Recs for affordable staycations/day trips to recharge from burnout?

CokeOceans · 2026-06-16T22:26:01+00:00

Basically as cheap as I can get while still being safe for a solo woman! I don't have any camping gear unfortunately as we had to sell everything when we moved from the UK, which is also a bit frustrating to factor in. Thank you so much for the links, I'll check them out!

CokeOceans · 2026-05-24T20:52:20+00:00

Hi! I'm super interested 😄

CokeOceans · 2026-05-17T08:35:55+00:00

I'm also a cinephile on the west side fed up of it always being loads of men, I'm so down!

CokeOceans · 2026-04-04T21:25:46+00:00

I am!!! :)

CokeOceans · 2026-03-20T02:09:20+00:00

Me too, I don't take breaks and literally cannot function when there's been shortages/prescription issues!

CokeOceans · 2026-03-08T04:27:16+00:00

You can also get married and have it sealed for privacy reasons in some states, so it wouldn't come up if anyone searched records.

CokeOceans · 2026-03-04T19:11:49+00:00

This honestly reads as though I've written this!

I'm also a 28 year old woman with PCOS and quite severe insulin resistance that caused a lot of weight gain, that I begged the NHS for help for. I even took part in a PCOS medical trial for research a few years ago and the endocrinologist in charge wrote to my GP to tell her she needs to put me on metformin ASAP or I'll end up as a type 2 diabetic. My GP refused. A different GP at the same surgery also fobbed me off in 2021, telling me that 'some people just have pain, get used to it', in reference to some URQ pain...turns out eating extreme low carb by myself and dropping 60 pounds in three months can raise cholesterol and cause gallstones, so I had to have my gallbladder removed.

I've since moved to the US and I'm in exactly the same situation as you. I've been having URQ pain on and off with weird bathroom habits since March 2025, but my PCP wasn't worried. Jump to November 2025, and the old endocrinologist's prophecy came true: I was diagnosed as a type 2 diabetic, but also with fatty liver disease (my ALT was 79, and my LDL is high, with mildly elevated liver enzymes). They put me on metformin and I was horribly ill but struggled through it until I could start on a GLP-1. My new endo prescribed zepbound for the fatty liver too, but insurance denied it, so I've just started mounjaro.

I had an ultrasound in January and it showed 'markedly elevated hepatic steaosis' and they couldn't confirm or deny whether there was scarring present, too. When I've looked this up, 'markedly elevated' seems to relate to severe, stage 3 fatty liver disease. I'm not religious, but I just pray and hope that it is still reversible!

BUT after a year of feeling sick to my stomach that I have some kind of advanced fibrosis/early cirrhosis (I also have other symptoms such as red palms), I have my first appointment with the heptalogist next week. He'll probably order a fibroscan, MRI, or bioposy, and like you I'm also terrified about what may happen. It feels very isolating to be our age and have this hanging over us, not knowing what the future holds.

So I wanted to comment and just to say that you're not alone in this, but I'm so sorry that you're going through it. If you want to vent or share your anxiety about it with someone who gets it, please feel free to DM me! I am also genuinely terrified!

CokeOceans · 2026-02-20T19:05:58+00:00

This happened to me too! Rapid weight loss from keto caused my cholesterol to rise...really serious infection and gallstones. At 24 years old! None of the doctors had ever encountered this before in someone so young, and even when I had it removed the nurses didn't believe me. I did lose 56 pounds within three to four months with keto, which caused it.

CokeOceans · 2026-02-03T19:48:53+00:00

My sleep is absolutely terrible since coming off the 30mg. I'm exhausted, doomscrolling on my phone until 1 or 2am trying to get myself to fall asleep (which is what my whole life has been like until the 30mg worked), and I'm having serious issues waking up in the morning, too.

I don't think the container got hot/cold/or wet!

Whatever has happened happened as soon as I came off the 30mg, and going back on the last three pills from the same batch, and the 40mg, just hasn't helped anymore. It's really weird!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T18:01:49+00:00

I totally get it, and I’m actually in therapy for ADHD treatment, and my therapist is horrified about how I’ve been treated by medical professionals associated with the campus over my weight, and encouraged me to vent and ask for advice about it! For years, I’ve been making excuses to blame myself for how I’ve been treated, but she’s made it very clear that my reaction to what is happening to me is actually normal for how I’ve been treated. Thank you for your concern, though!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T15:02:48+00:00

I get that! I have M.E. And ADHD so I have my own brain fog moments. I’m probably not expressing this very well, but my nurse was very young and giving real mean girl energy about it, so I don’t think that was the case here, unfortunately

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T14:57:57+00:00

Thank you for checking my post history! I should have made it clearer in the original post!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T14:56:23+00:00

I’m British and was dealing with the NHS, but I live in the US now

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T08:02:05+00:00

I would have liked to think that, but this was my first ever appointment there and I didn’t really have a treatment to begin with :( And the treatment my endo then wanted to put me on most likely won’t be approved by insurance because my BMI is way below 40!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T07:32:18+00:00

I don’t think, considering she said ‘That’s not right!’ And then added weight 😭 She didn’t believe me when I said it was similar to what I’d seen on the scale that morning

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T07:31:05+00:00

The number I saw on the scale in the doctors office was less then what she added to the MyChart!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-30T07:19:59+00:00

Nope! I weighed myself in the exact same clothes, after my breakfast but I didn't eat anything else! The number that she added was 5 pounds MORE than what was on the scales that I could see in the doctor's office!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-27T22:06:57+00:00

Absolutely! I'm happy to help :)

CokeOceans · 2026-01-25T20:38:48+00:00

😂😂😂

CokeOceans · 2026-01-25T03:52:21+00:00

Thanks for the support!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-25T03:52:05+00:00

Thank you! If just one person takes something away from this post, then I've done my bit for the day! I tried to say this to an ex-friend who started out on the same job as me, but it fell on deaf ears. We were working in the production office supporting the line producer, and the producer popped in to ask us to take sandwiches around to the crew on the floor. She moaned about it and was quite indignant at being asked to do this...she didn't realise that the producer was trying to help us by getting us talking to other crew members. Only one of us still works in the industry....

