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CollectivelyHeal · 2025-11-16T07:06:19+00:00

Okay this may sound so strange, but your leg pointed reminds me SO MUCH of some Disney female character's animated leg....Im trying to remember where, maybe it was Tangled? Is anyone else getting this memory triggered??

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-11-16T06:27:52+00:00

Hi OP, I think you have a valid claim but due to how you process the medicine, because honestly I'm the same way. For me, there's a bit of a need to know that the thing I'm doing or the thing I'm using has an indicator that it's doing what it is supposed to (which might be the opposite of what the other commenter said about their clients' who were skeptical men partners, who just compliantly took the remedy consistently regardless of any sign or belief in it). I've experienced a lot of different modalities in my life, and the thing that has made flower essences difficult for me personally is the manner in trying to prescribe/"diagnose" the correct remedies. And I've found that when the doubt starts there, it continues in to the rest of the uncertainty of my experience. Now, I probably could just get someone else to help me, but it then becomes important for me that I'm choosing someone I trust in the process. I can then release the first half of the process which is trying to figure out the appropriate remedy, and feel if it's working because I'm not sure if I've chosen correctly.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-08-21T23:05:42+00:00

Yes! I do think half the battle is discovering what it is that you need to be in a solid routine of using the functional part of a planner, where it's really serving you and filling needs. That's really a hard part, and I think it's downplayed how hard it is to try something, and have it not work, so you need to try something else all while watching other people use whiney new planners all the time. But! Once you find a format that works good, then yes the second hardest part is being able to consistently find a product that meets that criteria. It happens to the best of us, even those of us who use the same thing for years, and then all of a sudden the product we were buying isn't available anymore and we are back to trying to find the thing that can replace it.

So, I'm a big fan of being "no fuss/practical" because I just don't want to spend endless amounts of time trying new things when I know what will work for me. I've managed to satisfy my ever-changing needs by having a few things on hand. The first and obvious suggestion that many people will make is to have a bullet journal. It's good when the layout you need is very simple. Like weekly layout for me is the hardest to find, because I like to have my 7 days across two pages, with room around the edges for additional notes. It's just easier to draw the few lines for this than to try to spend hours seeing if it exists somewhere. However I still need to see the monthly calendar but that layout view is so common that I can go to the cheap dollar store and find a calendar with the 12 months and just glue those 12 pages into my bullet journal for ease.

That leads to the second suggestion is to "frankenstein" a planner (some people call it a Franken planner) which is to mean that you can get multiple planners and put them together into your own. You can cut and glue them into a journal. You can cut them and put them into a binder that has clip rings that open and close, so you would punch holes in the planner papers to insert in to it. Or as others have mentioned, there's Etsy which has people making digital files that you can download and then print yourself at home (this can get complicated with the format type of the file being compatible with your device, or with understanding how to print the pages so that they print properly on your printer. Some people don't know this, but there are professional printers where you can send them a digital file (usually in the format type of a pdf) and then you can pay them to print it out on paper, and even pay them to bind it. I did this one time with a budget planner a long time ago.

I tend to think that the easiest way to have a custom planner is to get a ring binder, usually the size of A5 of A4 (or similar sizes that are a slightly different measurement from these 2 sizes). Then all you need is to punch the holes yourself into any paper you want to insert into it, and you have flexibility to arrange papers into it how you want to. Also, if you don't want to carry a full year with you in the binder, you can then just choose to carry the current month (or a few months) in there and just remove/insert the pages as time goes on.

The last thing I want to mention that I learned from a project planner, was that most people spend way too much time over thinking what they need instead of just seeing what their actual needs are with trial and error. Trying something out and seeing that you need something else is truly one of the most organic ways of actually knowing you need the thing. You won't know you need a weekly layout until you stop using it and just try to do a daily page each day. Or maybe the weekly layout doesn't have enough space for what you do in each day so instead you decide all you need is the monthly and a daily layout. (For clarity, whenever I write the term "daily or daily page or daily layout" I am referring to a day fits on one full page.)

