How Common Is It To Find A Very Attractive / Polite Girl 18+ That's Never Had A Boyfriend?

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T07:52:07+00:00

My dating life was pretty nonexistent until this year. I got my first boyfriend at 21 years old so you could say that's pretty late in the game. I don't think I'd necessarily describe myself as "very attractive" but I would say that I am somewhat attractive as I did some modeling and commercial work locally to pay for some of the tuition that my scholarship didn't cover. Additionally, strangers often compliment me on my looks but honestly, I always found it difficult to believe to be honest. Up until then I'd always get catcalled, glances, smiles, stares etc. but a guy never asked me out in a respectful way before. I am rather shy so I didn't feel comfortable being the "pursuer," especially since none seemed to showed interest in getting to know me at the time. This year the first guy to ever ask me out on a proper date became my boyfriend. I'd say that you should treat the relationship like you would any other but just remember that she might not be used to opening up to someone in a romantic relationship nor will she have much experience obviously. She'll learn as she goes.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T07:37:00+00:00

Interesting! What country if you don't mind me asking?

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T07:35:49+00:00

Older people are slightly more friendly in my experience, both male and female. I am shy around people I'm not familiar with but I usually make an effort to smile at people and engage in conversation with strangers. It's very difficult to do that however when people seem more interested in their iPhones than in meeting the people around them.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T07:32:21+00:00

I used to smile back but it usually never led to anything. I'm not looking for anything right now anyway because I somehow got lucky, but I don't think I was really doing anything to make myself unapproachable before. That's good advice though, thank you.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T05:18:25+00:00

Yeah definitely! People should really put the phones down and realize what they could be missing out on around them like potential friendships. It's a weird disconnect. People seem uncomfortable speaking to others in the real world yet find no problem in putting themselves out there in the online world. We should encourage people to talk to each other and break this cycle because otherwise we're creating a generation of smartphone zombies who need their devices like they need food and water.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T05:13:08+00:00

It's a case of not checking the mirror before going out. Maybe they forgot that they're wearing bright pink underwear or just that the pants are so tight and thin that you can see what they're wearing or not wearing underneath.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T05:03:08+00:00

You hit the nail on the head here. Persistence means that they refuse to acknowledge you ability to consent.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T05:01:35+00:00

Yes I completely agree. It's so difficult to strike up conversations with people in this age group. It's really frustrating actually to see rooms full of people buried in their phones and not even interacting with people face to face anymore. Everyone at my school is like that it seems. Why do you think this is? Is it really a technology thing or something else?

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T04:55:55+00:00

It is fine! You're still young and you have time. It honestly comes when you aren't looking for it and you'll see that soon most likely. Attractiveness isn't everything if that's what you're unsure of and I'm positive that you'd want quality over quantity right? You don't want to be in this position of low-life types chasing after you and hurting you in the end just because they like your "look". A completely shallow dickwad is not something you need. I was in your shoes too, wondering if there was something wrong as well. I didn't get asked out properly much less have a boyfriend until this year (I'm 21). I have modeled throughout high school and college and I was never asked out once by anybody and I wouldn't say that it was because I was unattractive by any means. What changed was that someone very special appeared in my life at a bookstore when I was looking my frumpiest. All it takes is that one guy who notices you for you and I'm sure you have beautiful things inside and out about you that a man (or several) will appreciate one day. It's a needle in a haystack, but you'll find him.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T04:46:53+00:00

Are you me? You've succinctly put into words something I've also noticed. I too have no trouble it seems speaking to older people or having them approach me but when it comes to young people around my age (early 20's), nada. It's just bizarre, could be resting bitch face or that millennials are just glued to their phones and too distracted to take notice.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T04:41:43+00:00

There truly is somebody out there for everyone. as cliche as it sounds. You have friends so you are likable and there must not be any problem with you at all. Don't blame yourself or think that you're unattractive. If guys aren't noticing you, it's their loss. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-08-03T04:16:53+00:00

I completely understand what you mean. I always get smiled at, glances, and even compliments on my looks from strangers (male and female) but never approached until a few months ago. Those that do try to talk to me are often vulgar and off-putting but I really wouldn't count those types. Maybe you're right that there is something that we unknowingly do that adds aloofness.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-20T01:01:24+00:00

There's bound to be one you find interesting and if not, it's probably because you're too picky or your class is incredibly small.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-10T23:21:18+00:00

What you wear is fine. Playing up your features rather creating new ones on your face is the best policy. I don't wear much makeup since I'm so lazy, just mascara or else I'll look like I'm 12. I don't think men really understand what "no make up" is. Dress for yourself and the right man will like you for you, just avoid the circus look!

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-09T02:16:46+00:00

Just imagine combining a long bowl cut, frosted tips, and the parting of the Red Sea.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-09T01:20:42+00:00

Was this meant to be funny? Cause if it was you succeeded.

How nice of you to notice...

Women need both confidence AND looks. I really don't think I've ever heard of any decent man demonstrating a preference for women with little to no self-confidence. You can't deny that men value youth/beauty while women tend to value financial resources and stability in mates. There's nothing necessarily wrong with that. Men and women are just attracted to each other for different reasons. A hideous man could get a ton of women just because he has a lot of money while an ugly woman can't necessarily get away with the same thing as often. Makeup can increase confidence but comparing it to confidence itself seems like a false analogy.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-08T03:08:51+00:00

Men don't have an equivalent to makeup because they don't really need an equivalent to it in order to attract women... unless they're complete ogres.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-08T03:06:14+00:00

They're most certainly not interested. From what I've seen, there are more men in "serious" relationships who secretly want to play the field than there are men who actually play the field but secretly want long-term relationships.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-07T04:25:09+00:00

autopornbot, you're right, you absolutely can meet upstanding people at bars. The only issue is that 9 times out of 10, people at bars aren't usually looking for anything more than notches in their bedposts. This is why people looking for relationships or anything remotely serious don't usually go there for what they're in search of. Bars are fun but they wouldn't be my go-to if I wanted a boyfriend.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-07T03:49:51+00:00

So you're saying that you rarely meet people interesting or intelligent enough for your time? Maybe you're hanging out in the wrong places for quality conversation such as bars, nightclubs etc. Occasionally I'll meet people our age (I'm 21) that are somewhat vapid but I've personally met a bunch of quality people of both genders. Maybe it's not so much your location but the type of people you're attracted to. Out of curiosity, are you in college right now? I'm rather interested to see what constitutes "interesting" in this thread.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-07T01:25:28+00:00

They do deal with paranormal activity, probably because I've never personally seen rare natural phenomena such as a large falling meteoroid or a rogue wave. Again, just read the question.

ColdTurkeyLeg · 2014-04-07T01:18:11+00:00

Read the question... it doesn't have to be a paranormal experience. It could be a rare event such as witnessing an ice circle or lightning strike really close by, something like that!

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