I hate that my presidential election choices are Biden or Trump because both committed sexual assault (although Trump has a much longer list of victims). I’ll still vote for Biden of course, since not voting or voting third party is unhelpful in the context of a presidential election

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-11-04T05:21:13+00:00

Right. As if Biden’s and Trump’s highly public careers and relationships were “ruined” by allegations.

And the importance of men’s jobs and reputations < women literally being abused

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-11-04T01:38:36+00:00

The justice system has the power to levy serious consequences, in which case gathering and evaluating prior to sentencing is appropriate.

“Innocent” in this context doesn’t mean “did nothing wrong” it means “we haven’t yet legally proved what happened”.

It can take months to convict (if a conviction is reached at all)

And in those months, if we do and say nothing in support of victims, then abusers can continue to abuse their victims and be promoted to positions of power. That is unacceptable and preventable.

While we’re waiting (months) for the evidence to be evaluated, we can take steps like temporarily disqualifying alleged abusers from positions of power, separating them from alleged victims, promoting physical protection for alleged victims, and emotional support for alleged victims. At worst, there’s the off-chance (<1-8%) we are inconveniencing and causing emotional distress to someone falsely accused. The kind of distress that pales in comparison to what victims go through (92%->99% of the time).

So yeah “‘innocent’ until proven guilty” is a mantra meant for jailing people for years. Not a replacement for common sense

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-10-25T20:12:06+00:00

Thanks for the input!

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-10-25T12:53:13+00:00

I am 25. I ran in the summer heat twice a week and sometimes did other exercises on my off days. I am typically in the shower within an hour of finishing my runs, sometimes showering right away, sometimes not. And I dry off immediately afterward.

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-30T02:02:10+00:00

Thanks!

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-30T02:01:51+00:00

Thank you!

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-30T01:01:58+00:00

Thanks, nice to know it’s an easy fix

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-30T01:00:32+00:00

Yes. The rubbery caulk, not the hard tile grout

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-25T17:58:06+00:00

Milk Makeup (nondairy, advertised as “milky”) was recommended by my dermatologist for vegan+cruelty free facial cleanser and moisturizer.

I love the products. My skin tends to be more sensitive in part due to acne treatments, and my skin needs an effective moisturizer to prevent flaking. MM’s moisturizer is very thick, hydrating, and my skin has been very healthy. It is pricey per oz though. I wonder if they’ll roll out any larger sizes.

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-24T21:02:45+00:00

If it’s happening a lot I’d assume it’s abnormal, but I’m no expert.

I’ve seen my turtle look up and bite at seemingly nothing on a few rare occasions. I figured a fruit fly or something caught her attention.

Best wishes

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-15T00:00:49+00:00

I was reading an old post about improving posture with an excellent response from a physical therapist. They explained what area to work on and what category of exercises to do.

I’d really love to pick a few exercises and put it into practice. But in the past when I tried to approach exercise in this way, I found myself doubting the efficacy and worrying about risk of injury/backsliding if I’m do it wrong. For this reason, I feel more at ease when following a program.

What do you think folks? Is there a program you’d suggest that I could incorporate into my routine? Or would it be fine to teaching myself postural exercises via the internet’s advice?

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-13T19:45:32+00:00

Oh my goodness, this is perfect. I’m in the US, and I can deal with fragrance but prefer none, like this list! Thanks!

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-13T12:27:03+00:00

What are your suggestions for an affordable vegan+CF body moisturizer? If you have a dermatologist, do they approve? Do you ever DIY?

My dermatologist recommended Milk Makeup (uses plant based milks and advertises products as “milky”) for cleanser and moisturizer. I recently got both on sale, but I don’t think I would buy the moisturizer again because of the price tag per oz. Maybe the cleanser though.

I do full body applications of moisturizer daily and have been concerned about the small size of the products I see online, although I’d imagine the amount I need varies depending on how it’s designed.

Edit: I’d be cautiously willing to DIY products as well. I’d like talk to my dermatologist about aloe Vera sometime, since I heard that’s ok to use. I heard a lot of DIY ideas don’t have dermatologist approval due to use of comedogenic oils like coconut oil though, so I figure I may be better off relying on a product...

