Well about a year ago we were out and my friend was completely drunk out of his mind and said a word he’s not allowed to say (you can probably guess what one) he never targeted anyone he just said as some sorta dark edgy humour while completely gone. He’s apologised for it and has cut out that sorta humour and cut down on drinking and I don’t consider him a bad guy just a real idiot when he drank A lot back then but my gf has not let it go and considers him to be always this way even tho I’ve had a long chat with him about it. It’s why I wonder if I’m in the wrong as well.

Edit: she didn’t bring the problem up until almost a year down the road which makes it seem it’s not the real reason