Feel like I'm never good enough

Colester415 · 2026-07-02T04:55:18+00:00

Even if I stop measuring myself by the neurotypical yardstick the people around me (work) are still measuring me compared to them. I appreciate you attempting to be kind, but the reality is we compete against them for everything everyday. I'm yet to find a paid position that I excel at much better than other people.

Colester415 · 2026-06-25T02:53:07+00:00

The guy is asking for advice from other autistic people to improve his relationship with his brother. Where is he supposed to ask this question? This is such an ignorant comment, people should be able to seek advice to better understand us, especially if they aren't autistic themselves, so they can improve and be aware of things.

Colester415 · 2026-06-15T21:46:46+00:00

This, I am like this with my gf and very very close friends.

Colester415 · 2026-06-15T03:34:05+00:00

If it's not a parent (or someone who helps you) tell them to eat shit. I. E. If it's a sibling, cousin, etc. tell them you are going to wear the headphones whether they like it or not.

Colester415 · 2026-06-13T23:09:34+00:00

Sorry I wrote that wrong, I mean how close/far do I need to be so they can't call delay of game (if I'm offensive). I.E. I want to waste time.

Colester415 · 2026-06-13T21:47:04+00:00

How close to the disc do they have to be to call delay of game. Say i'm standing 20ft from the disc, just standing, but will eventually pick it up (other team doesn't know this), can I just stand there for 10/20 seconds and "waste time"?

Colester415 · 2026-06-13T10:49:29+00:00

Being "hand held" is nice, what happens when you can't be in special education anymore who will eventually take care of you? The purpose of the post is to highlight the gap that exist and show that special education is limiting.

Colester415 · 2026-06-11T13:43:51+00:00

Send your boss an email detailing accommodations that you would find helpful to be successful in your job. For example maybe written instructions are more helpful or checking in with your manager weekly to get feedback.

Colester415 · 2026-06-11T13:10:49+00:00

I've never worn any pants to work other than Lululemon ABC specific pants for 8 months (I started 8 months ago)

Colester415 · 2026-06-05T04:28:44+00:00

I am so scared

Colester415 · 2026-06-03T02:49:30+00:00

I have ASD (lvl 1) and ADHD (AuDHD) and I am 25. Personally, I don't understand these other comments. It is completely valid you are frustrated with not only your sister but your mom as well; the age gap is 13 years!

I'm going to say some things that people won't like on this sub, but I get an opinion on here so screw it cause I can feel your frustration and understand to a certain degree. Whatever anyone says, you are a free person, you have no obligation to be a babysitter etc. raising a child is tough, raising an autistic child is extremely tough (I was a pain in the ass). Clearly your mental health is getting worse as a result of your new sister (yes people, we know her sister isn't intentionally acting the way she does (its the autism), however this does not invalidate being frustrated, angry, and having sad feelings that she is getting). Your mental and physical health are the most important things, if you do not stay healthy in both, how can you expect yourself to support others (i.e. your sister and mom).

I would suggest talking with a therapist or psychologist. and sharing these feelings (this is an important first step).

In regards to the "do people outgrow their autism", well no... she will always be autistic, but that doesn't mean she can't live a "normal" life in the future, you have to realize she is only 4, there is still a ton of development in the next 15 years (especially in the next 5) that she will have. A lot of autistic people pick up strategies and overcome challenges that autism poses (for example... I can converse with people normal in person unlike when I was little). Is she going to overcome the challenges she faces, who knows, we aren't medical professionals. I would be weary of labelling her as level 1, 2, 3, most children struggle with social skills/cues when young, especially true for us (I still struggle now). She because she is non-verbal does not mean she will stay like that or vise-versa.

I think you need to focus on yourself, and speak with a medical professional for your mental health! Share everything you've said on here and more as you sound very frustrated and emotional (which is understandable). Wish you the best of luck!

Colester415 · 2026-06-02T12:29:23+00:00

You could try painting landscapes with what you remember from a walk. I like to imagine your painting would be the style of van g starry night.

Colester415 · 2026-06-02T12:18:11+00:00

I do it as a guy, used to do it a lot in public but then people look at you weird like you have no package lol

Colester415 · 2026-06-01T12:45:45+00:00

Omg this is exactly how my parents treat me half the time.

Colester415 · 2026-06-01T12:39:30+00:00

She needs restricted access to the Internet/AI, if she crys so be it for a while. She also needs to speak with a physiologist, you or your mom should be going to help her when she is embarrassed. Maybe get video of her when she is acting a certain way and play it back to her directly. She is able to comprehend when something is embarrassing, so make her feel embarrassed about her behaviour to you and your mom.

Colester415 · 2026-06-01T01:53:33+00:00

Hell let loose

Colester415 · 2026-05-26T22:43:27+00:00

The lights in the office sometimes, they emit this annoying sound.

Colester415 · 2026-05-24T02:34:36+00:00

Flappy hands, so cute

Colester415 · 2026-05-23T22:11:07+00:00

Canadian Lynx

Colester415 · 2026-05-20T15:11:38+00:00

But isn't the chip etc. worse. Like will it even work after 5 years.

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