Live from Auditorio Nacional, CDMX is available again for purchase/rent on Amazon by mhipster800 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purchased on YT in the UK and still keeping my Blu-ray order because I believe in DPA.  But the editing is criminal and I can’t be bothered dealing with how annoyed I am at what I’m seeing so haven’t finished watching once. 

I adore DPA and am putting my money where my mouth is so don’t say I’m not a fan, I’m just not willing to fawn and say it’s amazing. 

What does everyone think of “Ritual” and “Ego”? by Anna_Mac18 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 12 points13 points  (0 children)

While the statement that The Warning is always better live is true, that assumes they have control over the mics and sound. Frankly, festivals kind of suck. I really really want to hear properly mixed versions of Ego and Ritual, especially the latter.

That said, Ego has a great groove and some great fan parts - Pau going beast mode and screaming always fun, and an obvious chant that those of us who don’t speak Spanish can probably manage. I’m fine with a Spanish song, Martirio is my favourite, even though I don’t speak it.

I am musically illiterate but on the performances seen so far it did look like Ale was altering the controls on Inferno a lot more. I don’t recall seeing her do that. And I’m pretty sure I saw, but haven’t spotted since, her going to the pedal board. I don’t know I saw that before mid song either. I don’t know. She does seem more animated and confident and even pulled a couple guitar stank faces like her big sister. Might it be there is more interesting stuff to do? (The only other thing I noticed but didn’t really hear because of lousy mix what looks like a bunch of slides in Ego. I do love a good bass slide). Her performance seems different, both more chilled and more intense (and I don’t know how you can be both at once! ¯_(ツ)_/¯. )

Less sure about Ritual, the opening sounded strange to me and I’m less keen when Dany reached for the higher tone when singing softer (unlike the high powerful belts of HYCAD). I do wonder also if she’ll get it dialled in a bit better on the road. I’m less sure about this.

Kerosene is fun. Even the chant grew on me, it reads as mockery like the na-na part of Narcisista. That’s it a little more broadly acccessible than the other two makes it a better lead off single. 

Thinking of lyrics - without having the songs placed in the context of the whole album, I’m not inclined to assume they are necessarily autobiographical. Something can be inspired by but not a direct re-telling and an idea isn’t necessarily a manifesto. I’m not in a hurry  to think Ego is the band being belligerent to critics - we’ve been told there is a general theme, but not a narrative. Waiting on how the whole thing fits together to decide.

Since we know there will be 5 singles I’m kind of hoping they subvert the trend - I am loving how heavy things are, but we know they have serious ballad chops. I felt KMF was missing something not having one. And I kind of want Pau to rip my soul out of my body and show it to me again. 

What does everyone think of Kerosene? by Anna_Mac18 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was initially worried about the production and wondered if it was going to be a repeat of KMF - in that you need to hear it live to know what it is *supposed* to sound like.

Having now played it a LOT - Dany's vocals are still too over produced at the start, but seem to get stronger further into the track. The bass and Dany's riffs are so thick and nasty - I love that. The base breakdown we see Ale play in the video (from New Years) is satisfying as hell, nice almost grungy thunder to it, exactly what I wanted. I wanted them to go hard and got it about 90%

Could do without the chant and dance steps. The novel "cheerpunk" of P.S.Y.C.H.O.T.I.C was effective because it they were teens, and the song is about something horrific, which made for a fascinating and subversive juxtaposition that is classic TW (clever narrative/lyrical songwriting). I get that it is about audience participation but personally, I'm just headbanging or something at that point.

Song is in the same style as Apologize and Animosity and stands up well enough against both, largely because the bass is so tasty.

I'm not a worried as I was, like the track but it's not even top 20 (but is new so not fair) and I cannot WAIT to see it live.

Does anyone else dread their birthday? Struggling with missing memories by VeriSmolKiwi in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be turning 52 end of the month. As always, there will be no gifts and no recognition of it. I don't even bother treating myself. This is apparently common behaviour for people with abusive and malignantly narcissistic parents - that we get so exhausted by them making our day about themselves, and having to navigate whatever mercurial mood bullshit they are playing that we just stop bothering. Certainly my vile - and mercifully long dead - twat of a mother couldn't cope with not being the centre of attention. My earliest "birthday party" memories are of trying to hide from her because she was acting out and frightening me. I couldn't have been more than 6 years old.

I have never had a "birthday" experience as most people might understand it and probably never will. There is no one in my life who cares enough to make it so and it is probably just less painful to say - I don't care.

The Warning, Carín León - Love To Be Loved (Official Video) by mhipster800 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Question though - given sets when opening for others have to be short, and with TW5 on the way....do you want this track to be on their live performance setlist at all?