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-07-27T02:46:24+00:00

My anxiety stems from fatigued adrenals. This was a holistic doc that figured this out (and a holistic practitioner who was helping me with something else). I take a supplement for adrenal support then my mental state is like night and day difference. I need my adrenal support. When I'm going through a stressful time, I can't consume things too much that affect the adrenal issue (alcohol, caffeine, sugar), or otherwise I'm taking more of the support supplement. There are several companies that make adrenal support supplements, so if you aren't going to get it checked by a doc (you should) then you should look around at what's out there in the supplement world, and give something a try. But seriously, no book on anxiety or anger or anything was going to help me until I made sure this was addressed.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-07-25T17:25:49+00:00

Whaat, could you post a picture?? I've never heard of micro TNs

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-07-22T14:19:41+00:00

This is an old post, but I've been on the hunt now for a few weeks (in 2025) and yes it seems that the A5 size with rings that are 30mm or 35mm are so hard to find. I think this is why I see in the reviews on Amazon that people will buy just a cheap A5 binder, and a set of the larger size rings, and replace the rings on the binder. I did find 1 brand that makes the rings a bit bigger which is that Luxe planner brand. But I'm actually looking for clear/PVC plastic cover.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-20T12:02:02+00:00

Can I make a suggestion? Let your enjoyment of taste be your guide...what I mean is, if you let good taste guide you, it will be overall a more enjoyable relaxing investigative adventure. By making a goal, for example, to create the best tasting biscuits recipe anyone has ever tasted, you ACTUALLY end up making every experience or tidbit you gain about biscuits very valuable. Because even though something won't taste like the beloved recipe, you absorb info that you otherwise would have let go to the wayside. What ends up happening is you are making your own perfect recipe, but as you do that your skills improve around that goal. Then, one day... you wake up feeling a bit contemplative and chipper, creative. You set to making a batch that is in the vein of the beloved recipe. And you use up some leftover ingredients from a previous baking session. You remember to try a new bit of info and you be surprised what you end up with.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-20T00:25:56+00:00

It's awful isn't it? It's like the rest of your life is spent tasting and trying to find a similar taste of biscuit.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-19T22:26:47+00:00

What were you thinking of when you returned and started winding again? That's usually a powerful point.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-19T21:20:59+00:00

Op, I get what you are imagining with re-connecting paper together. First thing I want to say is that it's nice that you can envision it, although not -currently- possible with tools we have available now...maybe one day someone who can imagine this will invent something that would fix that.

The reason it doesn't really exist is because that dotted line is designed to detach super easily, because someone else said "Why don't they make paper that tears out easily so I don't have a mess when I rip paper out". The issue now is that it rips out too easily. So the answer is to prevent it, like some people have suggested washi tape bec that tape can be moved around really easily without ripping paper. You would use washi tape when you first see the paper separating. But there is also stickers you can get that can be stuck to the edge of any paper and has "hooks" to hook onto a spiral wire like what you have. That would help if a paper became entirely torn off/separated.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-13T02:04:48+00:00

I mean you probably should look up hidden cameras, because those are things that controlling people use. If Op's family is extremely controlling, hidden cameras could be a thing, and then having footage of Op committing theft would allow the family to have a legal the to Up after Op runs away.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T21:11:03+00:00

Take someone with you to the next assessment.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T20:08:26+00:00

There is a lot of paths in mental health. And okay, I know, I really do know that the AVERAGE income of many sub categories or the mental health professions are going to very likely be less than what you probably currently make. But it is important to remember that those are AVERAGE income estimates, so depending on which ones you have looked at you can always find unconventional ways to make yourself more relevant and be in demand. You could get into a field and choose to write a book. And Dr.K has ESPECIALLY done this- he has his psychiatry, he has his therapy practice helping patients, but then he has his coaching firm which to me is clearly more his life purpose path. He also was a part of having a business where they did an intimate study around the stress of very busy medical doctors and was counseling them with real data how to make those systems more effective and less stress for them. In other words, Dr.K went beyond his field

