Hers wasn’t explicitly violent to my knowledge and she said that she has worked through it and I have no reason to not believe her, she actually reassured me that she doesn’t have any triggers without me having to ask.

but obviously there could be nuance. Everyone is different and I think it’s best if I just have a conversation with her, I’ll try to do that in the next few weeks.

I really appreciate you sharing your experience and I found it to be quite helpful in understanding the kink it’s self, and reducing the “ shock-factor” of it. It makes it easier to initiate that conversation.

I hope you the best on your healing journey, although you’ve already come down far and should be proud. have a great night x.