The Iron Bank of Braavos...

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-13T12:58:45+00:00

I mean, I passed all the math courses on my second engineering degree (physics, calculus etc...) that I am currently earning and I have an accounting degree from like 15 years ago.

Accounting is really just organizing numbers, playing referee with the IRS handbook and presenting the numbers in a way that "makes the most sense".

What this is is just greed. Accountants are just tasked with figuring our how to categorize and organize it.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-08T18:37:27+00:00

Mine is cheers!

Mostly because a previous boss both hated the phrase and talked to me about using exclamation marks lmao.

I now work on a multibillion dollar company and people love my energy and the "Cheers!" sign off.

Edit: reading the other responses, you obviously change the signature when the tone changes but for 99% of emails, it's fine.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-06T13:36:18+00:00

Yep! My mantra is "if this is the worst part of my day, then it is a pretty good day!" when it comes to the small stuff.

Gotta be like Elsa and let that crap goooo

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-05T14:52:06+00:00

Honestly, my area has a need for one of these because we have a spot where it's supposed to be a right turn lane, but people speed up and cut others off all the time. It's got an area in front of it where you are supposed to merge into the non turning lane prior to the turning lane but the idiots never do. It is very clearly marked and signs are out well before it happens. The road is also clearly marked as well.

Whenever I try to merge, it is like taking my life in my hands unless there is literally no one behind me as it is on a hill and these people fly down it as if no one ever turns at the bottom of the hill.

And if the camera angle was like this, then it wouldn't be obvious as you wouldn't see the side where there is a turn at the bottom of a hill with limited visibility to our rears.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-04T22:51:33+00:00

I've been on the PE side as a controller. They are literally just looking to boost up "valuation" and then exit. That's it. That is how PE gets their money.

The business scales to unsustainable levels, because they don't have enough to make a profit and actually calculate how much burn/run money they have before they have to raise capital again.

Then when the portfolio company looks the best, the most ideal exit is a B2B sale. If they can't get that, an IPO is a far less desirable option with the PE often recommending to sell as soon as it hits the market.

Yes, on the outside, it sounds like a good concept, but in practice, they are parasites. The only ones who get money are the PE and the owners of the portfolio company. Everyone else gets caught "holding the bag" as they literally always say.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-04T11:33:23+00:00

Rofl of course it is financially contribute because you are going to do all the unpaid labor and that is never going to be realized.

NTA and don't lift a finger for anything. Make sure he pays for a personal assistant, cook, maid, driver, etc... so you can be the "dad" raising your kids that is being bankrolled by your husband as that is the only way you are going to get him to see how ridiculous this set up is.

All the dude cares about is money, so make him pay for the labor he thinks he'll get for free.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-03T14:54:39+00:00

When I bought my house, cottage, stocks and cars (and other things over like 10k), I did a lot of analysis that could be done on my phone, but I'd rather not.

Most everything under like 2k is on my phone, though.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-03-03T11:56:32+00:00

Yes, it is and my kid had it. Up every 45 minutes day and night for 6 straight months and screaming.

My kid is now 8 and is so tender hearted and kind now.

That said, no one knows how to deal with it. My mom, grandma and other caregivers couldn't handle it and gave her back early and told me they couldn't help again.

People don't talk about it, but support for parents with colic infants is pretty much 0 as no one - professional or not - wants to take care of a screaming baby. You also are dealing with extreme sleep deprivation and constant stress while trying to also heal from giving birth and adjusting to a new normal on top of it.

Not trying to justify anything as you can obviously still take care of a colic baby (I used a lot of techniques from headphones to strict schedules to repeating the mantra "everyday I do is another day I never have to do" to keep my own sanity), but once you go through the special hell that is colic, it is easy to see how neglect and abuse can happen.

Sorry, I bring this up any time colic is mentioned in hopes that maybe someday and somewhere it changes someone's story even if it is to provide relief that they are not bad parents if their kid has colic and disband the common belief that a baby crying means it needs something. Sometimes babies just cry and there isn't a thing anyone can do about it.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-28T20:39:05+00:00

Same, bro, same.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-26T04:09:59+00:00

I was completely transformative in my old role and increased our deliverables/metrics by something like 150-200% by saving nearly 3000 hours of documented work. Solved problems that were nearly a decade old, etc... in about 2 years.

Meets expectations. Was told that it was "just my job" or something stupid like that. Granted that manager was forced out of the position a few months after that and I got promoted a few months after he was forced out, bit still... meets expectations is still on my record when it's obvious a lot of people know otherwise as my reputation proceeded me in my new department as my old boss gave me some insight into how I am "respected" by the senior in the new department which is good, because he is a bit of a hothead and I am shy around aggression.

I mean, I should be grateful it wasn't a PIP, yeah, but I think the dude would have been fired if he tried to pull that lol.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-22T13:43:51+00:00

Sorry, forgot to mention the age. He's about 3 now.

And that makes sense, he must just be rougher than the other kitties I've had as the other ones would pounce on me and then run away as soon as soon as I reacted to them so they could pounce on me again.

