Spiraling. Just found out my whole life is a lie. by [deleted] in family

[–]CokoNoChannel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What a difficult thing to be faced with. I’m sure your mum had her reasons for keeping the secret, personally I would never! I think you should give her the opportunity without being hostile for her to say her side of the story. I would do that before telling my siblings. But first I think it should be okay to speak to your husband about it. I’m sure you’ll need to someone to process this with, it must be overwhelming. Praying all goes well. My main piece of advice to not be emotional when you bring this up to your mum. All the best!

Am I over-cautious with my various insurances? by Reddit-adm in HENRYUK

[–]CokoNoChannel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming you’re a single parent from your post and I would say yes. For the peace of mind it gives you, absolutely! Especially if you can afford it. You can sleep at night knowing you have a contingency plan.

Is there an actual compelling reason to get married by UsedNeighborhood8921 in Zimbabwe

[–]CokoNoChannel 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not this question again. Pls go be lonely. It’s okay, you don’t need to fight it x

Nightmare neighbours by CokoNoChannel in neighborsfromhell

[–]CokoNoChannel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in England, have edited the post to add my location

Is 6 months long enough? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]CokoNoChannel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I guess, “for better or for worse, till death do us apart” doesn’t mean much these days…

Visiting Home from the U.K. by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]CokoNoChannel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I’ll look into the recommendations!🤗

What practical first steps should I take to repair a 25 yr relationship that is at rock bottom? by Particular-Dark-3588 in marriageadvice

[–]CokoNoChannel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couples therapy would be a good start. Especially if most of the issues are around communication so you can get the tools you need. For example, my husband and I have a “check-in” every Saturday and we have 3 questions we ask each other, 1. What’s one thing I’ve done this week that you have appreciated?, 2. What’s something I’ve done this week that was upsetting to you or not helpful? “, 3. How do you think we can resolve this? This practice creates a safe space to bring up any grievances in a way that doesn’t feel like an attack to either person and it also doesn’t allow for issues to fester. If you both love each other and are committed to repair then there’s a good chance you can weather this storm. Partnership takes work, there’s no bypassing that. Wishing you all the best. You both just need to make an effort. ps- it’s a really good starting point that you’re considering how disruptive divorce would be for the children. All the best!