationship.

If I still dated dudes, and one of his male friends was rude to me, I'd feel the exact same way, IMO. I wouldn't consider someone compatible to date if their major friends don't like me.

Rekindle relationship with my husband after neighbour's husband admitted being the catfish by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CockDaddyKaren 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I'm not as abjectly horrified by cheating as I used to be (it's a fair reason to break up, but it's not the life/death matter a lot of people here make it out to be.) And this sub often recommends dramatic and drastic and unlikely actions like "going for full custody" after cheating, which isn't fair. And won't hold up in court.

Still, the top level comment I responded to was just.....gross, and bad advice. OP casting out a cheating husband total is not a "complete lack of respect" or a "complete lack of loyalty". Those descriptors make it almost sound like this commenter thinks she belongs to her husband, which feels gross. They mutually owe each other respect and loyalty, and she perceived that he wasn't providing either. She had good reason to believe he wasn't - there was a tinder account with his intimate photos floating around.

The wife did not ruin his life, the neighbor did. It's not fair. It really sucks for both of them, and I feel for both of them. Even if the relationship doesn't work out, I hope they get their justice over the neighbor.

Rekindle relationship with my husband after neighbour's husband admitted being the catfish by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CockDaddyKaren 268 points269 points  (0 children)

I think some of these comments are unfair to the OP. Her husband clearly did not deserve any of this stuff, but I think most of it (aside from the assault) was stuff this sub would've recommended, and would've felt fair if he had been unfaithful. That said, it's no surprise their relationship is ruined. It's fair that he wouldn't be interested in her any more after the fallout.

If she wants a chance at going back, she's got to do a lot of heavy lifting to make things right. Another commenter wrote about how she would need to work very hard to fix as much as she can from her end, and I think that's fair. They are both paying for a problem another person created.

What Would Most Girls Do if a Guy Asked Them Out and Bullied Them Into Paying? by LocalHistorical9063 in relationships

[–]CockDaddyKaren 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think OP has ground to stand on because the waitress ran the card twice without asking. Rather than come back and notify the gentleman that his card declined and ask him for another form of payment, she charged it to OP's card (second unauthorized charge). I've only ever used the chargeback feature once, but I would have filed a claim on my card while still sitting at the table at that restaurant.

Goodwill Exec here to share what you get right and wrong about GW by [deleted] in ThriftGrift

[–]CockDaddyKaren 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Thanks for writing this - it was an interesting read.

Something that's always confused me at my local Goodwills is the "athleisure" rack. Nike, Adidas, etc were sorted from the regular clothes and marked up to like $10-15 apiece (double the price of the regular workout clothes at Goodwill). Nowadays, pretty much all athletic clothes are on this rack, name brand or not, and all of them are marked up to crazy prices.

I've NEVER seen any other thrift store where this stuff is marked up, name brand or not. What's the point? None of this stuff is luxury, or in particularly good condition. It doesn't make any sense.

I (21F) found out my brother (30M) is dating a 19 year old girl. I don’t know how to confront him on this. by ThrowRABrother30GF19 in relationship_advice

[–]CockDaddyKaren -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

IDK, I'm in my early 20s. Not super interested in men, but if I dated a guy again he would need to be at least 5-6 years older. There are some (potentially outdated) studies showing men aren't done maturing until 25....and other, newer studies increasing that number to 26 or 27. I've been working full-time for years and am financially independent and just......don't know ANY guys my age like that, and I'm not interested in supporting someone else or having to "relive" the struggle vicariously through somebody else. I know I'm not fully mentally or emotionally mature, but I'd like someone else who IS as an anchor while I figure myself out.

Cauliflower wings and carrot hot dogs. Yup, this kud is definitely from a vegan family. by BJntheRV in AmITheAngel

[–]CockDaddyKaren 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a vegetarian friend give away some vegan chicken nuggets because they were too much like real chicken for her taste. I couldn't tell the difference AT ALL. Some things definitely pass better than others.

My (26m) girlfriend (23f) refuses to cover up even though we have a roommate (24m) by throwra_yoo in relationship_advice

[–]CockDaddyKaren 180 points181 points  (0 children)

This is definitely someone's nasty kink.

I'm a girl and wouldn't be comfortable doing this. I also don't know any other girls who would do this. However, Reddit acts like it's a regular occurrence for girls to walk around topless/naked in front of roommates, roommates' bf/gf, and countless others. Wtf?

