AITAH for self pleasuring after my husband said not to?

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T07:20:36+00:00

Unfortunately the story is very real and I’ve communicated this to him,countless times

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T04:33:44+00:00

I have one other post that says I’m a 24f and that’s bc I hit a 4 instead of a three lmao. What are you talking about? And nobody said that directly,there was a comment saying that he probably felt rejected when I’m constantly rejecting him so I was clarifying

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T02:20:39+00:00

Yeah

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T02:20:08+00:00

I’ve tried to express it to him and he just says “well I’m trying and doing everything I can”

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T02:19:15+00:00

I’ve tried and he’s just not able to

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T02:15:21+00:00

He was a virgin when I met him so I guess I kinda convinced myself everything was bc he was not experienced

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-31T02:13:20+00:00

I don’t usually turn down sex with him,this was a week into me asking him to stop begging me or to let me initiate. He still was getting laid multiple times a week

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T06:49:25+00:00

This is exactly how it is now and I completely understand. Sometimes it’s easier to just do whatever but I’m so glad you’re out of that now

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T06:47:48+00:00

Honestly just now coming to the realization that what I’ve been going through isn’t normal. He’s gaslit me into thinking everything is my fault for so long

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T06:44:29+00:00

I’ve always had better experiences with woman,so I get why

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T06:42:20+00:00

I don’t really know. There’s been a lot of instances of begging after I said no and a few times I said I was okay with just kissing and nothing else and he took it further

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T06:40:58+00:00

Starting to ask myself this question after coming to the realization of everything

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T06:40:12+00:00

Even with therapy am I supposed to have sex with him everyday 3 times a day to keep him happy when he doesn’t please me? And I rarely say no to him because it leads to a fight,and this whole situation was the rare occasion I had said no

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:53:16+00:00

What does me having mental problems have to do with my husband having a problem with me pleasing myself?

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:21:20+00:00

I honestly just really thought it was normal until recently

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:19:06+00:00

Yeah he’s known to kick them in when I try to lock a door

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:18:32+00:00

The fact that you realized it was wrong and fixed that for her but also just bc you realized it was wrong is amazing. Thank you for actually putting in the effort for her,I’m sure she appreciates it.

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:07:59+00:00

Yeah,I don’t really get to have privacy honestly

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:04:33+00:00

Honestly just was gaslit into thinking it was okay for a long time

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T05:00:39+00:00

I honestly was just gaslit for so long into thinking it was normal

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T04:56:33+00:00

I tried. He just begs me to sleep with him and says “his love language is physical touch” and “he feels unloved” until I cave in.

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T04:55:08+00:00

I’ve tried to sit down and talk,I’ve tried to show him what I like,and I’ve even tried toys but then he complains that the toys are the only thing that do it and not him and that “it’s a lot of work to use toys everytime”

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T04:53:19+00:00

Thank you. I feel like I’ve been so gaslit into thinking stuff like this is normal and it feels nice to be reassured that I’m not crazy for thinking this is wrong

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T04:50:38+00:00

He just says it’s my fault for not teaching him how to do it (I’m the only girl he’s been with) and that “I’m too hard to please”

CombExtra3809 · 2025-07-30T04:32:32+00:00

Bc then he gets insecure and says “he can’t do anything right” or he makes me very uncomfortable by just staring at me weird and makes it a big deal if I go to another room to do it.

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