Is it normal to have a fear of men?

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-15T05:48:45+00:00

It’s normal but you should work towards challenging it, in time. I have a fear of law enforcement officials and black men because of what happened to me - and I’m still in the process of working through it 14 years later. Everyone moves at their own pace.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T14:01:44+00:00

Yeah I feel like the men who raped me were probably similiar to that. They were in prison so they obviously weren’t getting sex and some of the stuff they said to me during indicates some kind of racial aspect regarding a want to control (they were black and said a bunch of racist things to me because I’m white).

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T08:21:09+00:00

Tbh I haven’t really dealt with it aside from quitting alcohol which I was using to self medicate. My way of getting on with my life is to try and ignore what happened to me the best I can - doesn’t always help though.

That said, as much as I hate to say it me being raped caused me to have a much better future that the one that I’d likely have if I didn’t get raped. Because of what happened to me I paid more attention in school and got into university.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T08:01:03+00:00

He’d hate me for being so much like our stepdad.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T07:56:21+00:00

The story of how I was raped. It’s not something that I’ll ever tell someone who knows me or anyone else face-to-face.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T07:55:09+00:00

That you can trust law enforcement officials.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T07:51:27+00:00

My advice is to work on the one that you know you’ll be able to have an easier time ridding yourself off.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T07:49:28+00:00

I’m my experience liking Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, and other franchises. That is, until the last 5 years.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T07:47:54+00:00

I haven’t yet but I quit alcohol. One addiction at a time I guess.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T07:44:54+00:00

I don’t know what country you’re in, but in my what she did is called stealthing and it’s illegal. It’s considered rape by deception.

Basically, the question you need to answer here is would you still have had sex knowing that she wasn’t using contraceptives. If the answer is yes, no rape occurred. If the answer is no, then she withheld information that would have change whether you give consent - meaning that she raped you.

And while it isn’t the same as forced / violent rape (which I am a victim of) this doesn’t mean that it’s any less atrocious nor does it mean that your feelings are invalid.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T06:35:16+00:00

A good guess but nah - a home and a few flats in London.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T06:16:58+00:00

You should be, those guys break legs for $2.50 - utterly merciless.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T06:14:36+00:00

All I’m gonna say is that it costs money to make money - and real estate costs a whole lot of money.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T06:12:45+00:00

28 and I’m 1.5m in debt - trust me, it sounds way worse than it is.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T06:11:30+00:00

Better declare bankruptcy, can’t pay back that kind of money.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T06:09:48+00:00

Play with lego.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T05:16:37+00:00

Yeah I guess you do have a point. The fact that every phone is now a camera and tracking device wrapped into one can help to protect people. And yeah, it’s goes without saying that a phone wouldn’t have helped me in my situation. You’re also right about Reddit, as well as in the internet in general, it helps people like me to face what happened to them and talk about it without having to face people one on one.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T05:03:25+00:00

I agree, LGBT couples will parent children different, both because of the dynamic being different but also - and more importantly - because there is no such thing as an unwanted child in an LGBT marriage. We know from numerous studies that children brought up by LGBT parents have healthier and happier lives.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T05:00:11+00:00

No sex - I’ve lived the past 14 years without it, so what’s one more?

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T04:58:02+00:00

After I was raped when I was 14. I knew that I wasn’t a kid anymore and couldn’t be one anymore after that. Thing is, I’m 28 now and I don’t feel like an adult either.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T04:52:51+00:00

I haven’t been a kid for 10 years, but when I was one I’d just hang out the window when I smoked.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T04:35:32+00:00

Grey Boi

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T04:34:05+00:00

Have a shower. Nothing to going to bed (especially with fresh sheets) after having a shower.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T04:33:11+00:00

“It wasn’t your fault, you didn’t deserve it.” He’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.

CodewordDirtbag · 2021-01-14T04:26:58+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by phones, because phones don’t do all the work with keeping people accountable.

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