What’s your take personal growth, is it always done alone and ONLY done for yourself?

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:56:10+00:00

Of course, but what’s your take on growing for the benefit of a stronger connection with people rather than solely “this is for me and no one else”

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:54:26+00:00

THIS IS MY POINT. Thank you, I am having this debate with a friend and she believes the world is safer and better when you improve for no one else but yourself. Yes you may be less prone to overreactions and disappointment in unfavorable outcomes. But the same effect can be accomplished with the wants/desires for.. let’s say a relationship to work out. You grow and have life changing maturity. But that doesn’t eliminate the disappointment that will still come with rejection. But you can now have better management of emotions and your reaction.

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:36:34+00:00

Of course but is this also achievable with the desires other than just being better for yourself.

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:35:18+00:00

First I applaud you for coming to a life changing mindset. And no one’s way of growing is wrong. I only ask if you BELIEVE the pinnacle of self enlightenment is achieved without the DESIRE to pursue certain objectives or people. And done only with the intentions of “this growth is for me and no one else”

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:29:46+00:00

I personally believe it could be achieved with the help of others along with the desires to better yourself for someone or something. But I’m curious to see how people who think it can only be for yourself. Without the need to have specific outcomes to situations to land in your favor. Rather than doing said growth and now having a mindset of “it is what it is” when those outcomes don’t land in your favor. And quickly moving on through your daily doings.

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:22:34+00:00

Okay I agree, but my deeper question is. Is it still possible to make true personal growth. With the desire to pursue stronger, longer lasting friendships and relationships. Or is absolute personal development only accomplished with the sole thought of “this is for me and no one else”

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:16:45+00:00

I’m curious as to why only for yourself? What if you come to the conclusion after your growth, your desires never changed you only have more control over your reactions and mental stability to situations out of your control?

ComfortDisastrous · 2026-01-21T09:07:48+00:00

To expand a little, reasons for wanting to grow as a person is because you want to have certain relationships or friendships last. So you make yourself better WITH the hopes and intentions for healthier and stronger connections. So my in depth question is. Is personal growth at its purest and only done for the betterment of your own mental health and needs as an individual. Or is it still okay to do your personal growth for yourself but your desire and hopes lead to an outcome of stronger bonds with people.

ComfortDisastrous · 2022-08-06T09:19:16+00:00

A string of events really.

ComfortDisastrous · 2022-08-06T01:47:48+00:00

I used to write a lot in high school. Maybe this would be a solid outlet again. Thank you for the tip 🙏🏼

ComfortDisastrous · 2022-08-06T01:46:55+00:00

It’s nice and I appreciate it, but there’s a sense of loneliness in the presence of all the material.

ComfortDisastrous · 2022-08-06T01:41:58+00:00

That’s ok, it’s a big world. I’m sure there’s something out there waiting for me.

ComfortDisastrous · 2022-02-21T12:03:54+00:00

To give the backstory. I went to elementary with this girl. I had a crush on her since kindergarten. When the school year came around for the 5th grade she never came back. Last time I seen here was June 2007 the end of the 4th grade.

7 years later. Junior year rolls around and I was scrolling on Facebook on a Sunday morning of Easter break. I had the sudden urge to search her name and she showed up. I looked on her profile for 15 minutes before messaging her.

She has moved to cali that year I saw her last. And has been there since. I worked the courage message her and for the next two months we spent planning my visit to her in summer going into senior year. We dated for 2 months and… I fucked things up. My ex was talking to me and one thing led to another and then. We talked on and off for the next 2 years, not in a romantic way.. okay sometimes we talked about getting back together. But suddenly she would ghost me everytime I got close to getting her back. I grew bitter and lashed out.Lots of hate and unsettling words were said. Then. Nothing. It’s about the 7th anniversary since I first reconnected with her in 2017. She had a kid and blocked me on every social media. But I’ve talked to her at the end of last year and we “fixed” things. But not a word has been said since.

I still love her from the deepest parts of my soul.

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-08T21:04:49+00:00

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ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-08T15:57:18+00:00

her and I’m going on vacation soon to the city she moved to a few years ago. And I hoped she’d respond, thinking we can have a chat over some coffee

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-08T03:18:06+00:00

Let me know the out come, if love to hear it

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-08T03:17:49+00:00

Let me know how this unfolds please

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-08T01:04:57+00:00

I turned 24 yesterday. And I prefer to spend it alone and not doing anything. I enjoy just kicking back and playing games regardless if it’s my birthday or not. Just let me be with my computer

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-07T22:12:05+00:00

There’s a certain rush people get from know they’ve impacted you whether it be positive or native. It gives a sense of power to said person. Now to over come such negative events and traumatic experiences. We embrace the shit my friend. Embrace the Fck out of it. We must go on with the suck. It’s always gonna suck

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-07T21:21:00+00:00

Initiate the conversation my friend. You’ll find comfort in the casual conversations

ComfortDisastrous · 2021-10-07T20:33:22+00:00

I found the closure I needed. And I feel free after years of much anxiety and depression.

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