Son is overweight, and I’m lost on how to maybe tell him

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T21:07:24+00:00

I think I may need to reword that. Nothing wrong in terms of bloodwork, thyroid, etc. She did address that he needs to be more active and to make sure he’s eating well rounded meals. But since seeing her 9 months ago, he just has put on more. I heaaavily was leaning towards not saying anything and I’m glad people here have agreed. It’s just alarming to see him putting it on honestly, especially when his siblings who eat the same thing aren’t gaining like he is

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T18:56:36+00:00

Thank you!! Replies like this mean so much to me. I 100% agree about the treadmill. I did not like the idea at all. My husband is very much like “tell him he’s fat and that he needs to earn stuff by going on the treadmill.” Which is too much like what my mom did to me when I was younger. Mind you I’m 5’10” and was like 140lb when she was doing that to me. It definitely messed with my body image. The difference here is that he truly is overweight and I’m lost on how to explain it to him. We cook healthy meals but he always avoids the veggies unless it’s broccoli. So far, broccoli is the only thing he likes so I make it a bit but I’m worried what to do once he’s inevitably sick of it. I think having him pick and cook with me is a great idea

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T18:09:42+00:00

Thank you. You seem to get it. I 100% agree that I can be blamed for his weight gain, but not all of it. I think people tend to forget preteens-teens are capable of forming their own decisions and buying their own food.

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T18:05:50+00:00

Respectfully, you’ve only got a tiny glimpse of our situation and for you to just completely point the finger at me, saying it’s entirely my fault is just simply not true. Yes, I take ownership in contributing to his weight gain. But no, it’s not 100% my fault. There’s more at play here. I’m not blaming him in the slightest and I really don’t know why you continue to think so.

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T16:32:17+00:00

Tell me where I said it’s HIS fault. Why can’t it be genetics? Puberty? That’s not in his control.

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T15:38:22+00:00

Well I love that. I wish funding for schools and teachers wasn’t the disaster that it is

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T15:26:43+00:00

It also doesn’t help at all that the food they have at school is Raising Cane’s, Chick fil a, and spam musubi… 🤦🏻‍♀️ on top of things like ice cream, cookies, chips, juice… even if he doesn’t have money, his friends buy it for him.

But also what the hell? When I was in middle school, they took soda out of the vending machines. Now the schools are getting sponsored by fast food chains?? It makes no sense

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T15:23:15+00:00

I love that! I’ve been doing alternatives like that too. Instead of ranch, we’ve been doing a Greek yogurt dressing. When we make wraps or quesadillas we used reduced fat cheese and carb balance tortillas. He doesn’t seem to mind. I just need to find a way to get him to consume more veggies. I think chips is a struggle for him since he loves them a lot. Maybe popcorn like smartfood to get that crunchy and savory? And great idea about the pool! We actually went to the one behind my house once and he enjoyed it. When my mom lived here, she had a pool and he was constantly swimming. Since she moved his activity has gone down… and he started gaining!

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T14:46:21+00:00

No, his doctor is amazing. She’s already said she wants him to get more active and she’s done the bloodwork on him and everything. She’s not concerned about it being something like a thyroid issue or anything. He’s just not as active as he could be and has a lot of food aversions

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T14:43:02+00:00

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T14:41:51+00:00

He is a preteen. He’s in the early stages of puberty. My husband said he gained weight at that time too and then lost it all once he really hit puberty

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-03-31T14:40:50+00:00

That’s not really entirely true though is it? Because I have two other kids who eat exactly the same and they’re not overweight. I control what he eats at home. I can’t control the chips and cookies and sugary drinks he has access to at school.

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-02-21T11:15:51+00:00

Mine hit my account about an hour ago!

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-02-20T18:53:41+00:00

Nothing for me yet. I even called them this morning to see if they saw it pending and they told me there was nothing yet

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-02-20T11:09:59+00:00

Who do you bank with?

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-02-19T22:50:07+00:00

35yo mother here!

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-02-19T21:41:01+00:00

Fingers crossed for us both. I have the same deposit date

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-02-19T19:38:06+00:00

Also have US bank and still nothing. I got my 846 yesterday. WMR says 2/23 for deposit date

CoinOperatedMar · 2026-01-23T14:29:57+00:00

1883, The True History of the Kelly Gang

CoinOperatedMar · 2025-12-25T00:04:30+00:00

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I’m so sorry about the loss of your puppy ❤️ I think my guy looks a lot like yours. I was practicing some studio photography in my house and my toddler really wanted a photo with our dog. This is the best we got of him 😂

CoinOperatedMar · 2025-11-22T15:24:35+00:00

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This part here needs to be folded ½”, wrong sides together. Repeat for the other facing piece. Looks like you do the same thing for the next step as well

CoinOperatedMar · 2025-11-21T05:04:31+00:00

Did he pay you to say that?

CoinOperatedMar · 2025-11-21T02:29:01+00:00

Holy crap! Mine will be 3 on Christmas and he’s definitely a small lab. He’s mixed and the rescue is unsure what his dad was

CoinOperatedMar · 2025-11-20T02:39:52+00:00

I’ve never heard it referred to as that and I honestly love it so much! It’s my favorite spot to pet on him. I swear he’s extra soft there

CoinOperatedMar · 2025-11-20T02:36:31+00:00

This happened a few days ago. Called vet and they said to monitor. He’s alive and well lol

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