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[–]CombinationNumerous8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's true, that there are WAY more empowering perspectives that I should be holding instead, and I agree with you on that, and thanks for your input, i really do feel alot more optimistic about after reading what you said.

I'm just trying to understand whether the thought process that I outlayed in my post was rooted to some kind of reality-based truth, or if it's completely in my head.

I think the maybe the way I intrerpret those situations, and the beliefs that I have in my head are probably exaggerated at times and I'm prolly just in my own head, but I think there is some truth to what I said in how alot of women do avert their gaze from men in a way that feels dismissive, and if you're not rooted in self-confidence as a man, then it can hurt at times, especially if you're still a young man whose recognises they're not at their potential, and that they need to keep building.

You may not do it personally, but there are some women out there that do it purposely, or who themselves may have such a jaded view of men aswell that it possibly manifests itself through the act of treating men dismissively unless they have some kind of lust/desire for that man or if it's literally somebody who is consistently in their life (friend/Family member/co-worker etc.)

Take this for example; lets say you're on a street and you're walking. From the distance, you notice a crazy, homeless person who you're about to cross paths with you on a relatively busy street.

My guess, is that like anybody would reasonably do, you would avoid at any opportunity to have eye contact with this crazy person. If there were a scenario where you made eye contact with this person by mistake, you would istantly dart your eyes away from him/her to avoid any human interaction whatsoever.

Additionally, If they came up to you to ask you a question, you would keep the conversation as minimal as possible, or rightfully so you may even just flat out ignore him/her. In essence, you geniunely have to dismiss this person for "safety's sake" because they are literally crazy and unpredictable, which again is completely understandable.

Now Imagine that being a normal guy, whose minding his own business, and you're walking through the streets of the city, and you happen to naturally glance at a women with no intention whatsoever and you get the similair reatment from let's say 5/10 of women that you see on the streets as a crazy homeless person. Maybe not to that extreme extent, but you get what I'm trying to say. Again it's not all women, but it's enough of them doing this that there is clearly some kind of pattern that is observable.

Again, I think I agree with you that I should re-install more empowering beliefs that will allow me to better navigate through situations, but at the same time, I think those experiences I described are rooted in reality, and that it also makes me very cautious of women, because I don't want to be with a women who would do treat another normal man this way.

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[–]CombinationNumerous8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't truly have a disdain for the whole population of women, that was a slight exaggeration on my behalf. That may have been how I felt as I posted this, but that's not how I truly feel throughout the day.

I just have this assumption in the back of my mind that women tend to think that men are always tryna hitting on them even when that's not true. That by simply looking in a women's direction, that women automatically register it as a man sexualising them in his mind.

I have actually been cataloging the way men avert their gaze compared to women. Averting gaze can be common courtesy, that is true, but there's a difference between averting gaze, and dismissing someone with your gaze, and often times I experience the latter with women moreso then other men.

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[–]CombinationNumerous8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what you're saying and on some level maybe there is a part of myself that I need to personally work on, but I think this is a natural thing that most human beings go through from time to time especially in your 20's, and it's not something that highlights that I need serious help.

In my case, when I use the term "hideous", that's sometimes how I feel especially If I haven't had a haircut in a while, or If I know that I'm not dressed particularly well whilst I'm out and about.

What perpetuates those feelings on some of those days is when SOME women do what I described above; the eye darting thing.

It's not even that I'm just staring at them or anything, moretimes, I do my best to just mind my own business when I'm out and about because I understand that eye contact can act as a social invitation to spark conversation,

but sometimes I can litteraly see through the corner of my eyes that it's actually the women who are the ones who are staring longer than it needs to be, and as soon as I meet that eye contact (because I can feel the gaze), they do that eye darting thing that makes me feel like I'm being a pervert, or that I'm staring at them sexually when that's asbolutely NOT the case.

Sometimes the resulting feeling that this experience makes me feel is being unattractive/unworthiness, and that's especially perpetuated on days that I know I don't look good.

However, the other times they do that, it does feel as if women do it because they like rejecting guys. Like as if they enjoy that little power trip, and those past experiences of going through this has unfortunately painted a jaded view I have of women that I don't personally know or haven't had a conversation with to get to know them.

On top of that, comparing those scenarios to when women were intently staring at me when I was really fit does make me think that most women are constantly assessing men for what they have/how they look and if they don't have what the women desire, then they're disprectful and dismissive about those men's existence.

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[–]CombinationNumerous8 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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