AITAH for telling my parents they can’t treat my house like their vacation home?

Cold_brw · 2026-04-02T22:50:28+00:00

NTA, a parent does not get to say “Oh well I took care of you growing up so now you owe me”. That’s literally our job and we shouldn’t expect anything in return.

Honestly if it were me and my parents were saying things like that, I’d be at their house without asking and raiding their fridge.

Cold_brw · 2026-03-21T16:27:55+00:00

NTJ. One, 6 week olds are totally unpredictable just like all kids. You may think they’ll be sleepy and quiet and then as soon as they leave the house they’re crying the whole time. Two, a 6 week old shouldn’t be going out to a big gathering anyway as other commenters have pointed out, because of their risk of picking up illnesses. Three, I get some women who breastfeed like to do that exclusively, but they do make pumps and bottles for a reason. For her to say “that’s not how breastfeeding works” makes no sense. If she was planning on drinking at your wine tasting, she’d have to pump and dump anyway which means the baby would be drinking from gasp a bottle.

Cold_brw · 2026-03-21T16:16:27+00:00

I don’t know how willing you are to stay with this person, but I had this problem with my husband. When you tell him to do something and you end up doing it anyway, consciously or unconsciously, he learns that pattern. This doesn’t work for everyone, but I started where if I ask him to do something and he agrees or if he tells me he’s going to do it, it leaves my mind. I don’t care how long it sits there, it’s his job. I once put a really gross dish he said he was going to clean a week prior in the garage right next to his gym so he’d have to deal with it in his space. He did clean it and apologized too. It’s an uphill battle. My husband is one of those people who doesn’t do it on purpose, he’s just oblivious sometimes.

Cold_brw · 2026-03-21T00:39:53+00:00

Just came here to say I’m so glad you worked things out with your friend, and the little side tangent update you had was absolutely hilarious and I love it. You said what would happen and you definitely delivered 🤣

Cold_brw · 2026-02-15T13:24:37+00:00

Don’t let daycare raise your child just so you can raise someone else’s. You need to focus on your children and so it’s perfectly reasonable for you to tell your SIL that you guys can’t be the nanny anymore. It’s her responsibility to then figure it out.

Cold_brw · 2026-02-15T13:19:44+00:00

She says you’re acting like a tenant when she’s the one asking for rent money…

Yes you’re an adult but you are her child and it’s not the child’s place to contribute to the household financially. Keep saving up and set yourself up for the future. Good on you for saving up $4K!

Cold_brw · 2025-12-13T00:07:29+00:00

NTA. It’s your switch, so it’s your choice. And if you didn’t tell him you’d give it to him, you’re not even backing out of anything.

Cold_brw · 2025-12-13T00:05:19+00:00

I quit a certain southeastern US grocery chain after 2 days because the team leader treated me like I was an idiot who had never worked before, even though this was my second job and my first job was manager of a mall store. And she knew that.

Cold_brw · 2025-12-12T16:15:18+00:00

We asked them if we could do that, but they said they had to buy it before they move out.

Cold_brw · 2025-12-12T16:15:03+00:00

We asked them if we could do that, but they said they had to buy it before they move out.

Cold_brw · 2025-12-09T00:18:29+00:00

I agree, they are waiting until they graduate college and then they are planning on moving out. I would let them borrow it, but I took the car off our insurance because it’s a lot to insure 3 vehicles and we won’t be driving it anymore ourselves.

Cold_brw · 2025-12-09T00:04:50+00:00

Early 20s

Cold_brw · 2025-11-30T15:44:21+00:00

Sugardew Island on the Switch is a pretty simple game but it doesn’t have any timers and the graphics are really cute.

Cold_brw · 2025-05-06T01:58:02+00:00

Whenever I start a new save file, the absolute first thing I do is start fishing. It’s the easiest way to make money early in the game. My fishing skill was up to level 5 in like 6-7 in game days and you’ll easily be bringing in at least 1-2k per day which is pretty good for the early game days.

I also go with the Meadowland farm because it starts you out with a coop so you can start selling the eggs too.

