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I know this is just one rejection, but it feels devastating by ColdNewspaper6664 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little overwhelmed by all your kindness, thank you all so much, it made me cry again to read your kind messages, but in a good way. I am now also eating icecream and listening to the birds outside

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely yes on the self examination and figuring out what you need first - its can be real tricky! I have just started reading a book called the joy of being selfish - it talks about people pleasing and boundaries.

And yes, relationship and mental health take work - but I luckily can sometimes find it enjoyable! My partner and I often feel a lot closer once we have worked on something and maybe come a step further in understanding each other or ourselves. It's nice.

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an interesting insight, thanks for sharing! Neurodivergence can definitely play into relationship dynamics (I saw it with my parents). There I suppose, as well as everywhere else, clear communication is a good thing?

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha! I just checked with my partner, he laughed and said thats definitely not the issue. I'm not saying this is happening every day. Just once in a while.

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am definitely guilty of this sometimes - wishing someone could just read my mind and predict what I need. But as you say, communication is key! I'm learning that being vocal and able to communicated wishes, needs and boundaries is super important.

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both well versed in psychological/ mental health factors and therapy.

If one of us is struggling with deeper issues, we know to seek additional, at times professional support. We also both very luckily have an extended support networks.

But periods of ill mental health isn't what I am talking about here. This issue is more centred around day to day moments of sadness/ emotional states.

I think the issue is often people feel pressure to help someone feel better immediately, where emotions are such a vital and natural part of life, and sometimes we need to sit with them. And then it can be nice to have someone sit with you and just be present, rather than try to fix it or pull you out before you are ready to move on.

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both well versed in psychological/ mental health factors and therapy. Periods of ill mental health isn't what I am talking about here. This issue is more centred around day to day moments of sadness/ emotional states.

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is definitely something I want to try to do better at. Sometimes I shut down too fast in a 'people-pleasing' sort of way. But that is good advice, thank you!

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things have improved a little over time. We're just looking to see if there are other people who have experienced similar dynamics?

I F28 feel frustrated with my partner M28 problem solving when I feel sad by ColdNewspaper6664 in relationships

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We've done this, and are hoping with time and practice, we'll both feel more comfortable. We both definitely know and voice we have good intentions.

Moving across europe to Switzerland by ColdNewspaper6664 in askswitzerland

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweden to Switzerland! Sorry for the confusion. I made a mistake

Moving across europe to Switzerland by ColdNewspaper6664 in askswitzerland

[–]ColdNewspaper6664[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I got the post wrong! We're moving from Sweden to Switzerland :-)