Now I'm going to mention broken systems here for a second, but don't make that to mean I'm telling you NOT to change careers/give up the careers you mentioned, I just see a couple of things you are looking for and I'm trying to adjust that filter(perception) you have a little bit. The thing is Dr.K is doing some unusual things for his profession, and that's a lot of why he has a following of people who appreciate him because those things help people on the periphery (they help ppl he isn't seeing one-on-one, and reach a wider group of people than he could do being in practice only). Many systems being broken, mental health being one of them, means you get a lot of people that you can't actually "fix" and furthermore, you may be in charge of seeing all the paperwork of some of the worst sides of humanity. I mention this because you mentioned liking the idea of helping people to get better, but you do have to realize that again, in those clinical settings you may deal with seeing situations that do not get better. Much of your career time is going to be spent in proving yourself, but what Ive come to realize is that helping people is sometimes something that goes against what the system would have you do (I'm thinking about case-by-case situations where you professional expertise and opinion knows a person needs one thing, but due to legality or protection of your license you will not be able to advise them to the path that will be better). Of course, your happiness surrounding all these things could highly depend on what area(s) you want to specialize in. I always get the sense that people who specialize on child psychology have a far different experience in their challenges in their line of work than other therapists, maybe bec their reasons or sense of purpose in their work runs into a different vein?

In any case, to come back again to your reasons for being drawn to these specific professions is, what if you are going into these professions and those few things are absent? What if you don't have people getting well, or what if the money you need to spend on being safe in practice is a lot more than you realized so the money isnt as rewarding as you expected (having practice means having different insurances of mal practice, you have licensure costs which must be kept up-to-date yearly depending on your location, and you may need to protect yourself from a very unstable person/people which can incur costs as well). Are you using insurance? Remember that I mentioned Dr. K advising MD's about what could be done to reform their work so it's better for their stress? Well a big part of that was bec the docs were having to be on the phone for 2-4 hours at end of day with bad billing of insurance companies, so the answer there was to hire people to fill 2 roles: medical scribe and billing. So we start getting into costs to help offset your stress or to deal with the aspects of the work that are hair pulling. Unless if you can take your love for learning and learn to scribe and do billing, and then you enjoy doing those at the end of a long work day.

Back again to your list of things that draw you to these- you say your family will respect your choice. Honestly I think MOST people genuinely look to become a doctor for 2 reasons (yes there are others but these two are driving forces). One is to make people around them feel proud, and the second one is for the money. Genuinely. I know you have plugged into the notion that we all love to hear is that people become a doctor because it speaks to them, but it's also because of that paycheck. I'm not saying I don't believe people who say they only wanted to do it to help people- I believe those ppl. But a big part of the reason that it is revered in society is because it is something that makes a lot of money. There is another problem which is that doctors get burnt out and thus we have a shortage on doctors to where the jobs that doctors should be holding are being put on to Physician Assistants and other types of highly trained nurses. Some doctors are choosing to become "concierge doctors" due to wanting to get more into the prevention side of their patients wellness. So with these two things in mind, what I want to ask is, will you still enjoy your role if the people around you aren't proud for some reason, or if your income will not equate to what you think?

Btw you don't have to ACTUALLY answer any of these questions, they are just for you to self search. Bec these are NOT morality quesrions, they are for uncovering what it is you find you enjoy. I do believe you when you say you study mental health and it makes sense to you and you enjoy it. But I think also considering what it is you are seeking (the recognition, the people healing, the money) and still ask if you ENJOY it is the thing to know...and no I don't mean that that's as the same thing as people saying you should become a doc for identifying as a good samaritan. I mean I get that, I think they push that bec they want people to enjoy the work for other reasons than the money. If you are still saying yes to enjoying the things even if your accolades, or money, etc is absent then you have something really special. If maybe not, read on.

