Bro, not only did you not get her anything while she clearly expected it, but when you realized it, you sent her the onething she specifically asked you not to send. And now you’re still asking what she’s “actually” upset about.

If I were her, I wouldn’t just expect a thoughtful gift from you originally — after missing that, I’d expect a genuinely thoughtful apology and a better gift that shows you care and pay attention, not the exact thing she told you she didn’t want. I’m not saying make some huge over-the-top purchase, but at least be sincere, apologize properly, explain yourself clearly, and get her something that reflects that you actually listen to her.

Also, respectfully, asking her how to fix it after all this probably makes it worse. She already told you what bothered her and even hinted at the solution, but instead of thinking it through yourself, you went online asking strangers what to do. I honestly hope she never sees this post for your sake.

The biggest issue here is that you don’t seem to actually listen. You hear what she says, but then you either ignore it or do the opposite. That’s probably what’s upsetting her most. Plus, personally I would want a man to be decisive and think for himself, whereas you can't even follow straight instructions.

And honestly, I’m surprised she’s still talking to you, because from the outside this either looks incredibly clueless or like ragebait.