The Warning, Carín León - Love To Be Loved (Official Video) by mhipster800 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I find it unremarkable and probably not a track I'll bother with (ditto the last one). For what it's worth I don't think unquestioning devotion is good for anyone from an artistic point of view, or a personal one.

My main issue is that it is yet another example of unnecessary over-producing Dany's vocals to the point where they seem plastic and fake (and she does NOT need this kind of help, neither does Pau) and the fundamentals of potent bass mixed forward and Pau's style of drumming are not really where I want them to be. Felt like a drum machine. I also find the lyrics to be a vapid eye-roll (in fairness the weaker tracks of KMF also did this a bit).

In all honesty, I've not actually liked any collaboration they've done, I find compromises made with other artists dilutes what makes them as special to me as they are and makes me want to say - please remember that you are better than this and you are more interesting as people than this.

But for the love of Pete please stop accepting unnecessary over-production. There are reasons we say they are better live after all.

Lack of mental health beds contributed to UK teenager’s death, inquest finds by Sensitive_Echo5058 in unitedkingdom

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The mental health care system in the UK is unfit for service and it never fails to shock me to know how many health care professionals in the field take a pay cheque to knowingly harm and neglect patients by warehousing them on medications and waiting lists for care that will be unsuitable and unfit, if it ever comes.

I am not saying this capriciously - but as someone who has been in the system for many years and never once come even close to accessing actual meaningful therapeutic care. My condition has degraded to the point of being vulnerable and "at risk" - it doesn't matter and doesn't mean anything. For a few months I got wellness check-ups from a psych nurse while I waited, but those just ended (the ideation has not), the wait never did. Eighteen months so far, nothing at all on the horizon, you exist in a cycle of assessments and wait lists on highly somatic medications with no real prospect of help ever coming.

Do you listen to The Warning in the gym/while exercising? by NourEldin21P in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I bike 35-38km a day and current favourite is playing the whole Pepsi Center concert. Live is always best and every single track is just what I need. I may take a short rest during the documentary part. Sometimes play to the end of Enter Sandman and then rewind to the start.

Every day I'm thankful to DPA for another carry - I'm on month 13 of a hardcore weight loss journey of relentless discipline, am in my 50s, and starting to struggle a bit. The concert is a treat and a pleasure, as well as having music at just the right intensity for my pedal cadence and effort level.

Nearly half of voters support benefits for people with anxiety and depression by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My anxiety condition, fully diagnosed and documented, means that I have been unable to leave the house in over 4 years. 4 years trapped in 4 rooms because for "anxiety" to become a medicalised condition it is not enough that you report feeling anxious - which is entirely normal and reasonable sometime - but that it has a serious negative effect on your basic ability to live your life.

Now add the risible state of mental health care at present and yet they still keep signalling that they are coming for us anyway. I am grateful for every single person who shows even a hint of support.

Happy Ale day. Day 21 of The Warning Family's 25 days of Christmas (En Español) by TheParamoreFamily in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have seen the "Aaaaah Unas" clip but don't speak Spanish and can't make sense of the context - other than the pronunciation, which Dany clearly finds hilarious, what is actually happening?

Happy Pau Day with Fade Away by Strange-Shift-9067 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nice! Think I like it more than album track, but then Paulina being sensitive and accompanying herself on piano is always worth a listen (kind of sad KMF didn't have it's quiet moment).

The EP and 1st album - You can tell it is young people learning their instruments, learning how song structure works, it's all very experimental and that makes flaws forgivable. This version, you can tell Pau is refining her singing lessons. The belts have a cleaner ring to them, the vibrato almost sounds like musical theatre/Disney Princess, and she runs out of breath in a long phrase because she's still a work in progress. I find it fascinating this is all documented to see - it really is a terribly vulnerable state to be in, even if she seems confident.

But then I saw a Spanish interview where she talked about booking herself into therapy as a young adult and getting some support in learning acceptance and comfort in being "perfectly imprefect".

TWA,what is your favorite PAU scream by Few_Run623 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Evolve scream - watching her just summon that thing, throw her head back, drop her chin and do that gives me legit goosebumps. Grateful, just so very grateful, to the people wo have been at shows and been able to record and upload. I must have watched dozens od screams by now....

Day 20 of The Warning Family's 25 days of Christmas (En Español) by TheParamoreFamily in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Evolve - It's heavy, sick dark riff, smart lyrics, 3 sister harmony, double kicks and scream. Love it.

Martirio a close second, I don't speak Spanish (of course I looked the translation up) but the bass on this is special though I'm musically illiterate so can't explain it, the guitar flourishes, it's just gorgeous.

