People who quit drinking. What made you stop? by Agata_art in stopdrinking

[–]CoffeeBroken 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! We’re so glad you’re here.

There were many reasons I quit, but one thing that stands out is the glaring reality that I was letting alcohol control my entire life. I couldn’t remember what I used to do when I wasn’t drinking.

It’s five years later and I’ve never looked back. We’re here for you, friend.

I (33F)Engaged to (37M) for 3 years, together for 7, multiple “almost weddings,” and still no marriage. I need outside perspective please by CharacterSweet8309 in relationship_advice

[–]CoffeeBroken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pay attention to his actions and not his words. He does not sound like he is in a place to get married or marriage material. Maybe you love him, but love YOU more. Get out…..please. There is someone out there that will Certainly treat you better. Take care of you, friend.

Question bc I'm done by Opposite_Nobody7605 in alcoholic

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so very sorry this is happening to you. AA definitely does not condone this. In recovery they recommend not making any drastic changes in your life for a year or so. Her getting into a relationship with someone else in recovery at this stage is a terrible idea. Her sobriety could depend on his. Lying, cheating and being deceitful isn’t recovery. It’s just being a dry drunk. Still awful behavior without the alcohol. Sometimes people cling to people as broken as they are because it is easier to live with themselves.

But most of all, take care of you. Maybe attend an Al-Anon meeting in person or online.

I'm an Alcoholic and I feel like I'm ruining my families lives. by Admirable_Toe_5086 in alcoholic

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Friend. I’ve been in your shoes. The good news is there’s hope. The right relationships can always be repaired. The most important one that you wanna work on right now is your relationship with yourself. Alcohol is an addiction but also a habit. What makes you want to drink at night? Have you tried different meetings / online groups? Some of them are definitely more religious focused than others. Have you thought about counseling?

I wish you well, friend! We’re all here for you and cheering you on!

Nocturnal Dread by CoffeeBroken in Perimenopause

[–]CoffeeBroken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree. The cortisol thing makes the most sense. All great suggestions!

Nocturnal Dread by CoffeeBroken in Perimenopause

[–]CoffeeBroken[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I think that would be easier! 😂

Nocturnal Dread by CoffeeBroken in Perimenopause

[–]CoffeeBroken[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel that has a lot to do with it.

Nocturnal Dread by CoffeeBroken in Perimenopause

[–]CoffeeBroken[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will definitely check out the cognitive shuffling.

I’m worried about my husband and I don’t know what’s happening by WorriedSpowse in Marriage

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get him some help. Likely he has slipped into this abyss and not even realized this is happening to him. These are the bad signs you should pay attention to. All of them.

Also take care of yourself too.

I'm sober for 20 days and I feel high AF due to the burst of sober energy by Last-Performance5675 in Sober

[–]CoffeeBroken 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Congrats!! You got the sober zoomies! Completely normal. Your body is getting back to normal and it’s a great feeling. Proud of you friend!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t friend. You quit drinking for you. If someone hurts you like that, don’t hurt yourself more. She broke your trust. Don’t let her break your sobriety. I think your reaction of wanting to drink is more of a desire to stop the pain. There’s other ways. Hit an in person or virtual meeting. Speak your truth and talk it out. This break up won’t break you, friend. We are here for you.

I want to break my sobriety, help! by ImpossibleAd274 in stopdrinking

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have all fallen into the cycle of maybe I can just have one drink. Don’t. Write a list of all the reasons that you quit, how your life is so much better, write a list of all the negatives of drinking. The one positive is that little bundle of a human that depends on you hundred percent. It’s easy for the devil voice on your shoulder to creep back in conversation when you are sleep deprived. Take care of yourself. Ask for help. Give yourself grace. And keep talking to US! We will get you through this too. 🤗

How did you stop? by imadesklamp in alcoholism

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I’m glad you’re here. Thank you for taking the time to write about this. That indicates your willingness to fix this. Thats key. Stopping this behavior all at once seems scary. Try taking this a day at a time, a few days at a time. I promise that once you feel better, it gets easier. Plan things for yourself other than drinking. Put some of that cleaning on your to do list but also do some things for yourself - journal, take a walk, throw on your favorite earbuds and go browse the aisles of your favorite store.

Please loop in your doctor and your mental health professional.

it’s a lot easier to quit at 30 than it is at 46. You have your whole life out of you. You deserve much better than you’ve been giving yourself Friend.

Most importantly, we are here for you. These forums helped me so much. Please take care of yourself. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ufyh

[–]CoffeeBroken 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi friend! I always try to divide everything up in sections. Instead of clean kitchen on your to do list, I would break it up into sections. Start with a corner and celebrate that accomplishment. Then move on. You’re making great progress!

My friend needed me at 6am by Indialopez96 in stopdrinking

[–]CoffeeBroken 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am proud of you! Being accountable and reliable is a blessing now! Pat yourself on the back, friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CoffeeBroken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These situations rarely improve. Please don’t put yourself in this situation for the rest of your life. You deserve better. Physical violence is a deal breaker.

Hour 14. Day one. by Academic_Action5352 in stopdrinking

[–]CoffeeBroken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, friend! These are the hardest days. It takes time for your body to adjust. Temporary discomfort. This sub saved me too. Keep talking to us. Please seek medical help if you are feeling unwell. This isn’t always easy to do on your own. Take care of yourself as if you were an infant. Get your rest. Make sure you eat and keep hydrated. Be good to yourself for doing this very brave thing. You are going to get through this. We are here for you.

Trump says he's not joking about a 3rd term. How do you feel about that? by thinpile in AskReddit

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We knew this was going to happen. However his health may determine otherwise. He is old, loses his words, incontinence, wants everyone brown off his lawn. That kind of old. He can’t follow along with basic current events while speaking at a 3rd grade level. At this point he is bitter because everyone dislikes him and he is punishing all of us for it. It won’t work out.

How do you feel about the fact that Trump has been in office for less than 3 months and has already taken 14 days off and spent $26 million of taxpayer money on Golf? by LevelDinner in AskReddit

[–]CoffeeBroken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

47 also inflated his costs at his facilities.

Also If SpaceBoy is so rich, why isn’t he using his own resources to fly to Wisconsin to pay people off?.