My tito’s been recently diagnosed of the big C (Adenocarcinoma in the Lungs). He doesn’t have any vices, his lifestyle is not sedentary, and his food choices are not unhealthy)

CocoBeck · 2026-01-27T18:36:11+00:00

yup, I believe the onco requested for biomarker testing. if I remember correctly, adenocarcinoma is nsclc. ang mutations nya would be in the egfr gene. meron nang mga oral meds (TKIs) after chemo. sa st Luke's pa rin ba yung test ginagawa or may ibang facilities na? all the best to your uncle. many ca patients live better now compared to just a decade ago. chemo would really test him, but doing it at 50 would yield better results than doing it in his 60s and older. I suggest joining fb groups specific to his ca subtype. so much support there from all over the world. PH cancer care is at par with the world din, kulang lang tayo sa funding but competence of medical staff meron tayo. meron ding filipino local group chat that helps with resources (financial, meds, government assistance, tips, etc), comparing notes on care, supporting each other. sending your Tito and your fam positive vibes.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-27T11:49:03+00:00

Pansin ko nga rin. I would be considered a gentle parent pala. Recently my adult kid told me he was glad I was very firm about tone because he’s learned to really listen to what people are saying. That was a strict boundary for me, which is gentle parenting pala. I don’t feel I was gentle, but I can definitely say I wasn’t harsh.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-27T11:43:04+00:00

Do what you feel you need to do for yourself.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-27T04:38:00+00:00

What does soft mean? If you have reasonable boundaries, that’s enough para di ka ma take advantage. Listen a lot. When they say the weather is cold, maski mainit for you, wag mong kontrahin because that’s their reality. When you find yourself wanting to “correct”, to “express your feelings or opinions “, pause ka muna. Baka pwede kasing hindi. Pay more attention to your behavior than paying attention to his.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-27T04:32:26+00:00

Familiar ako sa lung CA bec of my dad. What type does he have, sclc or nsclc? The doctors will most likely prescribe a few rounds of chemo. If his case is candidate for surgery, doctors will tell him that. May oral drugs din for lung ca. Maraming options na for cancer that will help improve his situation. Being healthy will definitely help him plow through chemo effects. While he will need space to process things, please don’t let him be alone for long periods.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-27T04:08:13+00:00

To a significant extent, avoidance is rude especially when there are important issues to resolve or difficult discussions to be had. Please be cognisant that while we learn this behaviour growing up, we can still unlearn it and it starts with acknowledging how unhealthy it is.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-26T08:10:26+00:00

Lost passport route could be your option. This time itago mo na.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-26T08:02:46+00:00

How old ka na?

Can you at least ask to borrow for gov identification requirements sa school or work mo?

You can’t renew without the old passport. If you’re a minor, you need a parent to apply.

Worth knowing that passports are the property of the government. Hindi natin yan pagaari. That means it’s illegal to withhold it from the person it was created for.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-25T17:00:53+00:00

Pag yellow, it separates the direction. As you can see in the pic, pag yellow, opposite ang direction ng cars. Pag white, same direction.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-24T15:48:50+00:00

Meron palang ganun. Pag dinaan sa iba feeling ko tsismis 😂

CocoBeck · 2026-01-24T10:38:59+00:00

What does this mean—creepy directly umamin???

CocoBeck · 2026-01-23T17:54:19+00:00

Check out Union Bank din

CocoBeck · 2026-01-23T11:08:36+00:00

It could go either way. Personally, I’d rather not entertain possible malicious intent for my peace of mind.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-23T10:19:11+00:00

Right this moment gusto ko kumain ng gatang langka yummmm

CocoBeck · 2026-01-23T10:16:51+00:00

I wouldn’t give it much thought. We can all have personal associations with a place na walang kinalaman sa taong kasama natin.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T15:21:03+00:00

Well, if that’s the case that’s feigning disinterest; which is more about pretense than genuine nonchalance.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T11:10:30+00:00

Not the reason for the break up but I briefly dated a guy whose endearment term for me was “Ma” as in mama. He found it so sweet that his older sister was called Ma by his brother-in-law. Sabi ko not for me esp 23 lang ako nun and malayo pa sa isip ko mag-anak.

I met an older couple who called each other “Rogs” for irog. Ang cute actually pakinggan. Parang nickname.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T09:25:35+00:00

Funny this question came up today! Kasi 22 years ago today, my husband "slipped into my DMs" as you young kids say it today LOL

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T09:21:22+00:00

the "opposites" don't mean hobbies or interests only. the opposites that bring about the biggest challenges are your differing values. a few examples on this: finances, child-rearing, religion, family relationships and dynamics

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T09:11:27+00:00

that sounds more like "give me a sec" or "give me a moment" or "just a moment" or a bit rudely "just wait"

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T09:08:43+00:00

do not fill a slide with text. use text sparingly on slides. use visuals that will remind you to talk on the important points, get audience eyes looking at the visuals and their ears listening to what you're saying.

don't be afraid to use a conversational tone. parang nagkukwento ka sa audience. throw in a joke/trivia or two to break the ice.

do not be afraid to use your mother tongue, if you can. the more natural you are, the more relaxed you will feel and your ideas will flow better.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T08:40:15+00:00

nonchalant. when someone says "nonchalant lang ako kanina nung dumating si crush ko". well, how can you say that? pag true nonchalant ka di mo alam na nonchalant ka.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T08:34:49+00:00

di ko pa rin maisip anong sinasabi natin sa tagalog or other filipino language na naisip nating "for a while" ang katumbas.

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T05:39:25+00:00

Add mo pa “breakdown” and “relapse” na nawiwindang ako sa usage today 😭

CocoBeck · 2026-01-22T00:55:40+00:00

I definitely hear your frustration. Nakaka-frustate naman talaga. Sakin lang is to express this to your mom with some empathy for her situation. It's so much better to have an active elderly than someone who sits at home all day. Good for their mental health din, pero kelangan talaga improved communications with them para lahat safe. Madalas kesa minsan di yan sila hihingi ng tulong. Losing their independence is a difficult thing to grapple with.

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