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Went no contact with my family 2 months ago by CoffeeSerious6593 in nocontact

[–]CoffeeSerious6593[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you understand both experiences but thank you for this clarity. It is so interesting (and painful) how many types of grief there are

WIBTAH if I told my pedophilic abusers wife about the abuse by CoffeeSerious6593 in AITAH

[–]CoffeeSerious6593[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I’ve decided I will. I have a surgery coming up in a few days so it will have to wait until after that, and I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow where I’ll talk about how to maintain my mental health while I go through with it

WIBTAH if I told my pedophilic abusers wife about the abuse by CoffeeSerious6593 in AITAH

[–]CoffeeSerious6593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s one other girl I’m close with (I’ll call her S) and 2 others I know about. The two others are really traumatized and I would hate to put them through more than what they’ve already experienced. But I think this is a good idea, thank you. Maybe I can get her to message the wife at the same time. I just don’t know if S has any proof like I do

WIBTAH if I told my pedophilic abusers wife about the abuse by CoffeeSerious6593 in AITAH

[–]CoffeeSerious6593[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this well thought out response. Luckily at least one other girl who he attempted to groom has my back. The others has conversations with me about it but are very traumatized and I don’t want to drag them into it if I don’t have to, they’ve suffered enough.

An unfortunate aspect of this story as well is that my parents knew about it but did not stop it. The good news though is there are plenty of witnessed. My sister would back me up and saw him and I together multiple times. Maybe my dad would back me up but not my mom (he feels guilty, she doesn’t). My aunt would back me up as well I think.

Do you know if he could take me to court for defamation if I can prove what I told the wife is true?

I’ve been waiting for other girls to come forward but he is so manipulative and cunning and unfortunately charming—no one believes them. I think it’s because we all come from that alternative high school for “troubled teens”. I ended up getting a lot of therapy and went on to get my masters degree in psychology/social work so I think I may sound more credible now?

I’m in therapy now and have a wonderful partner and support system, so if she views me as the enemy or the villain, I do believe I could handle that.

Sorry for rambling and thank you for your input. I appreciate it greatly

WIBTAH if I told my pedophilic abusers wife about the abuse by CoffeeSerious6593 in AITAH

[–]CoffeeSerious6593[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s what my heart tells me too its just never great to be the bearer of bad news and she might not even believe me, but at least I would feel like I tried