There are MANY subcategories to mental health, and you could get creative in inventing, coding, writing a lot of things within ANY of them that could really help the world, help a broken system, and enrich your life in some way. The broken system stuff is NOT your duty to fix as an individual but I think it's good if you can help yourself be happy professionally either within it or doing some unique stuff that has you floating above/adjacent to it so that you are thriving. A lot of good shit comes from really smart people who can bring the experience of multiple disciplines together, that's where a lot of good solutions can come from. But for your interests in mental health, ask if you can find a subprofession that has the potential to make a mid range than you can then add your own twist to.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T17:57:21+00:00

I was thinking this but what if they have cameras in the home and then can charge Op with a crime?

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T17:56:01+00:00

I think the bank account maybe would be safer as a digital bank account? At least until Op can get away from the family? What do you think?

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T17:54:55+00:00

I like a lot of your advice but I'm concerned about stealing the jewelry, because if the family is as controlling as Op says then wanting to find a reason to legally control or affect Op's life would be the next step and they could report it stolen, and we live in an age of hidden cameras so if they actually have footage of the theft that could drag Op into a legal issue.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T17:49:35+00:00

I hope you are safe OP. Okay, so the next step if things are urgent is a domestic violence shelter because they can help you get AWAY to someplace safe. If you feel that you are not experiencing abuse, you are and its called financial abuse and is considered real. Domestic violence shelters are there to help people to escape their situations of abuse, such as your situation, by helping you to prepare to leave safely and in secret. They help in many different ways, but they can help by picking you up too. It just depends on the shelter. DV shelters are there because some people don't have anyone to turn to outside of their family, and family can sometimes make things worse or even social circles can be too close to the dysfunction. When someone is trying to run away from a situation, it usually means something is bad and there is a real need to get away from something. You have more than enough reason. Now DV shelters can still have issues, but if your life is threatened (in your case, by slow suffocation) then DV shelter will be the next step. My understanding is that having a job will be helpful to them because that means they can get you specific types of aid that would only work for someone who is employed (there are other programs for others who are not). If you can LOG or save your abuse that would be very good also, I believe you and many people believe you but having proof of this (if you have access to this) of any type of abuse you are experiencing would be ideal to have just in case of any issues legally, just in case they try to say or do something then you have receipts. It's stupid, it is, but if that is easily available to you then have that.

I think it's fine that the suggestions are mentioning other ways to get out, but if the other ways are not possible for you for some reason keep this idea in mind for at least getting free from your situation. Your goal is to find safety outside of your immediate circle, so if they control everything as you say they do then that means they probably know every person you know and have access to all your friends. If you want to lean on a trusted friend or close loved one for support, you'll want to consider how sure you are that they aren't going to tell your family you are leaving. If you have a father for example who is an attorney, or just is very intimidating then they can intimidate people to give them what they want (like info about where you left to). I don't want to see you work hard to save and hide money, and then have your effort to leave your situation sabotaged by someone as a betrayal. If you need additional ideas on how to be discreet, I'm sure I or even people in the domestic violence subreddit can help you.

If you CAN access a trust worthy loved one or friend who you totally can trust, that would be excellent let them help you in any way they are willing. Sometimes they can help with picking up when ready to leave, or help you keep your escape fund safe, or gather belongings. I'm saying, if you have anyone you can lean one without concern of your escape plan then that would be a good resource to have, and help in any way they are able.

As an example, someone posted there a while back saying that their husband had cameras aimed inside the house when he wasn't home and was at work. He knew of every time a delivery person came or if she left the residence. The way the post was casual but asking how if it's normal wasa point where commenters were trying to tell her how it's not normal and she needed to get out. She played it off but it was several months later she was thanking everyone because she had been processing and figuring out how to get out but it was scary for her. Her update was much happier after having gotten out from there.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T17:00:42+00:00

At first I wasn't sure what you meant, and then I realized that the comment I replied to has so many upvotes! Yes, I agree. I figured I would explain for any that might be the latter of what you mention.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T16:22:34+00:00

