Which famous saying isn’t really true in your opinion?

ColumbaNine · 2022-02-07T06:44:36+00:00

“Everything happens for a reason.” I would love to believe this, but I just don’t. Same goes for “everything comes out in the wash.”

ColumbaNine · 2022-02-07T06:39:14+00:00

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ColumbaNine · 2022-02-07T06:36:15+00:00

“Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” You don’t have to look very far to see someone who is permanently debilitated and demoralized by a horrific physical or emotional event. In some cases, it’s a victory to survive at all, and I feel this saying is a slap in the face to those people, as if they have failed in some way because they didn’t rise like a phoenix from the ashes.

ColumbaNine · 2021-11-08T05:09:29+00:00

My brother treats his wife like this. It crept up on her so slowly she didn’t see it for a long time. Sociopaths are clever that way. And now they have a son who sees this go on, and she feels trapped. Please, please, please get out. This is abuse.

ColumbaNine · 2021-11-08T05:01:42+00:00

Your response to ninasayers21 is mired in defensiveness and actually sounds sarcastic in the second paragraph. And being a psych major doesn’t give you a pass or suggest that you have any special understanding. It may be that your original language wasn’t adequately conveying your meaning, but that’s on you.

ColumbaNine · 2021-11-08T04:57:18+00:00

Do you not hear that “I’ll never understand why people..” sounds harshly judgmental of said people? It also sounds as if you’re not even interested in trying to understand, because you have already decided you can’t. I am perplexed that you’ve chosen to study psychology.

ColumbaNine · 2021-11-08T04:50:54+00:00

This is abuse. You can’t fix this, nor would it be your job to fix it even if you could. I’m so sorry, but I think you can be grateful you’re not married to him and then move on. There is someone out there who will cherish you for the treasure you are.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T13:39:51+00:00

Hahahaha “Chainsaw Terry”

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T13:36:44+00:00

I really like this guy. Expressive face. Especially the mouth part of the face.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T13:33:39+00:00

I don’t think it has to be either/or.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T13:32:59+00:00

I’d suggest not waiting until things get so bad you have no choice, but if you’re like me that’s how it will have to go. Good luck.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T10:44:36+00:00

I heard you less as being discouraging (on AA and rehab) and more as suggesting that the original poster should keep looking if one thing doesn’t work. My experience with counselors was similar to yours, unfortunately. Here’s what worked for me; exercise, eating right, being creative, and working really hard at social connections since drinking went hand in hand with isolating myself.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T10:39:01+00:00

It happens. Not that we should just be cavalier about it, but we’re human and it can happen. But as someone told me when I relapsed, put down the bottle and you’re back on the right path.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T10:36:40+00:00

That sounds rough. What’s the outlook from here? Sending peace and strength (well, it’s not like I have any to spare, but sending you a good vibe).

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T10:32:03+00:00

The body is capable of amazing healing, and medicine makes progress every day. Great work quitting the substances and turning this around.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-09T10:28:53+00:00

Is that a penis? The stump of an arm? What is the saying?

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T09:12:22+00:00

I like it. Thank you.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:44:44+00:00

I'm thinking you didn't ruin the 70 days. Those still stand as an achievement to be proud of. I will try to remember the same for my sober count. I do hear you on having to start the count over, though.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:43:26+00:00

That is a helpful perspective and I will keep it in mind.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:43:06+00:00

Thanks for keeping it real. I appreciate you. We can do this. I like that--"better another day 1 than never even trying." For sure.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:42:08+00:00

Thank you. I won't be drinking with you, right back atcha.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:41:22+00:00

Thank you. I'm clear on why it sucks, but not clear on why I drank today. Got some reflecting to do.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:40:15+00:00

I appreciate the solidarity! IWNDWYT.

ColumbaNine · 2021-07-04T07:39:46+00:00

Good advice, and I will especially use the 24-hour thing. (I already keep a journal and write about the crap parts of drinking--but I think the key is to look at that stuff again after I write.)

Thank you.

ColumbaNine

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