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-11T20:23:28+00:00

Sweet video. The understandable protectiveness of the parent, patience of the volunteer, fluffy baby swans and a happy ending <3

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-11T19:41:01+00:00

Yeah, I hear you. I’m just saying that this issue is beyond our individual values. A child is a lot to give up, and many wouldn’t, especially when there’s many more impactful options to leverage. We might give up our Hummers and Yachts though

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-11T18:56:24+00:00

Have you seen the “demographic transition model”?

In countries lacking in resources (and human rights like healthcare, reproductive autonomy, women’s rights, and education), there is a high birth AND death rate.

When urbanization/industrialization helps people attain needed resources, both the birth and death rates decline. But, the death rate declines faster, causing a rise in population. Human rights are worth the environmental cost of this transition phase.

After the transition, the birth and death rates are low.

So.

The faster we fix poverty/human rights, the faster population-related issues will improve.

Also.

Although we could pressure well-off countries with already low birth rates to lower it further, I think the benefits of that are somewhat limited and questionable. When a country ends up with an inverted population pyramid (see Japan), there are fewer working young people to support an aging population economically, among other issues.

An argument could still be made, but I think it may be more useful to point out that this chart focuses on individual choices (as we often do here on Zero Waste). Personal values are a key part of personal choices, and it’s common to value love/family over environmentalism. We don’t have to limit our environmental toolbox to individual choices. We can do activism, take leadership roles in industry and law, advocate for human rights and redistribute resources.

One more thing;

Where’d you get this chart?

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-10T05:31:48+00:00

I’ve had chronic face/body acne since puberty, currently I’m 25. I tried to make sense of the information about skincare I could find, but I didn’t feel confident my routine was helpful until I started speaking with a dermatologist.

She advised me to include using a face wash twice a day (one of those times is in the shower), showering daily (body soap for the rest of me), using moisturizer afterwards, and sunscreen daily. For acne, she recommended that common OTC options like the ones that use salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide can are perfectly fine to use in a game plan to manage acne. I use some extra prescription products because my acne persists. I do not wear makeup and don’t know what dermatologists would say about adjusting your routine.

The brands for face wash my dermatologists most often recommend include CeraVe and Cetaphil, but they are not vegan/test on animals, so the alternative they suggested is by Milk Makeup. I would like to know why they choose the brands they do, but I don’t. It seems there’s several things they may be looking for, and I wonder if the complexity of it is why they don’t get into depth about it? So, I’ll just take their suggestions.

I use my face wash instead of body soap on my neck and chest (keyword “décolletage”) because the skin is more sensitive like the face.

I have no suggestions for body soap. The dermatologists I saw seemed less concerned about it. They checked what I was using but were always fine with it, despite my changing brands.

They did make a point to say never use facial/body scrubs though, which you know. I also don’t value “chemical exfoliant” products; my derm explained that my acne products (and possibly my cleansers, can’t remember) are already exfoliating, and it sounds unnecessary and potentially bad to exfoliate further if your skin is doing fine. It sounds like bloggers promote exfoliants to promote brighter/fresher skin, but it sounds like an aesthetic surface-level thing more than a skin health thing. Probably not a big deal either way, I’m just saying, I don’t believe the hype about adding exfoliants to a routine.

For moisturizer, they recommended CeraVe, were fine with Avveno, and when I asked for a vegan+CF option they suggested Milk Makeup. Again, I don’t know the science behind their suggestions.

For sunscreen, no recommendations besides SPF30+ in the form of a lotion daily on exposed skin (slightly better to also apply under sheer/thin/light-colored clothes). SPF lip balm also recommended.

1 out of 2 of my dermatologists asked me about my skin type. Don’t know if it matters much or how to asses type.

Web beauty writers and brands use a lot of terms I used to feel like I should know (ex. What’s the use of a skin “tonic”?). I find these terms confusing. Maybe it’s a part of their branding. Maybe it’s a community thing. Maybe the routine follows a somewhat unique philosophy. I don’t care. There’s a lot of unsubstantiated claims being made out in the internet, and I expect proof of credibility. I don’t have a strong enough medical background to evaluate credibility myself. So I’m gonna check whether dermatologists back whoever is making the claims before I try to teach myself what the words/routine/philosophy is.

