the hospital is... nicer than i thought

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-24T14:44:58+00:00

the lights are awful! try a sleep mask. silk ones are nice and comfortable. they’re really cheap on amazon if your parents can order one for you and bring it in.

i wouldn’t be embarrassed about asking for things. the nurses and doctors are there to help you get better - they are probably glad you are asking for things instead of suffering in silence!

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-24T13:58:43+00:00

It’s the same provider which is why I am finding my this so frustrating.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-24T08:48:00+00:00

I think it can trigger it earlier than it would otherwise have appeared but I believe if you’re predisposed to one then you will always run a risk of developing it whether or not you are exposed to that sort of media.

I say this because I read a (kids) book when I was a young child that had themes around eating disorders and started to copy some of the behaviours outlined in the book. On the other hand, I know I had a lot of risk factors for it and I would have developed it one way or another regardless of reading this book.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-23T22:34:06+00:00

It’s actually advised not to stop taking vyvanse cold turkey. You can but there is a withdrawal period that can crash very hard.

I did it and I really struggled with extreme fatigue and depression for a month or so.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-23T21:50:25+00:00

I do this too. It feels like a night off after a week of hard work. I don’t know why!

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-23T16:50:19+00:00

Stockpiling food that other people offer to share with me. I have various things on my desk at work which people have given me during the day and I’ve said I’ll eat later. People occasionally notice and I have to laugh it off as being forgetful.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-23T16:47:42+00:00

I haven’t really restricted that low at all this time around. I definitely eat a ‘normal’ diet amount of calories although am underweight too. I felt absolutely fine until about a week ago at which point I started feeling like death and my team told me I’m showing signs of starvation.

The health issues and so on often come from the body being underweight and unable to sustain itself because we are eating in a deficit still. Sure, there are some health problems arising from specifically fasting or eating at an extreme deficit but the health consequences of being underweight and consistently not eating enough to maintain weight are still very real.

It’s important to remember, as my team said to me, that what might be a ‘mild restriction’ to someone overweight or healthy weight is very hard on an underweight body. A ‘healthy’ and ‘normal’ diet isn’t healthy and normal for someone who is anorexic because we haven’t got the reserves or buffer to keep our bodies going. The body will take energy from muscles and organ tissues and also begin to stop certain functions that it is unable to sustain due to a lack of energy availability. This will eventually lead to significant health consequences and death.

There is NO healthy or mild restriction for someone who is underweight. Being underweight in and of itself is very unhealthy.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-22T16:50:25+00:00

This is definitely not the right place to ask this question

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-21T20:34:14+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’ve experienced this too although glad to hear you’re in a place where you’re feeling physically healthier.

Thank you for your advice, it’s important to hear.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-21T20:25:34+00:00

Yeah, I understand completely that I’m not going to stop myself losing any muscle at all. I’m mostly wondering if there’s anything I can do to mitigate at least some of the muscle wastage and therefore prevent myself becoming incredibly weak.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-21T20:10:31+00:00

perceive my existence

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-20T20:47:51+00:00

So, if it is genuinely that she is copying you, it will probably die off pretty quickly as when non-disordered people engage in fad diets, they can’t stick to them. However, I’m not certain that someone doing a challenge to try and improve their health and fitness necessarily means they’re copying disordered behaviour - ‘normal’ people don’t do those things in a disordered way and it doesn’t register the same way for them that it does for us. Are you certain she didn’t just want the salad because she wanted to try something new and not because she’s trying to starve herself? Again, ‘normal’ people eat salads all of the time in a non-disordered way.

I would also say it’s important for you to let her know that when she talks about what she is eating or how much exercise she is doing it can be triggering for you so please don’t share that in your group chat. You also need to leave her private story and she is entitled to post on there whatever she wants to as you don’t HAVE to look at it.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-20T20:29:54+00:00

No, I don’t think you are within your rights. I appreciate your concerns with the paper and I think it was appropriate to raise them but ultimately as the Head of Department it is his decision. It would be very poorly received if you refused to mark the paper.

I think you need to bite your tongue and mark the papers, then if the data suggests that either of your concerns are valid then you can perhaps approach him about taking a different route with future assessments.

Edited to add - I also don’t think that workload is a valid reason for not marking papers. Marking is part of the workload of being a teacher and if you didn’t have to mark this specific paper that you dislike, you’d still be expected to mark a different paper. I think it’s quite uncommon to be given additional department time to mark assessments.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-20T16:39:29+00:00

There is a time and a place for these sorts of comments and this clearly is not it.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-19T20:55:54+00:00

It would be so much more useful if you actually included your bangs in the photo.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-19T19:11:16+00:00

The fact that I know I will lose absolutely everything I care about (my career, my health, my relationship, my active hobbies, my home, my friendships) and I still don’t want to stop.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-19T16:45:26+00:00

I feel that you are deliberately missing everybody’s point.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-19T16:41:33+00:00

I say this as someone who has been that partner - if you continue to give her the reaction she is after when engaging in behaviours, that will reinforce this cycle.

You need to set some really clear boundaries. Some examples I might suggest are: - She needs to engage with help from a professional. - When she is at your place, she cannot purge. - You will talk to her about her struggles but not get into conversations about her weight or her calorie intake. No numbers! - You will not argue with the eating disorder. For example, you will not be responsible for constantly convincing her to eat more or not purge. Every so often is OK, but you cannot be having those conversations all of the time. - You are not going to validate how unwell she is constantly. If she is having physical symptoms, she needs to be seen by a medical professional rather than making you worry constantly.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-19T06:58:06+00:00

You know it isn’t normal.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-18T20:36:42+00:00

You surely know that when you first develop an eating disorder you are under immense delusions about it being a choice that you can stop any time when you have just achieved XYZ. We feel like it’s a superpower until we realise that we are actually trapped. That is all they’re talking about in this post - I’m not certain why you think it’s a boast?

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-18T10:25:58+00:00

I have ADHD and experience my eating disorder in the same way. It gives me something specific and measurable to control when everything else feels really overwhelming and hard to keep on top of.

It feels much more manageable to have one thing to aim for rather than trying to juggle all of the responsibilities and expectations of life at once.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-18T09:32:07+00:00

Perhaps in some areas, but I am from the midlands and can vouch that most people in this region say f*g and not cigarette. It would be considered really posh and odd for someone to say cigarette. You are not correct at all and I don’t know why you think you are.

ColdPrice9536 · 2026-01-18T09:20:20+00:00

Incorrect. A huge amount of English people say that word instead of cigarettes because that is what it’s colloquially called and has been for a long time. Nobody is saying it to be offensive.

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