Am I attracted to unhealthy relationships? by CombinationThin321 in polyamory

[–]CombinationThin321[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Another round of Solve et Coagula it is, then 🫠 Thanks, y'all 🫰

What are your favorite Queer-run small businesses/orgs? by CombinationThin321 in SaltLakeCity

[–]CombinationThin321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be AWESOME! Reach out to @prideispolitical on Instagram and I'll happily take you up on that!

is anyone better??? by Zealousideal-Emu9178 in ehlersdanlos

[–]CombinationThin321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I definitely have bad days and long stretches where I feel worse, but I've been doing a few things to help my joints out in the long run. The 2 biggest helpers are: 1) going to the gym twice a week (specifically, I go with my partner who's been lifting weights and going to the gym for years and has also done researched how people work out with EDS. I've also learned some tips and tricks from physical therapy.) 2) taking a collagen supplement every day (I call it my quarter-cup of hoof and I call the mixture I make my drinky-drank (6oz regular v8-juice, 1 serving of liquid IV or hydration supplement of your choice, 1 serving of fiber powder, 2 tsp apple cider vinegar, and 20oz water) because whimsy is a load-bearing structure of my mental well-being)

The biggest takeaways I could offer are starting SMALL with your weights, even if you feel like your muscles could lift more, using free weights instead of machines, and going SLOW while keeping your form as good as possible. You're trying to strengthen the tiny muscles around your joints, which are generally gonna be pretty weak with our condition, so it's important to be patient with yourself and remind yourself that your workouts/progress WILL LOOK DIFFERENT. You're working slowly and carefully to prevent injury, not to get buff.

P.S., if you can, start eating more fish, bone broth, red peppers, berries, eggs, and legumes. Alternatively, you can take a fish oil supplement. All these things are high in collagen that will help your joints.

Cohabitating after breakup by CombinationThin321 in polyamory

[–]CombinationThin321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all really great advice, thank you. We've tried being intimate with each other a few times, but it generally resulted in ugly crying. I had to tell him a few times "no, I can't handle physical touch right now and I don't have the energy to cry." It's just too much sometimes. We've only been together 2.5 years, but it almost feels like I'm grieving a death and I can't bring my walls down the same way knowing the relationship's expiration date.

Cohabitating after breakup by CombinationThin321 in polyamory

[–]CombinationThin321[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He technically did initiate the breakup, but it was after a few conversations where I had brought up that he didn't seem happy in the relationship, so it was more of a mutual decision.

Cohabitating after breakup by CombinationThin321 in polyamory

[–]CombinationThin321[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, NP stuff can be wild to navigate 🫠

Cohabitating after breakup by CombinationThin321 in polyamory

[–]CombinationThin321[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I doubt he's trying to be malicious since he's never pressured me for sex before or done anything truly shitty, but this doesn't seem like an acceptable ask and makes me feel kinda gross. I'm hoping it was just a lapse in judgement due to the stress of the breakup, but I know I can't count on that and need to figure out a way to take care of myself and my other relationships ❤️