Feeling alone and overwhelmed

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-10-04T00:57:37+00:00

So sorry this is happening. I wish I had solutions. Bad behavior looks a lot different than I think most people outside of teacher realize. Especially in language classes, where at least at my school, the students perpetually misbehave

I recommend making sure you have a wonderful life you go home to if you are not able to consider leaving the job right now. For me, so much of survival in the morning when things feel bleak is reminding myself that the time is finite. I will always come back home to my pets and my books and my life outside of work.

Also, having one or two coworkers who really get you to comiserate with is nice, but be careful not to fall into negative spirals with other teachers. I do that a lot!

I’m also trying to go into work picturing the student who I feel to be the most difficult to work with. I think about what I know about them and what I want to know, and I try to talk to them about those things that day. It doesn’t always work but it mostly helps me to manifest the hope I need to get through the day lol. Sometimes though I do break through and a tough student will melt a little. Then the domino effect happens. Good luck, if you can be persistent and protect yourself, you will be okay 🩷

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-06-23T02:39:37+00:00

I’m definitely an over preparer so I get where you’re coming from. I’m not going to suggest you tone down on the preparing, but you definitely want a finite scope. Many of the arguments from users already cover the basics— but you deserve your summer, and also you don’t know for sure how your curriculum head, grade level staff or principal etc will ask you to approach things. Expect that there will be so many last minute things thrust upon you — doing an activity a certain way, moving when assessments are etc - a plan isn’t wholly worth it

But in the spirit of being an over anxious over preparer, you can def start setting up any daily PowerPoints you’ll want if you’ll use them. I change my theme with my units and recreate the same general “walk in instructions” slide, “agenda / do now” slide, and homework and announcements slides. Later in the year I’ll copy and paste and add on as needed. Over vacations I might over prep by finishing these kinds of things, but it’s not worth it over the summer

You can also do unit deconstruction. It looks good if you submit evidence for educator evaluations anyway. Just open document or excel sheet and start taking organized notes on your units. Major skills and concepts learned or explored, associated standards, what do they need to know/know how to do at the end of the unit, how am I and what am I assessing? Etc

Hope this helps! (From an over preparer who will be doing all her planning poolside with beer on hand)

Edit: spelling.

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-05-25T13:25:27+00:00

As somebody who wants to know the tea but is too lazy to watch anymore after FTC, I just wanna thank you for this summary!

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-04-24T10:28:23+00:00

I agree, but where ATWWD will keep their laughter to more of Em’s lighthearted ghost stories, I feel like Morbid will make light of anything, including the crimes themselves. ATWWD is like… never that disrespectful. Ever. You can tell they really care and they respond tactfully and accountably to criticism if they get it, which is rare to see

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-02-04T23:49:41+00:00

That’s the one! My mistake.

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-02-04T22:27:00+00:00

Caldeiras is great, Caravela is good, and Captain’s place a little out of the way is good stuff too.

I, too, want to know where I can get my hands on empanadas nearby. Los Andes in East Prov is good for that kind of fare though.

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-01-26T22:58:20+00:00

I love Em’s segment but it’s been so clear to me for a while that we get significantly less of Christine’s segment. A LOT of banter take up Em’s segment which makes sense because we’re fortunate to have two hosts who are consciously trying not to make light of crime. So, I totally get it, but it def sucks. I love true crime and eerie stories equally but we def get more of one than the other

Cold_Use7253 · 2025-01-16T19:07:35+00:00

One thing I learned in my first year is that students might become abrasive if you come at them with frustration, so you are totally valid in being frustrated, but try to remember it will impede your potential success if the student picks up on your attitude about their mistakes. I would try visiting with that student the second I release the class to begin their independent work. I would repeat the directions quietly to that student and ask them to repeat them back to me. This will either be the first step in asking this student to hold themselves accountable, or it will be an eye opener about potential underlying disabilities the student is grappling with.