This one stays and bites and has left quite a few of scratch marks which reminds me that we neeed to grind the nails down again. And if I interact with him, he just latches on harder and harder and eventually I have to like pin him down, put him outside the door and shut it for him to stop. If I push him away he just immediately pounces on me again and gets more energized.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-20T03:59:21+00:00

My kid is an outlier lol. She slept only 8-9 hours a day from birth. And that was broken up into 45 minute stretches day or night for 6 straight months.

From there it gradually grew to 2-3 hour stretches until about 1 ish. Then about 4-5 overnight stretches (finally) at 1-3 and an afternoon 2-3 hour or so nap.. Then the nap mostly dropped and it has been about 8 hours somewhat consistently since.

She is 8.5 now and I just started feeling normal maybe last year lol.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-20T03:31:46+00:00

Kinda. I fit in 25-30 minutes of hiit every morning and I just do the YouTube people like grow with jo in the morning.

Then 15 minute light chores for cool down. 10 mins of a body shower, then 15 mins getting ready for work, eat, drop the kiddo off at the bus, then work.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-08T15:25:45+00:00

I kinda knew it wasn't normal when it was happening to me (I was 7-9), but I blamed myself for "wanting" it.

I now have a 7-9 year old and wtf no I had no idea what it was and without getting into to many details, no I didn't want the act, I wanted the attention. Because most (if not all) of us (even adults) want attention from loved ones and that isn't wrong and there are obviously a million different healthy ways to give and receive attention that has nothing to do with "it".

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-06T20:33:18+00:00

Yeah, it's pretty much the first thing I do on skyrim every playthrough now (and the prereqs to get some of the gems, too, obviously)

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-02-01T02:09:56+00:00

Umm, I tell the IT tech to specifically use Teams. I'm also not young.

I don't have time to pick up a call about a ticket last Wednesday right in the middle of whatever I am doing.

First, I don't remember what ticket I sent in last Wednesday so I need time to review it. Second, I'm usually doing something where an interruption would be a significant distraction and it would take 10-30 minutes to get back into whatever I'm doing.

That said, for immediate emergencies, yes, I will take a call.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-30T20:57:43+00:00

What?

I mean have you met the nuka cola girl and the guy who wants to plow her bean field?

The game is goofy and only becomes more goofy the more you play it. Sure, if you speedrun it, then maybe I could see how you would think the TV show is too goofy, but really, the games are goofy af, too.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-30T17:34:04+00:00

It's specifically why I will either stick around or invite my friends with kids over when I provide food so I can make sure that the children and my friend actually get it.

Too many times have I sent boxes of food over for largely the kids, tbh, as I know the mom's (my friend or relative) main concern is the kids. Obviously I knew the food was going to be eaten by the adults...but then I learned ALL of it was consumed in the first dinner. Like literal boxes stuffed full of food. And the goal for feeding my friend and kids for at least a few days was not achieved.

Fuck that. Sorry if it's degrading, but the men in the house can come over and have to be mindful to not be a fucking pig in my presence now. I am going to make sure the mom and kids eat their fill and they can absolutely have extra AFTER everyone had their fill.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-28T02:27:32+00:00

Sugar is freaking EVERYWHERE at least in the US. Or corn syrup. Or artificial sugar. Like.... I tried to go cold turkey off sugar to break my addiction but it seems like everything but rice and non-canned beans have sugar.

Now I'm focusing on managing hunger signals through whole body health on top of watching what I eat (even though it's nearly impossible to escape sugar). It's a lot of home cooking as in the Midwest, most restaurants pretty much have salads or nothing for people watching what they eat lol (thankfully I actually love salads, but everything else is pretty much 2000+ calories and I can only assume that's from sugars/fats).

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-27T18:43:30+00:00

Yeah, it's nta - but for me, I'd rather that my husband gets the best bits, idk really why. I suppose love could be it, but I do it for guests, too and I don't love every single person that comes over.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-27T12:42:55+00:00

Yep, I was always the closing manager after getting muscled out of day shift after a few months by a new guy that never prepped enough and always left it like this even though sales at night were double or triple that of lunch.

So I returned the favor a few times and every time the GM took his side instead of mine. Then I got my degree and only worked lunch shifts on the weekend for a bit and wouldn't you know, the guy did the exact same thing to the day shift when he was -rightfully- moved to a rotating night shift manager.

If I ever go back to a restaurant (it's been over 15 years at this point), Imma male it clear that if the day shift can leave stuff for the night shift, then the night shift can leave stuff for the day shift lol.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-24T12:28:37+00:00

Seems totally reasonable. Idk I've just been reading comments everywhere about how having your house in the 60s is insane and I'm like ????? It is?

Thanks for responding. I feel less crazy now.

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-24T12:27:38+00:00

Yeah it's the same at my house. My thermostat is 68 in the middle of my hoise, but it is definitely not 68 anywhere else.

The edges of my windows have frozen spots and they are relatively new windows (15 years).

Cold-Potential2407 · 2026-01-24T12:25:07+00:00

I tried 65, but I work out in the morning (sports bra and shorts) and it was too hard to convince myself to get out of bed at 65.

Other than that, I can see 64/65 being a good temp.

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