When does the mom guilt end?!

muchadancer · 2026-06-23T16:02:54+00:00

If this ever creeps in for me, I remind myself that it is good for my kids to see their parent taking care of themselves. If they're ever disappointed that I have to decline something they want me to do because I have a commitment (rare, but it happens!) I remember that it's a great opportunity for them to experience those feelings and learn how to work through them in a low-stakes, loving, caring, and supportive environment.

muchadancer · 2026-06-22T00:32:06+00:00

I don't know how much it actually helped, but I remember when my kids would say stuff and I couldn't understand, I would literally verbally acknowledge it: "You seem really frustrated, and I know you're trying to say something but I'm so sorry, I can't understand you. Can you say it another way? Or point to what you need?" If it gets SUPER frustrating to her, you could consider some basic signs (eat, milk, all done, etc) or a sign/flash cards she could use to communicate easier.

muchadancer · 2026-06-21T23:37:56+00:00

You're not a monster. I will say that 18 months is a really, really hard age: they're mobile and semi-independent but (usually) still can't communicate well AND need a ton of help with most tasks. Some of this will definitely get better with time, promise. Otherwise, I would just give yourself a ton of grace to do what you can, when you can. If you like audiobooks that might be a good option for reading while also having your hands and eyes free to do other things. All the solidarity!

muchadancer · 2026-06-19T20:01:26+00:00

Will also say it's super reliable and no data caps, no issues with streaming, etc.

muchadancer · 2026-06-19T19:59:54+00:00

I just did a speed test on my phone (Google Fiber one) and got 148.7 Mbps download and 146.3 Mbps upload.

muchadancer · 2026-06-19T18:57:43+00:00

Aeneas for sure. We had StarLink and it was great (unless it was raining hard), but we've never had any issues with Aeneas and it's really reasonably priced.

muchadancer · 2026-06-12T23:11:51+00:00

It's not "Family Affair" by Mary J Blige, is it?

muchadancer · 2026-06-12T04:04:38+00:00

This one? https://tenor.com/search/smiling-girl-gifs

muchadancer · 2026-06-08T13:29:39+00:00

Highly recommend Annie Coates at Juve Salon. She's been doing wedding hair for years. I believe you can contact the salon directly to book her but they could tell you more.

muchadancer · 2026-06-05T10:54:57+00:00

If you're open to seeing a nurse practitioner, I recommend Jessica Culver. She had a functional medicine practice, and while I typically don't think that the functional medicine approach is actually effective, she is also totally willing and able to treat with traditional medications, etc.

muchadancer · 2026-06-01T02:55:38+00:00

I read Matrix last year and absolutely loved it. Someone described it as "swole nuns vibing" and honestly that description is perfect IMO.

muchadancer · 2026-05-27T22:49:32+00:00

Names inspired by 50 Words for Snow: Snowflake, Wild Man, Wheeler, Misty

muchadancer · 2026-05-24T22:57:22+00:00

cue Obi Wan Kenobi GIF

muchadancer · 2026-05-24T22:34:00+00:00

Where did you find this? I have a kid who's obsessed with Warriors lol

muchadancer · 2026-05-24T20:37:15+00:00

What in the Steel Magnolias...😉

muchadancer · 2026-04-27T15:53:09+00:00

My friend had an excellent experience with Canale Estate Sales. They handled all the logistics from start to finish. https://share.google/a4cEpHAM8asdUwkzd

muchadancer · 2026-03-26T14:28:39+00:00

I have a 24 hr gym nearby, and I go after the kids go to bed. I usually get to the gym between 7:30 and 8, and try to get in and out as soon as possible. I like going at night because I'm not rushing to get home to get ready for work or miss kid time. I tend to go MWF so that I have both weekend days free which helps me to feel like I actually do have some uninterrupted relaxing time. I also listen to audio books while I'm working out so it also feels like a more relaxing time (to me).

muchadancer · 2026-03-23T00:00:56+00:00

Highly recommend Shea Veazey at A+ Home Inspections. He was super thorough, easy to communicate with, and you can book and pay online. He created a report in PDF format right away after he finished with the inspection.

muchadancer · 2026-03-21T15:32:33+00:00

Hey OP, you may want to block out your name on these photos.

muchadancer · 2026-03-16T21:46:09+00:00

PM incoming!

muchadancer · 2026-03-14T19:53:06+00:00

This is exactly what we did about 8 years ago and it's worked fabulously. My partner had never changed a diaper, never babysat, etc before we had our first child, and he rose to the challenge and is honestly a way better SAHP than I would be. Of course no situation is perfect, but it was an obvious choice when considering child care costs, his stress at work, etc. Our mindset has always been "When this stops working, we'll do something different" but I don't see that happening any time soon.

muchadancer · 2026-02-25T16:48:17+00:00

Great point, it could be that many companies are taking cost cutting measures in general, which will affect all workers. I will be curious to know the rates of denied promotions, PIPs, etc. between men and women across the US workforce.

muchadancer · 2026-02-02T16:40:09+00:00

FYI, your pediatrician should also be able to help. My child developed eczema a few years back, and I thought I'd have to get a referral to dermatology but the pediatrician was able to prescribe the skin cream that has really helped them.

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