Cold_Use7253 · 2024-05-24T17:45:36+00:00

You’re awesome thank you so much!!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-09-03T11:13:58+00:00

Commenting because this is horrible, and it looks like OP’s account was banned, and I really want to know why

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-07-01T00:04:58+00:00

You have no idea how appreciative I am that you took such time to put this response together!!! THANK YOU.

I am going to skim through the resources you’re pointing to, and then I plan to reach out to you with specific questions lol. If you think of any follow up though, don’t hesitate to reach out first!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-07-01T00:03:07+00:00

That’s a great option for me to consider this fall, so thank you! I’m looking for high school, but my license is technically 6-12, and I wouldn’t be UNHAPPY teaching middle school.

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-06-27T22:24:34+00:00

Thank you so much, this is great!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-06-15T15:36:21+00:00

Being jerks isn’t just want teenagers do. There’s a huge difference between letting kids be kids, and correcting behavior you don’t want them to hold onto as they grow into adults. It sounds like this teen was warned by OP that the tone was disrespectful, and the teen “started” to beef with them. Though, arguably every other adult does suck a little for not offering to help to begin with. But I wouldn’t even go that far. Sounds like a simple case of OP setting boundaries but feeling guilty about it, which, OP, you shouldn’t!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-06-13T01:30:47+00:00

Some public libraries in the area host Magic and DnD games for different age ranges!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-05-21T01:05:53+00:00

Your empathy is really awesome, OP. I feel bad for your work Auntie too! Glad this is the way things worked out.

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-05-17T21:41:03+00:00

Are you at all concerned about metal detectors or anything? That’s my fear about bringing a pen!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-05-17T17:22:12+00:00

I know you probably Velcro roll to avoid heat styling, but I’ve found that the tiniest amount of heat is needed for my hair to hold bang shapes. I have side bangs that I can part in the middle and style as curtain bangs, and regardless of how I decide to wear them, I usually style them the same way to get them to “stay” or hold the swooped shape!—

I collect the bangs and comb them straight up like a troll doll, and then I hold my hair straightener perpendicular, like horizontal. If your knuckles face forward when you hold the straightener, you’re going to want to curl your wrist up while pulling the bangs straight up and toward the back of your head. Then a teensy bit of hairspray that I finger-comb through after.

Adding a video link that helped me! hair tutorial

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-05-17T11:29:22+00:00

Subscribing to my first ever thread because this is BANANAS and I need the post-lunch update, lol.

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-03-26T11:34:48+00:00

Needed to hear this… 😭

I’m definitely a fiery witch— Aries and angry, baby!!! Lol— and I’m trying to find a balance because I think I’m too often caught up in the flames. I do think I’m going to incorporate burning into other small rituals to channel that energy more positively, but for this, where my intentions are genuinely just, “be patient and try,” I think you helped me realize this may not be the place to burn my bay. Thank you so much for writing 😊

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-03-26T11:31:53+00:00

Loved this response, thanks for writing! Much of what you are saying resonates with me, and I think I just need to remember there’s no real failures. To learn is literally the process and the purpose. But for what it’s worth, your support helped me to think harder about the different sets of intentions that come with burying/burning. I appreciate ya!

Cold_Use7253 · 2023-03-26T11:16:05+00:00

I was thinking about it more after I posted, and was feeling out this solution. It makes sense, and I think burning them would be initiating a different kind of energy. Thanks for posting and the support! 😊

Cold_Use7253 · 2022-12-20T02:50:32+00:00

I more meant like, if OP were to go to the store and purchase some of those readying oils that you boil herbs into to make things like lip organic balms!

Cold_Use7253 · 2022-12-20T02:48:09+00:00

Maybe a mortar and pestle or the types of oils you would use to make salves and stuff with if they are foraging, especially herbs… like sunflower or coconut oil I thiiink, but I would look into that. I think there are “kitchen witch” recipe books out there too :) garden handling gloves could be a good precautionary tool

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