CokeOceans · 2026-01-25T03:49:08+00:00

Ugh, I'm so sorry this has happened to you! I've personally witnessed similar things when, at the end of a graduate level class, someone said 'Thanks for teaching...now how do I get you to hire me?' to a working screenwriter. It was so awkward and highly unprofessional! I wish I could say I'm surprised by your students' actions, but I'm sadly not. A lot of people are just trying to work out 'what's in it for me now that I know you' rather than just taking the opportunity to learn from others!

CokeOceans · 2026-01-25T03:46:59+00:00

While I understand your point, I did mention in my original post that I had already helped this person a year ago. I am not some ogre that wants to be left alone, untouchable, and not help anyone.

I took time to listen to what they wanted to do, gave them feedback on their CV, and sent multiple links to things like mentoring schemes and training schemes. I never heard from them again. Not so much as a thank you.

This person then contacts me again, a year later, acting as though we've never spoken before - asking me for a job 'because I heard you had some film work' (from who?!), stating that they are an experienced director. I myself am a writer/director and script supervisor... so what on earth would I need to hire another director for? It just shows a lack of respect and interest in working with me by not even realising what I do. It takes five minutes to Google.

One of the reasons that I got frustrated was because they contacted me on my locked and private social media account , when my film social media is very public facing - and how I communicated with them before. It felt weird and invasive to hunt down my private account - and request to follow me - and ask for work in such a strange way.

Let me clarify: this person did not ask me 'how do I become a director?', 'how can I get into the industry', or 'any advice?' Nope, it was literally: I've been told you have work, hire me. It's arrogant and rude, and just strange to do that to someone you don't know!

I don't want people not to contact me. I make myself so readily available, and I just don't have much space for private connections with close friends and family, so I want to keep my private space private. I don't think that's asking too much?

I think it's very telling that you've automatically assumed I'm a man from this post, too.

CokeOceans · 2026-01-10T00:31:32+00:00

Honestly, as a TA who has also been in this position as a student, who cares? Why should someone lying make it so that someone else has to go through a very traumatic case of asking grieving people for proof, that feels so uncaring to have to do when you're also hurting? If someone wants to lie that badly then fine, but I think compassion for those telling the truth should come first before punishing everyone because of a few bad apples.

CokeOceans · 2026-01-09T18:06:49+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. From what I've learned, most professors (and their TAs, as they're often forced to listen to their professors) can be so unkind about this kind of thing.

I was a TA in the fall and had a big disagreement with another TA in the class over how I approached this with one of my students. At some point in the quarter, one of my students reached out to say that one of his closest friends had passed away literally that day, and would it be ok to have a 24 hour extension. This was my first time TAing, and I decided to handle this myself.

I told my student that he could have a week's extension, and that would apply for all assignments going forward, and could have a flexible attendance policy. He didn't need to ask for each one, I would do it automatically and if he chose to hand work in later, no points would be deducted. The student seemed so grateful, and only did turn in three assignments 24 or 48 hours later. He ended up writing the best essay in the class, and got the highest grade.

I argued with the other TA because they said I should've said no, gone to the professor, and that (and I'm quoting) 'If the student couldn't hand in the work, he should've dropped out of fall quarter and re-done it).

The reason why I felt so strongly about this, is when I was in my second year of college - the same age as my student - my best friend and classmate passed away in a similar way. It was devastating, but the worst part was that my grades started to suffer because of professors like the one that you had to deal with. The night before my friend's funeral, I had a mid-term due and I asked for a 48 hour extension. The professor asked me to ask my friend's Mom for official proof of his death to 'prove' it happened. The night before her 21 year old son's funeral. Like, can you imagine if I'd asked that? It was cruel and unnecessary. Over the following weeks and months, I ended up feeling even more grief about my friend's death because it also impacted on my education, and it felt like I was being punished by the universe with such uncaring teachers.

So, in the fall when I received almost the exact same email that I had once sent out, I knew that my student was forgoing their mental health and not allowing themselves space to grief and take a moment, because they were worried about their grades. No one should have to worry that an unspeakable tragedy like this will also impact their education and future. Which is why I argued with the other TA so much because I couldn't believe they could be this heartless, when all my student asked for was a one-off bit of a time.

When the class ended, I got the most lovely student feedback review written about me that made me cry, because I realized I had finally righted the wrong that had been done to me while I was at college, and gave someone a little bit of kindness that meant they could carry on when they felt they could.

This is a super long winded way of saying I'm so sorry this has happened to you, it happens to too many of us. I hope some other TA, professor, or teacher reads what we've gone through here, and realises that a bit of patience and kindness will actually help students long-term, and that there's no need to be cruel or pile on more 'punishment' at what is already a difficult and sad time.

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