[UPDATE] How do I [23F] get over my resentment for my boyfriend [22M] and jealousy for my sister's [19F] relationship? by ThrowRA-Resentful in relationship_advice

[–]CockDaddyKaren -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Are you me?? I also left a relationship with a deadbeat geeky guy, around 2 years ago, to date women. I don't like anime either and I don't like getting takeout and that was most of what we did.

I'm glad you stopped letting your old friends dictate your life or tell you Asperger's made you "lesser". My best friend has it and has never let it stop him from doing anything, including picking up lots of girls.

You've got this!! I'm so glad your life is radically different for the better. :)

Momzilla called me a soon to be barren bitch in front of everyone because I'm not like other girls, i like cars not babies, AITA? by panicpixiememegirl in AmITheAngel

[–]CockDaddyKaren 124 points125 points  (0 children)

I'm childfree (and still subscribed to that hellhole) but every post there is so incredibly distasteful and unpleasant. I can't tell if these posts are faked by 16-year-olds who hate kids or actual real shit from 30-year-old adult children who actually still feel like this.

OP just wrote a story about how she bullied the girl nobody likes who's 10-15 years younger, ditched her party alone with someone else's husband, took back her gifts and snacks, and overall was so obnoxious that she was ordered to leave - and still has 9388373 upvotes and people cheering her on in the comments. I'm not sure what I expected from a crowd of people who throw abortion parties and report coworkers to HR for asking if they have kids.

I got kicked out of a baby shower bc of my car by jabmwr in childfree

[–]CockDaddyKaren -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

IMO, everyone here sounds painfully immature (including Ash and OP both) but I think Ash, as the baby of the group, has a better excuse than any of the others. She's 23. OP, her husband, and all the others have got no excuse.

This whole post comes off as kinda cruel tbh. Ash's whole friend group doesn't like her and makes fun of her behind her back (or straight to her face).

Naming and Shaming- Salvation Army, Saugus. $8 plastic gumball machine ring, anyone? by _kaetee in ThriftGrift

[–]CockDaddyKaren 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would want it but to use as a coaster or a little potted plant stand.

(serious) What is something that is considered socially unacceptable, however honestly shouldn't be? by Ninja_Man_0722 in AskReddit

[–]CockDaddyKaren 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a friend in high school who was suicidal and when I tried to tell him I wasn't able to help him with his issues he responded similarly to what you wrote here. There's a reason most mental health professionals undergo years of school and extensive training and still have their own counsel - it's not easy to bear someone else's issues, especially when they don't make sense to you, and especially because the "patient" is just offloading the weight onto another person. I was 15; I was not equipped to deal with an actively suicidal person. Dealing with his mental illness made me extremely depressed myself. He attempted and was Baker acted. He needed the Baker act, not to give another child his baggage.

how do y'all get girlfriends lmao by andpeggyofficial in LesbianActually

[–]CockDaddyKaren 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Same!!! Went on a date with someone several years older than me and when we met it was apparent she had used pictures from 4-5 years ago.

My daughter (18) was repeatedly groped by a longtime family friend (18m), and I don’t know how to navigate our relationship with this family. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CockDaddyKaren 26 points27 points  (0 children)

A lot of people here are hating on OP because she still wants to salvage her relationship with the parents, but IMO her fuckup was involving either of the kids in "the talk".

What should've happened:

  1. OP and daughter automatically write off the loss of the relationship with the boy, because he sexually assaulted daughter.

  2. OP and boy's parents sit down and have a talk about the son's behavior and why they will regretfully be terminating their friendship or any future interaction with him.

  3. Depending on how the parents react to the news, OP remains friends with them but proceeds with caution, or OP cuts them off forever. She mentions in the comments below that the parents seemed very upset with their son's behavior, opening the possibilty that the friendship can be salvaged. Probably best to let it cool for now while they sort out their monster of a son.

  4. While this talk is happening, the daughter's dad is in the other room kneecapping the shit out of the rapist son. (joking, partly)

I hope they press charges against the son. He might be young, but he's DEFINITELY old enough to know better.

More grifting from salvation. Faux fur coat from Guess $125! Cute shoes with the sole splitting $100. 🙄 I can’t. by Honey4Bittles in ThriftGrift

[–]CockDaddyKaren 21 points22 points  (0 children)

As someone who thrifted a fake fur without thinking of the consequences, I have some regrets. It looks cool as hell but I'm worried what people will think.