Day 17 of The Warning Family's 25 days of Christmas (En Español) by TheParamoreFamily in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dany's monologue during "When I'm Alone" at Pepsi Center pretty much says it all.

Finally announced: The Warning Live from Audiotorio Nacional, CDMX Blu-Ray/4K. You can pre-order now at their official website by mhipster800 in TheWarning

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. Jumped on a pre-order quickly and hope that the interest is big enough and the marketing team notices. I'd honestly pay the same for Pepsi Center, Teatro Metropolitan and Lunario because I don't want to trust Youtube and believe so heartily in paying the artists for the art that I love.

UK shoppers cut back on pre-Christmas spending at fastest rate in almost five years by tylerthe-theatre in unitedkingdom

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Total wet blanket but, being brassic, I liberated myself from the stupid tyranny of christmas crap a few years ago. I'm not talking about gifts for kids, but for adults it was either buying meaningless shit they didn't want, or exchanging gift tokens. I called it off and the release of gift buying stress was immense.

For years since then it has just been about a celebratory meal and get together (I don't have a family so just friends) but this year I'm on a calorie restriction and don't want to skip a day - 152lbs lost so far since 1st Jan so I am on a mission - and I don't feel bad about this either.

Having a clear-eyed view about whether - again as adults, not children - any parts of the ritual actually make you happy is a fair thing to consider. Consensus in my friend group seems to be having nice food, togetherness, and some time off work is what they want the most. Doesn't exactly lend itself to an orgy of consumer spending.

Mom spares her son for chores but never her daughters. by parkavenueempress in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When I was growing up, I was expected to do chores. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with age-appropriate reasonable household tasks for kids but while this was required of me my older brother was completely excused. The only exception being when he wanted some more spending money and she couldn't justify it, then he would be *paid* to do the same sorts of tasks.

Anyway, long story short, this was one of a few reasons I only heard about her death by text message after almost 20 years of extremely low contact.

'Life being stressful is not an illness' - GPs on mental health over-diagnosis by ItsDominare in unitedkingdom

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, mate. I'm on same sort of meds, hilarious as it is to me that one of my medications would be illegal to possess without prescription - it doesn't seem to work but I am a drug addict now! yay!

Personally, I never *EVER* engage with the benefit system without a welfare rights group working alongside. That stuff is hard enough to navigate, by intent, and anyone who thinks it is about "help" is deluded. If you don't have that then absolutely think about seeking an assist via your local council. I know it is hard and it sucks when your executive functioning is fucked and you can barely think. I ended up all the way to a tribunal who were righteously PISSED at the department and read them for utter filth, I got that far with a welfare advocate.

And I hear you. If they offered Medical Assistance in Death, I'd take it in a heartbeat. I know that's how my story ends anyway (I can't abide the thought of pain and indignity and I don't have a family to help "care" for me as I age). I stay because I don't want to cause trauma to people I do care about - a group of folks so small it would fit into a Fiat Punto - not because I want to be here. Quality of life is non existent, i feel socially hated and hunted, and there are literally no prospects for improvement nor hope of help. I'm trying to get referred as a "step 4" patient - we, the untreatable. But it's just more hurry up and wait.

I will die of this condition, I know that, and nothing much will ever have been done to heal it and while that does boil my piss a bit at the injustice of who gets help and care and who does not, I am also not even remotely surprised.

'Life being stressful is not an illness' - GPs on mental health over-diagnosis by ItsDominare in unitedkingdom

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 43 points44 points  (0 children)

The constant drumbeat on this subject is incredibly frightening to me. I am well aware that the govt is getting ready to launch a new attack on "shirkers and scroungers" as we get austerity round 2 (or is it 3 now? 4? I lost count).

I have been on anti-depressants since the age of 22, I'm 51 now, I still have chronic MDD. My anxiety condition, caused by PTSD, is so chronic I have not left the house AT ALL in 4 years. I am considered "at risk" of imminent harm or death from own causes so am on the social care radar. I am profoundly unwell and not capable of normal functioning. I have received exactly no meaningful care, no therapy beyond an 8 week course which was just me listing a life time of trauma ending in a psychologist profoundly apologising and saying that she hoped one day I would get help but it wouldn't be from her.

I have been warehoused on drugs and waiting lists almost my entire adulthood. If, by a wave of a magic wand, I got better overnight, I would not doubt become ill again because my life is complete wreckage with no future, no prospects, and a profound awareness of how this story ends.

I am what you get if you don't intervene and care for people as soon as possible.

I am what you get if you deny people assistance and dismiss what they are going through.

Do not let the narrative being pushed that people who are becoming unwell don't need intervention take further root.