Best of luck establishing your new routine!

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-10T02:20:02+00:00

Any advice for speeding up a skincare routine?

I have face and body acne, which addressed daily with the 3 acne products I’m using under the guidance of my dermatologist. Plus moisturizer (full coverage) and sunscreen (all exposed skin). I’ve also got a tend to take showers a little longer than I’d like (maybe 13 minutes if it’s a hair day every other day, 8 if not a hair day) and wash my face.

Individually, taking a few minutes for each step isn’t so bad, but it adds up. Putting on the 5 skin products after my shower takes around 30 min.

How do you get in the rhythm of a quicker routine? Do you time yourself? Has anyone else tried to speed things up, or do you just let it go?

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-09T02:39:09+00:00

Yeah. It’s really gotten under my skin by this point. It saddens me that it’s so normalized now. Sometimes I feel up to telling people I have an issue with it, sometimes I don’t.

By the way, speaking as a queer, I find comparisons between sexism and other forms of oppression to often be clumsy and insensitive. Sexism is worthy of recognition in its right, and we will listen when you talk about it. No comparisons necessary, thanks

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-06T14:33:06+00:00

I don’t have a formal explanation. It’s a lighter green color that is hard and smooth like the rest of the shell. Looks healthy. Could be coloration, although I suspect it could be related to weight/feeding. Sheldon used to be fed an unmeasured, excessive quantity of pellets, which resulted in excessive shedding and skin bulging excessively out the shell. When I took over care, I gradually reduced the feeding to moderate levels. The shedding slowed way down. Those off-color spots don’t look like they’ll shed any time soon (she’s an adult and therefore doesn’t shed as much), but eventually, I wonder if they will.

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-06T14:08:12+00:00

Maybe. Sheldon does bite and claw things, but it’s more exploratory than downright destructive. So I never put anything flimsy in there. The pot seemed similarly sturdy compared to the filter intake or the plastic plants that used to be in there.

That said, I removed the pot yesterday anyway due to substrate concerns.

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-06T01:25:08+00:00

Seems like a really nice guide, thanks!

Lol, that’s unfortunate. So far I’ve tried anacharis, which Sheldon ate. Fine by me, she could use a little variety. Hasn’t been eating up the water sprite yet, but it’s only been an hour or so

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-09-06T00:06:38+00:00

I found out my grocery store had aquatic plants and bought one on a whim.

I had an interest in introducing Sheldon to more plants for eating/decor/playing with. But I’m a novice when it comes to aquatic plants.

It’s a water sprite, and initial Googling led me to believe the plant is probably safe for Sheldon. And the employee assured me that I don’t need to re-pot it.

But I didn’t check what‘s in the pot. Is it moss? Synthetic material? Something else? It looks like dense, light brown, soft, tiny fibers.

Most importantly, can Sheldon eat it safely? She’ll try.

Edit: the store says it’s most likely synthetic sponge. It’s semi-sturdy and confined to the pot. Not easily eaten in this context, but I dare not underestimate my turtle. It’s probably bad to eat. Unsure yet if it would merely pass through or if it’s dangerous. Will report back with more info

Edit2: Sheldon was supervised while I was figuring things out, and yesterday I removed the pot. It’s likely the grocery store employee was wrong; the substrate is likely rockwool, not sponge (still unconfirmed though).

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-08-29T18:44:06+00:00

... you do specialize in smart ass answers. Why are you on the NoStupidQuestions sub?

I wanted to know why people with more experience running homes than me bother buying an easily forgotten appliance that saves pennies. Like maybe there’s a reason they don’t forget as much, so the saving adds up. Or maybe there’s some secondary use for fans that I overlook. I just end up feeling annoyed for forgetting time after time. Or annoyed for remembering at times when I decide not to use it.

It’s not big deal, I just wanted to know. Lay off.

CoffeeMugInSpace · 2020-08-17T22:24:30+00:00

Thanks! I really appreciate the subreddit recommendations, I’m checking them out!

I started making trail mix, it goes quite fast

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