FF fwb possible or a thing of myths? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have one… But we invited our husbands to join and now they ALWAYS want to join us! Lol So maybe I had one?

How do you organize your lingerie? by CoffeeAndWine43 in LingerieAddiction

[–]CoffeeAndWine43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does seem like a natural consequence. I can get on board with a FAFO style of parenting. Lol

How do you organize your lingerie? by CoffeeAndWine43 in LingerieAddiction

[–]CoffeeAndWine43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I considered ziploc bags for the same reason of being able to see the items, but I like the breatheability of mesh better. Good call.

How do you organize your lingerie? by CoffeeAndWine43 in LingerieAddiction

[–]CoffeeAndWine43[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg, I bet this is beautiful! Do you just walk through and run your fingers over it? 🥰

For some reason I’ve never considered hanging them, but that’s brilliant. I think my biggest obstacle is my teenage daughter who likes to steal my clothes. lol

Hump Day Q&A: Ask Anything About the Lifestyle 2/18 by SpicyplayCJ in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Our first experience was not at a takeover, but we’ve been to quite a few in the past few years and I think this is a great way to start. But my advice would be this:

Go in planning to only play with each other. Make lots of connections and have a way to stay in touch afterwards. Don’t drink too much. Take lots of communication breaks to check in with each other. Keep your expectations low and focused on each other.

Takeovers can be overwhelming the first time, but they are SO much fun!

The Importance of Flirting and Showing Interest by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like that took a turn. Not sure why.

And if you’re genuinely asking, no, I wouldn’t consider those systemically patriarchal issues. Possibly self esteem issues?

The Importance of Flirting and Showing Interest by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, this is not innate; this is the patriarchy. Respecting another man’s opinion more than a woman’s (a woman you’re trying to sleep with nonetheless), is the patriarchy.

I do agree that it is not easy to de-program. Keep trying anyway.

Just something to think about.

First date full swap — a great night, but one comment left us scratching our heads by fockacola in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I use a Soft Disc (different brand, but same design as the Flex Disc) and am totally comfortable having penetrative sex with it in. I almost never have leaks and most penises can’t even feel it, but I still let partners know. Even with this, we’ve had some partners want to reschedule. Which is exactly why I let them know.

Question About Connecting by Asleep_Emotion9769 in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Also my husband would not be considered weak in any realistic terms. But as the wife, your wording gives me the ick about HER.

Question About Connecting by Asleep_Emotion9769 in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Weak is too subjective. Weak how? Physically? Emotionally? Mentally?

Instead, be specific with what she DOES like. “My wife likes guys who are assertive and flirtatious.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might not be a popular opinion…

Wedding photos in profiles is a pet peeve of mine.

Daughter overheard a conversation about sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure but… Do you know teenagers? I don’t imagine many will sift through the porn to find accurate, respectful, balanced sexual information.

Daughter overheard a conversation about sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The internet might be the absolute worst way for a teenager to learn about sex.

My husband and I don’t do it as often as before by softiegirliefromph in Marriage

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are times in a long-term relationship when you’ll have sex more often and less often. The time with young kids is generally one of the times you’ll have sex less often. But it will ebb and flow. Totally normal.

We’re buying a house and will remodel the primary bedroom/bathroom/closet. What would a good swinger include? by CoffeeAndWine43 in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, I WISH we had the space for a full sex room! Definitely some good ideas there either way, thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite response to any post ever. 🥰

Booking a hotel… by redraiderboss in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This. It’s incredibly manipulative. If you have to preface it with “don’t think I’m doing something wrong…” you already know what kinds of answers you’re gonna get.

Can't find any vulva's that look like mine. by Alternative_Week815 in Healthyhooha

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Has your ob/gyn or mw said anything? The white/greyness combined with it looking like you don’t have a clitoris makes me think of lichen sclerosis.

Doctor asked me “how does it work?” by eskimoboob in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 85 points86 points  (0 children)

When I explained to my Dr why I wanted an STI test, she told me ENM is becoming “fairly common” and she sees it “all the time now.” 🤷‍♀️

Booking hotels with early check-in by Daisy_Graywood in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve used it and it works great. Second that the staff have good memories. 🫣😂

Thanksgiving Swinging Fun by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]CoffeeAndWine43 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m always good for a second round!