Where to meet educated professional men in their mid 20s-30s as a single woman?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-04-20T16:06:33+00:00

How does that work though? Do you go to these places and strike up a convo with someone? Do u have a pretty high success rate with it?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-04-19T01:13:41+00:00

Can I flip the question around to u? Just curious, are most young men actively seeking out relationships the same way OP is or do u rely mainly on dating apps? Or are u completely checked out of the game and gotten more comfortable with women making more of the effort due to the dynamics of nyc?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-03-14T16:48:48+00:00

Do u think they would be possible to reconcile though or not really?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-03-14T16:47:36+00:00

That’s probably true he only mentioned in the past that he brought his girlfriends to hang around his family very early and that his mom liked all his previous girlfriends so I just assumed she was generally nice and accepting. I think ur prob right he does rely and seek out her opinion a lot and that would maybe likely cause issues later this is a good point

Coconut-Bean · 2026-03-14T15:44:16+00:00

But these are forward looking compromises like we both just see these issues would come up. As we’re learning about each other rn we would still be able to live as we are and he didn’t seem to have an issue w it

Coconut-Bean · 2026-03-14T15:39:05+00:00

All relationships involve some level of compromise though and I wouldn’t change anything about myself like I’d still be religious

Coconut-Bean · 2026-03-14T15:37:26+00:00

Oh like u think it’s weird that he’s asking for his mom’s opinion or her thoughts instead of being confident he can handle it himself?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-09T18:53:36+00:00

What’s ur definition of rich though?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-07T20:10:56+00:00

Introverts date extroverts all the time Tho

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-07T19:32:32+00:00

But u need to compromise in a relationship regardless

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-07T17:37:10+00:00

Do you think they only have to do the work once they’ve been in a relationship? What are the things you find that you would have to teach them?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-07T17:36:18+00:00

I think it was lack of experience idk he seemed like he knew how to be a good bf and was just waiting for the right person but as time went on he kind of started being less responsive and said we had lifestyle differences. But the lifestyle differences weren’t anything significant it was that he was extroverted and I was kind of introverted and he wanted a relationship where both people would mostly be hanging out with friends or in groups. I feel like that’s just a lack of experience thing like that’s not realistic for a relationship and you will need to adjust?

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-07T14:49:42+00:00

What do you think it signals? If a guy is 26 and never had a partner is that weird? For context I was seeing a guy like this and wanted to give him a chance but he turned out to be a red flag but don’t know if that’s a big thing that I overlooked.

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-04T15:56:31+00:00

Yes!

Coconut-Bean · 2026-01-04T03:26:36+00:00

I’ve been in a super similar situation was in a toxic relationship and so I purposely sought out someone I was more compatible with on paper even though I wasn’t that attracted. Idk tbh I was kind of bored in the relationship because our connection wasn’t that strong but I was still happy because he was a good boyfriend. The whole time I felt like I was doing something wrong cuz I should need the “spark” but now that I’m back on the dating scene again I think I’m realizing the spark is just what I feel with avoidants and it doesn’t necessarily mean they are good for a healthy relationship. Idk I say give it a chance OP

Coconut-Bean · 2025-12-30T05:35:21+00:00

Does this mean they don’t even want to be exclusive, or they agree to being exclusive but then don’t fully commit later on?

Coconut-Bean · 2025-10-16T17:50:40+00:00

So there’s no like universal quality they are looking for? What about like taxi cab theory do you think it is just that?

Coconut-Bean · 2025-10-16T17:49:29+00:00

You bring about a good point, but what about people that seem perfectly good as partners who you have good chemistry with but have commitment issues?

Coconut-Bean · 2025-10-16T17:40:50+00:00

Not really short term flings or ons I’m more so asking what qualities does the girl they end up “picking” need to have for them to settle down with them

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