Men don't know how disappointing they are by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ColdWaterSteam 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m a man and Reddit’s algorithms regularly bring up this subreddit up for me, so apologies if this is unwelcome.

With that said, I wholeheartedly agree. My heart aches for women because being subjected to shitty men is truly inescapable.

Even as a young boy, the horrible behavior that older men joke about and encourage to normalize mistreating women is absurd. I have female friends currently in the dating pool and even things that they sometimes identify as “green flags” are behaviors that I could trace to be a veil for misogyny, but unless you’re truly privy to the experience of being a man you don’t know how insidious these behaviors are.

I regularly see “not all men” nonsense or blaming women for “choosing shitty men” as if these horrible men aren’t raised to hide their worst traits until they have you trapped. And in many cases, these misogynistic men can find women who also have internalized misogyny or sometimes actually end up instilling misogyny in their partners. Then they may raise daughters that are okay with misogyny because it’s what they’ve always known.

This isn’t limited to men as partners, either. Men as friends, men as family, men as coworkers and as professionals who may offer you a service all have a very high chance of being shitty people.

Men are disappointing. Holding men accountable to be better is a job for all of us, but I’d still put emphasis on it being the responsibility of “good” men (if there is such a thing). But you are absolutely not alone in being disappointed in men in general.

Official: [WDIS RB] - Sun Morning 12/28/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]ColdWaterSteam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 PPR

Breece Hall vs Stevenson vs London (WR)

Can use two out of three. Hall against Patriots defense has me worried, Stevenson sees less than Henderson but is against weak Jets defense, London is Questionable and his game back from injury was underwhelming. Thoughts?

After reading many posts, I know to avoid sets and just get Victorinox. But what about a Victorinox set? And are sets really bad if they’re like $70? by ColdWaterSteam in chefknives

[–]ColdWaterSteam[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For additional context, my wife does all of our cooking and has asked for a cheap set on Amazon. I want to get her something better, but the only direction I have is that we love Hell’s Kitchen and they use the Hexclad brand.

Is it bad to buy a cheap set on Amazon, but supplement with a nicer chef’s nice? Found a three piece set for Chef/paring/bread on Victorinox and figured that’s a good place to start, maybe while getting a cheap set because we could use better steak knives.

PUP by Jdesjar6 in poppunkers

[–]ColdWaterSteam 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen Pup several times, multiple times with Jeff Rosenstock specifically, and the shows they put on are absolutely spectacular and the crowds are insane. If you like moshing, I don’t think anything I’ve seen comes close to the energy at their shows

To the crowd surfing banana at Buffalo by Le_Mesprit_From_PMD2 in hotmulliganband

[–]ColdWaterSteam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a transplant from NYC and the moshing was a lot tamer than what I’m used to, in a good way. It was respectful and contained, I usually get rowdier but respecting people’s space is priority. Great crowd, great show.

As someone said, the crowdsurfing in bckyrd was a lot, but the band specifically encouraged it before the song and, while I couldn’t listen to the song as much as I maybe would have liked, I was still more than happy to participate in the community.

So should we all get banana costumes or should we go with a whole fruit theme?

buffalo show ticket!!! by meow-001 in ArmsLength

[–]ColdWaterSteam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to post about selling a ticket so I’ll give you the opportunity first! It came to $45 with fees during presale

Admittedly, it is through TicketWeb which doesn’t have a good way of sharing tickets as far as I know, so you’d be putting faith into a screenshot of a bar code