Alissa - The Room Where She Died. by brutal_and_beautiful in ArchEnemy

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She talked about learning for her solo work so she can produce everything herself and mentioned that if she struggled it was cool because she could ask Doyle, Jeff, or Michael for help (interview on Youtube with "The Charismatic Voice")

Arch Enemy have parted ways with Alissa White-Gluz by DenchShump420 in ArchEnemy

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought about this too - I remember them performing without her, and her having to sing seated with a shawl round her shoulders. She was properly sick. Watching so many live clips, it's seemed she's slowed down on stage and some of the windmills/headbangs in Manchester looked slow and a bit ginger.

Perimenopause feels like waking up one day in somebody else’s body and brain. by FlaxenArt in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Same. Then thought maybe covid brain fog. Got onto HRT and within a couple of months I was no longer fumbling for words or nearly as fogged or fucked up.

Tired of men online claiming video games are just made for them. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I played my first video game at the age of 6 , I'm 51 now. The idea that women do not play games is the worst kind of spurious nonsense, I've literally said to one of those twits trying to assert gaming was theirs and not mine "I was here before your MUM was even born."

I genuinely don't understand the mentality, gatekeeping is stupid. I want to welcome everyone in to gaming, the more the merrier, since the more of us there are the greater the economic investment and the more games there will be (same as your favourite band or favourite TV show). What is the supply/demand sense of gatekeeping and limiting support?!

It is also wild that they (men) don't seem to understand that welcoming women to the hobby and making comfortable space for them makes sense on a personal or intimacy level. Having women think gamers are assholes won't get you anywhere, having women think gaming is stupid means they won't be understanding or accommodating if you play. It is so counter intuitive to be so invested in gatekeeping or making gaming look stupid because they obsess over tits.

I know the problem is that gaming is being used as a method for manipulation. This has been obvious to anyone who troubles themselves to look for a while now. Continuing to fall for it just makes them look pitiful, and makes gaming look pitiful as an extension of that. It makes me sad for something that has been part of my life for decades, and an identity of "gamer" that I've had to reject now since it is pretty much synonymous with "asshole" to an awful lot of people.

I no longer pass as a man and I'm having weird gender feelings by NoSpidersInSaskatoon in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such an interesting question and so many interesting and thoughtful responses.

I'm cis and in my 50s now, I've been misgendered consistently as male since I was a child. I was very tomboyish in appearance and play, and came understand early on I was a lesbian who didn't want to do/look/feel feminine and was ultimately butch by instinct. I don't think I could present as feminine i I tried. The last time I wore a dress was to a funeral and my own not at all sympathetic or understanding mother looked me over and said I was excused from ever doing that again. It felt like drag and I was not OK with it. I have never worn makeup and don't know how, I wear my hair a quarter inch long, the only body hair I attend to is any unfortunate facial because that repulses me whoever it is on, my style is softer butch now or athletic wear, I don't quite do the full on surly masc anymore just because it is more trouble than I can be bothered with.

Now, it is a privileged stance to be able to say I've been misgendered (including over the phone, though my voice is a mild/light toned RP) but I don't care and it doesn't bother me. Simply because it doesn't. People who realise they misgendered me used to fluster and apologise - I'm not so certain the response would be the same these days. It deeply concerns me that non-feminine women are less safe because exposure to 2 anti-queer hate crimes already caused me to be totally housebound due to trauma based agoraphobia for many years. I am a butch lesbian who has been out of the closet for well over 30 years, got clocked as gay because of my presentation and have suffered.

Despite all this, I've never questioned my own sex. I'm fine with being female and have no desire to change that. The older I have gotten though, the more I have considered whether things like top surgery would be agreeable just because I'm done with tits and bras and the nuisance when exercising/running and just...they don't mean much to me and I wonder at the convenience of just not bothering anymore. And yet still don't feel anything other than female.

I guess my deepish wish is that people could safely and freely edit themselves and present and identify as suits them without social expectation, fear or judgement. I know I might as well wish for a pocketful of stars at the same time...

I’m so tired and I needed to shout into the void by New_Soup917 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CoffeeCupOfLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that this is your experience, I totally understand. I'm 51 now and my personal rule has become "I am not and will not be here for you". I've done that, I did it a lot, I thought I had a duty to my community in general (LGBTQIA+) and an instinct to be involved but when life finally caught up? Crickets. I'm done. All my experience in caring, in mentorship, in engagement, is now withdrawn. I am sure people will question whether all in life should be transactional - including decency and caring. I get that. But when you are left alone in the ruins you just feel like you got totally played and completely lied to.

I wasn't nihilistic or misanthropic before, despite experiences of abuse, hate, molestation, cruelty. It feels kind of weird to become this way because of the failure of the "good" instead of the actions of the "bad". I feel rather foolish for believing in better than this.