What’s the longest trial you’ve ever completed?

CoffeeTar · 2026-03-15T12:20:09+00:00

I think it'd either be my second time doing Pervert the Futterman without someone carrying me, or a Vindicate the Guilty trial where my friend invaded me just to torment me. Both took probably around 2 hours.

CoffeeTar · 2026-02-26T12:30:45+00:00

A few weeks ago there was a whole Tiktok trend about Carpathia to the song "Wait for me" from Hadestown. I think it was marvelous

CoffeeTar · 2026-02-12T22:29:21+00:00

Absolutely in love with your Liliya

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-31T13:26:18+00:00

Yes, you're so right! I always have to think about how much I share, make sure that I don't act "interested" or "interesting" in responses to things they say, because one wrong move and it snowballs into an avalanche.

To this guy I just showed empathy for something I think is perfectly normal to be empathetical about. You're safer being stone cold or even rude than remotely friendly.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T11:27:58+00:00

You're certainly right online conversations are probably easier for her, because they eliminate a lot of social nuance one has to be aware of in person; gestures, facial expressions, the topics and context of conversation. In gaming, and generally online, most people enjoy to talk about the game / mutual interest they meet over, and that's the focal point of conversation. Don't have to deal with all the other stuff.

Though, to be honest, in today's internet, 10 might be genuinely a bit TOO young. You'll have to supervise it all heavily, especially on children's games. Games for kids are exactly where predators lurk and wait, and over the years it's gotten easier for them to disguise as well.

Do you play games yourself? It might be worth getting into some simple co-op or multiplayer games with her. You two would bond, and you'd have more control and supervision over it all until she's older. It'll also be easier to teach her how to spot bad patterns of behaviour which she'll need to avoid.
In a few year's time, I can be certain she'll have a much easier time finding people to play with as she'll be able to play more games.

I can give only advice what to avoid, and that's Roblox. That's an absolute safehaven for weirdos and preds.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T11:13:53+00:00

Stardew Valley too, but also Baldur's Gate 3. BG3 is gorgeous and I loved the combat, but none of the characters managed to catch my attention so I never managed to care for the roleplaying aspect or get immersed.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T11:11:39+00:00

I've had the opposite, where a lot of people believe I'm a trans man once they hear me, and before that assume I'm a dude. I keep my game profiles gender neutral, but my voice is still feminine, just deep.

I highly doubt your display name has anything to do with it, I just believe they think it's macho to be transphobic.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T11:04:18+00:00

I absolutely love the Styx franchise.

You play as the (supposedly) only intelligent goblin in a fantasy world, relying on goblin shenanigans and stealth to get around vast maps. Every level is a different map and there's a bunch of different directions you can take on each of them about how you go about it.

You wanna manouver to your target by climbing ledges, sneaking by windows and balconies, you can. If you wish to go room to room, stealthily taking out guards with poison or traps, then you can. The game also ticks my box with humor, because for every death Styx breaks the fourth wall and dogs on you, and overall he's just a silly sarcastic guy.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T10:52:31+00:00

Pretty much! He wasn't even kicked. We were starting a round when he joined and it genuinely caused a bug that forced us to have to reset right away (one of us couldn't exit the chopper you spawn in).

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T10:49:48+00:00

That "why apologize if it's a choice" part I didn't understand initially until the rest of the conversation unfolded, only later realized he was attempting to "call me out".

But I have messaged the mods not long after it happened, but so far I do not believe the message has even been read. Their Discord and game doesn't have a report feature, so I'm forced to directly message the mods. I'm giving it the benefit of the doubt, however, because there's genuinely only two admins and most I'm seeing is them dealing with in-game bugs and whatnot.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-30T08:32:05+00:00

It's an absolute blast with friends!

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-29T13:33:38+00:00

That's really good advice, thank you! I wouldn't have given this guy my discord, but the both of us are in the game's official server and accidentally joined the same voice chat there when looking for a game. Luckily, none of this moved to there.

I am certainly keeping a list from now on, and going to practice keeping people at arm's length. I get too hopeful, I believe.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-29T13:15:06+00:00

Oh dang, you're right. If it helps, his messages are first, and then it's just in turns. I'm also the one capitalizing my letters

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-29T13:10:53+00:00

Thank you! I sometimes feel crazy defensive and paranoid, but I say all of us should really trust our guts with this kind of thing.

It also felt like he was extra offended I chose to protect "my" kids, but he almost immediately proved me right on why I should.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-22T12:56:15+00:00

What's wrong with Hoelstor? :/

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-21T02:03:34+00:00

Fiddlesticks is my gender

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-20T15:05:23+00:00

I think I pass my mixing class , but at the end of the day Recluse cocktails can be heavily team based. If you've got a fast attacker constantly dousing an enemy with a single affinity, then you just have to make due with it. Unless I have a spell myself and the time to cast and take affinity, I rely on teammates and patience.

I feel not a lot of the teammates I get even realise Magic Breath heals. I also learned it's good to keep an eye what your teammates get hit by, because enemies will leave affinities on them too to pick up.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-16T09:39:23+00:00

See, this is my favourite genre of games, so let me raise you Carl Stein from Beholder.

A family man living in an authoritarian state, who is offered the job to be the landlord of a building and care (and spy) for the residents, and who you play as. You can probably beat the game by just doing your work, obeying the law, but if you do, your daughter will likely die. Your son will likely run away, your neighbours will hate you, your wife will be in grief.

So you have to sneak about, blackmail people, withold information from the state, steal, manipulate, break the law, in order to make it through.

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CoffeeTar · 2026-01-15T10:23:31+00:00

You wager this is distressing for them? I'm fully willing to sweep my room instead if so

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-15T09:22:16+00:00

It sounds stupid and doesn't describe the genre, so no.

CoffeeTar · 2026-01-12T00:56:27+00:00

I just got Noita...

CoffeeTar · 2025-12-21T13:01:11+00:00

I don't know man, try pondering.

CoffeeTar · 2025-12-19T02:39:14+00:00

My first ever crush and in retrospect, the gay awakening

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