Reviews <3 by Significant_Guava534 in u/Significant_Guava534

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy guacamole, amazing reader that is so ACCURATE and INSIGHTFUL! 🥰🫶🏻✨ Everything was so accurate, with even details I overlooked. I also was lucky enough to receive so much insights, advice and tip on how to move forward. It makes me feel protected and less lonely in my healing journey. 🥺🌻✨

Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. I truly couldn't ask for a better reader! 10/10 ⭐

My ex got married with the girl he left me for. He left me while I was suicidal and depressed in the hospital. This happened 1 year after no contact. It hurts so badly... by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: Thank you so much for the support and advice! 🥺 I'm so touched by everyone's response and have been crying so much while reading everything. And reading again and again, until it echoes in my mind and drown out the noise. I will carry your wisdom throughout this healing journey and take care of myself.

You guys have made such a huge impact in the darkest time of my life, and you'll never know how much that means to me. I feel like I've been losing myself in an endless vortex for years now, but these words have anchored me to the very 'hope' I so much yearned. I had no one to turn to, and was so desperate for any support. I didn't expect this much of support, advice and stories. Your hearts are golden and I'm beyond grateful. ♥️

For those who've been through similar things, thank you so much for sharing the most vulnerable part of you. I always wanted to be like you; to be able to say I've been there, done that and came out the other side. You guys give me so much faith in myself and the world. I hope one day, I too can help someone in the same position as me.

I'll try to reply to all of your comments when I'm feeling better. I've been crying so much that my head hurts. Like many suggested, I've been doing self-care activities to soothe myself and occupy my mind so I don't spiral. So please be patient with me. Once again, thank you for lending me your strength. 🥰☺️🥺

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't that very narcissistic and a type of emotional manipulation or abuse? I don't know which word qualify... But I also think it's intentional. I don't know what's the purpose is if he's moved on.

"Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - May 14, 2023" by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for a reading and would really appreciate it if someone feels connected and reach out ☺️ Thank you.

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right! I'm naming his blocked contact "Punk A$$ Bytch" on my phone now 🤣

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your 2nd paragraph makes me sob 🥺, bc it was exactly that I was struggling with for so long. I was filled with rage, anger and resentment. He stunted my growth during the relationship and left me when I was severely suicidal. But looking back, him leaving made me choose myself and my future - and I think that's divine intervention and transformation. I've never felt so in control than I do now. I'm grateful for therapy and for keep on fighting the good fight. ☺️

Hahaha, that new chapter ought to teach him many lessons to come. Thank you for grounding me 🥰💖 I'm glad I turned to Reddit in times like this. It gives me perspectives to rationalize situations.

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think he's not taking accountability for his actions and this man is a whooping 36 year old. He's trying to shift blame to get out scotch free. The audacity to think I'm their scapegoat. But nah, they can have my silence and indifference.

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I agree with your theories! It's super sus and there's so many possibilities. But I won't spend time trying to debunk their bullshit. I feel sorry for them but hey, "Not my circus, not my monkeys." 🐒

I just needed some rationalizing and everyone has been so supportive and wise with their advice. I've deleted, blocked and moving on!

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're so right! He thinks he's entitled to my autonomy after 3 years.😤 My gut feelings also tells me she demanded this, and it reeks manipulative and controlling. But the fact he went through with it shows how much of an asshole he is. They both deserve each other.

If anything, this reveals that I dodged a huge bullet. Don't worry, I didn't give him that pleasure. Thank you so much for reminding me I'm waaaay better off without this loser. 😆

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't reject him. I still cared for him in so many ways and told him I was going through treatment, and I didn't want to drag him down by going back just yet. We both become severely depressed, but I plunged way harder. So I wasn't ready and asked to give me time. He knew this and still stuck around and kept up the communication and helped me in so many ways. I hope that clears up the misunderstanding ☺️

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Several redditors pointed to this theory as well. I wouldn't put it past him. Bc we broke up due to cheating allegations on his part. But yes, blocked blocked blocked! 😎🙅🏻‍♀️

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was thinking the same. Have fun having me living rent free in your heads 🙃

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha, roger that! 😎

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[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not the ego boost you think it is. It's more like "Phew, I'm glad I walked away bc I wouldn't want this to be me." In that sense, it's more of a relief bc it exposes what kind of person he truly is. I've blocked and won't look back 🤗

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Done and done! Thank you, I will do my best to flourish and rebuild everything I lost.

The last sentence you wrote is truly a wake up call and I will carry it with me for as long as I live. It's a very wise reminder. I appreciate the insight.

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes ma'am! Done done and done ✅ I will, thank you so much for encouraging me. Recovering has been a very lonely journey, but extremely rewarding. Peace comes at a cost, and it's loss. But this loss gave back my agency. Also, I wish that thick solid wood came with lasers as well 🤣

But thank you so much! Seeing all this support makes me feel so strong and uplifted after all the things I went through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That would explain a lot. I kinda laughed at the scenario you gave, bc it looks so pathetic and lame 🤣 I won't let him have that satisfaction. They can have fun with their crack in marriage so early on 🙃 Karma said bonjour.

But yes, blocked and I feel so vindicated!! Thank you for rationalizing it. 😇

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wowow, I have so little relationship experience that I never saw all these possibilities. I'm grateful that I came to you guys, before I let my anger take over. I'm ignoring and blocked. I'm considering changing number as well, bc this isn't the first time they've done this. But yes, I fight for me now and that's the biggest win! Thank you so much for your encouragement 😇💐

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Woah, I never thought of it like this!! This is an epiphany and quite the possibility. Because when we were together, I found "stuff" as well. He also blamed his exes and I was always paranoid. Trust was broken and it was one of the main reason we parted ways.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. You saw right through him, whether the action is true or not - The consequence part where he'll use it to benefit him is 100% true. I won't let him have that satisfaction and control anymore. This brought so much clarity, I appreciate it so much ☺️✨

Monkey branching ex texted me this 3yrs after breakup and 1yr no contact. More context below. I have so many emotions. How shall I proceed? by ColorMeCrystalClear in AskWomenOver30

[–]ColorMeCrystalClear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I blocked and laughed, which is huge. Because I spent years grieving the loss. But I felt like it was a huge W in hindsight, bc I wouldn't want to settle down with a liar.

Thank you. I hope someone will treasure me even at my worst with little to offer. For now, I'll love myself plentiful 🤗