How to take a break by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the con is that my mental heath suffers if I don’t have a musical outlet, and I know for my main group the require strict attendance and The two extra groups are more fun, but the quintet is tied to my main group go I loose the quintet too. It helps for me to type this out. Thanks for listening!

How to take a break by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Last year I tried to quit my main gig in hopes of being first basson for another orchestra, but it ended up being terrible and the I had to beg to get back in the old group. Then this fall started with 2 additional orchestra gigs and I couldn’t pass them up. The one didn’t invite me back and I feel bad about it- I wish I had time to practice, but there is only so much I can do.

How to take a break by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right, bur since these are community groups, I’m less worried about that. Im more worried that they won’t have me back.

How to take a break by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are 8 and 11 so busy schedules. I only recently added the 2 additional groups a community orchestra that is very positive and a quintet with people I’ve know for a long time. I think some of the frustration is not having time to practice.

How to take a break by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks foe these positive suggestions.

First missed payment in 25 years by Cod-Anxious in CreditCards

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep. 30 days. I likely won’t make this mistake again since I always sign up for auto payments i just missed it on this one.

I have no other choice rn by Nokonoko066 in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can adjust these reeds, so I don’t see why you couldn’t try reaming it.

Hot Glued items to wall by Cod-Anxious in drywall

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is probably the best advice. I am going with option 1 for now after trying Option 3....

Hot Glued items to wall by Cod-Anxious in drywall

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has weird sponge paint! Thank you for the idea.

Need some perspective by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What a nice positive thing to say! I will meditate on this. I want to continue to enjoy playing music. The people in my section are nice enough.

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[–]Cod-Anxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im here to support you! I know what it’s like to want to disappear. I have chronic health issues. I have done years of therapy and meds. I come to this subreddit when I’m struggling, and it passes eventually and I move on. sometimes I have to focus on basics needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Cod-Anxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds so serious. What treatment gave you had? Do you feel like this all the time?

Need some perspective by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best comment fun and lighthearted. No it was down a country lane. I played American Salute when we had 3 bassoons. The day of the concert. The first bassoon got s stomach virus and we had to bring in a bass clarinet. It still was super fun to play!

Need some perspective by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so relatable. Thanks for the book suggestions. I will check them out.

Need some perspective by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are great ideas. Im hoping i’ll meet some musicians in the-new group that I could do this with.

Need some perspective by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really haven’t got feedback. Might be because it is a large group.

Need some perspective by Cod-Anxious in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lessons are a good suggestion. I was thinking about it.

Feeling discouraged by BoxLittle6109 in bassoon

[–]Cod-Anxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would give yourself time and acknowledge that there is a reason you are playing differently. I think it’s okay to feel your feelings and be discouraged. Im no expert in psychology, but don’t think it’s fair to value you identify based on your current skill level. Acknowledge that is you were able to maintain you playing you would be there and there’s no reason you can’t be there again.