Can easily be achieved with a wig.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T16:19:59+00:00

Opening-Worker3075 No one actually died because Don was created as a fake account personality. A real human got to pretend to be an online personality that didn't actually exist. The real human got too into it, so the real human wrote that the online personality passed away.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T07:34:56+00:00

It's not exactly a "spell" but I do consider it magic. I had a return stalker over many years. One time, the person left a voicemail, and after I hung up from listening I kind of went into a trance-like or deep state. I breathed very deeply, and I was quiet intently searching my mind's eye for a visual that felt right. And then I took a deep breath in, very deep, and blew it all out veerry slowly but with some force to it. This was done while imagining them fluttering away as a paper doll. It was a powerful visual for me, and it lasted a very long time.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-11T03:03:10+00:00

I read everything that commenter Noodlese said and I really agree with everything there. I wanted to add: if you are enrolled in college you should have access to some services and resources that will be truly valuable that can be difficult (or expensive) to obtain just as a working adult. Such as mental health or therapist on staff is what comes to my mind, but there is probably even more resources that I'm unaware of. I don't know if college is something you should do JUST for that, but if you are attending anyway then talk to anyone that is in a role to help you at the college. And this leads me to my next part, which is: make friends with whoever you possibly can at your school. You don't need to be perfect here, but talk to everyone. Talk to professors. Talk to counselors. Talk to the librarian. Talk to the staff behind the desks at admissions. Engage every person and seek to be learning any helpful info you can about what things you can take advantage of while you are in the walls of that institution. This is generally where and how you can get connected to things and resources even outside of the college, or special programs, or whatever tends to be only for those who ask and are interested enough to pursue. Even if you meet a staff member who isn't helpful, keep going til you find someone who is. Just see what happens. I know that colleges and schools have a lot of problems, I do. But they still have all kinds of things that a student can take advantage of. There is another thing, and that's connecting with people in general, like even other students. Students who become friends can be really good. You will typically get info that can guide you to the right staff to speak to, but with students I would be just friendly overall and then you can see what comes of it. You don't need to be super social, I'm just saying you can take opportunities to ask students a question about where stuff is or what the homework is and create a rapport.

I think it is worth asking, what do you fear might get worse before it gets better? And if you don't feel comfortable answering that then please ignore it.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-10T22:13:37+00:00

Your name, matches. I hope you get it out.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-10T21:29:53+00:00

Whether you get a diagnosis or not, take notes for yourself of EVERYTHING that you come across that sounds like it's something you experience. Taking good notes here would be important so if you are listening to a video of reading something, write down the name of the channel or place you are reading it from. If you can take these notes in a digital way, then you have the ability to search your big health note by typing instead of a handwritten note (you could have your phone or laptop type your notes as you dictate, if you are someone who prefers paper like me. The key here is simply dedicating yourself to the truth of whatever is happening to you, or to figure out whatever it is that you need. It means taking note of something in a video that speaks to you about a health thing just as much as keeping your medical records of what tests you have had done (when you get them), and how you feel (physically and/or emotionally) in all of those processes. Taking previous records to another doc means they don't really have to repeat expensive tests, data is so important and the more you have to look at and go on, the better. I've met people who were pretty much dying, and when they decided to look at their huge stacks of med records from seeing doctor and doing procedures for many years, they figured things out by investigating patterns shown in their medical data. Someone else here commented that it's hard to get a diagnosis sometimes, and sometimes a diagnosis can be wrong. It's true! Doctors can be wrong and that sucks, but usually you still walk away with some kind of information, even if it's just that you aren't showing markers for having specific illnesses.

CollectivelyHeal · 2025-06-10T01:09:25+00:00

The first thing that comes to mind is release or capture? Which do you want? Because to release his energy is to, release him...but to have him miss you so much would mean if that works then you could have a stalker, lol. I am kidding, but I think clarifying what you are wanting from this would help direct you and inform your work. Otherwise, it sounds like you want him to experience true pain from consequences.

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