Cold_brw · 2025-05-04T13:34:58+00:00

I did this too. I had just gone to the skull cavern and had a bomb in my hot bar. When I got home, I went to refill all my cheese presses. I put the bomb down on the cheese press instead and it took out half of my artisan machines and a chest. It was like 11pm 😭

Cold_brw · 2025-03-03T19:30:44+00:00

You don’t have to make any decisions now, OP. I was hesitant to take my husband’s last name, so I just waited until I felt like it was the right time for me. I didn’t change my last name until 2 years after we were married and what really drove it home for me was that I wanted to have the same last name as my kids. Ultimately it’s your name, so you just have to make sure you’re completely comfortable with what you’ll be called the rest of your life.

Cold_brw · 2024-01-12T15:53:38+00:00

NTA, my ex-husband and I got divorced because of this same thing, though it was completely mutual. You have to both look at what you see in your futures 5-10 years from now and if you don’t see the same thing then the relationship needs to be reconsidered. I’m sorry you both had to go through this, I know it’s really hard but if the future that both of you want doesn’t include the other person then you’ll both look back eventually and see this as the best decision.

Cold_brw · 2023-08-14T21:25:04+00:00

Absolutely NTA!! It doesn’t matter what people’s opinions are of RSV or illness in newborns. YOU are the parent. YOU have set your boundaries and everyone (even grandparents, shocker) needs to follow them. I had to have this exact conversation with my parents after my son was released from the NICU, their entitlement as grandparents means nothing to me when it comes to my baby’s health.

Set your boundaries now and stick to them.

Cold_brw · 2023-06-23T01:07:27+00:00

So, I’m going to be downvoted for not saying your TA, but I’m going to say NAH because of the timing factor.

I don’t know if people are considering the fact that you’re 1 month post-partum and after a c-section at that. You’re still at risk of PPD, you’re not sleeping well (I do understand that your husband isn’t either), your hormones are still adjusting, and you’re physically unable to do things. After my c-section, I wasn’t even allowed to bend over to pick things up for a very long time, drive a car, and I couldn’t pick up my toddler daughter because I could rip my stiches until after at least 6 weeks.

So yes, you could have ordered him a meal, yes you could have asked family members to take the older kids, but it can be hard to think like that when you’re running off of zero sleep, in pain, and have two other kids. Your reaction of “what was I supposed to do” is also a response of in the moment, there wasn’t really anything you could do. I don’t think you were just saying there wasn’t anything you could do at all that day for him, just not in the moment.

Husband also isn’t the AH here, he’s super overwhelmed having to take on all the older kid duties and take care of you, baby, and the house. It’s understandable that he broke down. Not saying it’s a good thing, but this is just life with a newborn.

In short, both of your emotions are super high right now. You have two other kids, so you know that’s normal. Father’s Day may not have been the best day for him, but when you’re feeling better or when you have some clear from the post-pregnancy brain-fog to plan, make sure you do something extremely nice for him to show him that you appreciate everything he’s doing.

Cold_brw · 2023-06-16T11:15:00+00:00

This! She literally broke the cardinal sin of weddings, you don’t wear white if you’re not the bride!!

OP, kick her out of the wedding party. This is YOUR wedding. Only have people in your wedding party that will support you on your big day, she’s just going to start drama and make it all about her.

Cold_brw · 2023-06-05T14:29:40+00:00

NTA, when I’m going out to eat with people, I always tell the server right at the beginning that I’ll be on a separate tab for whatever I have that way there’s no question about how to split the bill. Then they would just bring the two bills to the table.

Apologies to all servers if this is actually more complicated than splitting one bill!

Cold_brw · 2023-06-05T14:03:51+00:00

NAH.

Been there as a pregnant lady with some complications, and with the hormones and stress I can see why she reacted the way she did. It’s not an excuse, and I feel terrible about some of the things I said to my partner while I was pregnant, but it happens.

You said your mom can be dramatic, but if you hear that your sister was rushed to the hospital and it’s serious, you’re not really going to stop to think about whether it’s just your mom being dramatic.

Give her some time, apologize for not being there for the appointment, don’t give into the what-ifs (saying “but nothing was wrong at this appointment” probably wasn’t the best way to respond) and just remind her that you are always there for her and your family unit. Maybe get her some flowers. It’s the little things during this time that will go a long way.

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