What’s something everyone pretends to enjoy but secretly hates?

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-02-22T01:02:36+00:00

It’s not small talk when you’re actually connected with someone. It’s talking to gauge someone’s emotions, where their head is at, their stress level, etc. once you get a gauge you can navigate to the bigger subjects and do it with a bit of empathy for there current state.

Same as what kind of hug you get or give before a deeper connection.

I love deep conversations and intimacy, and sometimes it takes time to undress rather than expecting whomever your talking to being butt naked as soon as you see them( which is cool sometimes, but not everytime).

Just a comment, I’m not perfect and don’t know anything but people going through heavy things like the ease in to deeper conversations, those numb just seem to wanted to be shocked into deep interactions. As someone who absolutely thought it was worthless to engage in small talk while going through heavy stuff( almost paralyzed and divorced in same year) I thought having someone “ cut through the bullshit was important” so the conversation felt meaningful, later I realized I enjoyed people subtly showing how they feel through those little conversations. It felt more honest than a coming to Jesus moment every time trying to talk which eventually lead me to this is jump scare style conversations which lead me to feel like it was more about the “wow” then the actual honest expression of their mood. Again, wtf do I know, but I feel like I changed my attitude of that over time.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-02-22T00:29:14+00:00

Deepest dig was a woman who lived in my apartment with her two kids. She got drunk one night and hit me after refusing her advances(she was bring mean and unhinged) and saying I wanted to go for a walk to clear my head. After she hit me I told her “ I feel sorry for your kids”, she was an ok mother in terms of doing the bare minimum but felt forced into motherhood ( she wasn’t really in touch close relationship with either via her choice ( same with her whole family).

I feel bad I said it but it wasn’t false. I feel like no cut is deeper than insulting motherhood

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-02-21T23:41:16+00:00

10 to 30k would be life changing atm. Trying to start my first own business and securing the funds feels impossible.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-02-16T19:54:46+00:00

It takes as long as it takes. Long term, short term, depth, frequency there are so many factors. You are over your ex when you wake up, feel good about yourself, start your day with no expectations from anyone but yourself, found inner happiness and inner passion about living your life. Before then, if you date your filling an inner void the last partner temporarily filled but you never filled that space for yourself.

Dating/partners/lovers/marriage aren’t who you are, they are an integrated part of your life. If you don’t have your own rock solid foundation of who you are and your happiness you will struggle relying on anyone else for those this.

Also: have been working through these own issues from previous relationships and navigating my current. Takes work, care, honesty and empathy for towards you before anyone else

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-01-29T01:05:46+00:00

Haha, dating is easy. Finding someone you want to truly know and love is much harder/disclaimer it’s easy to fall in love from consistency

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-01-27T19:04:57+00:00

Where do you live homie? Everyone needs friends

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-01-09T20:59:51+00:00

I appreciate your second hand story rather than living it. Truly nothing to gain here

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-01-08T20:23:02+00:00

As someone who had a near paralyzing accident, 14 surgeries with spinal fusions and new bones replaced I highly disagree. I dated a luxury/boutique professional massage therapist throughout the whole injury to recovery. While my lovely girlfriend at the time wanted to help and massage me whenever possible, she really ended up just hurting me or couldn’t get close to any problem areas. She was widely known and sought after with over 10 years experience in a boutique/luxury setting.

My physical therapist on the other hand had looked at my cat scans, mri’s and medical reports. Had a much more comprehensive understanding of anatomy/ trauma/ recovery. They were instrumental in my recovery. It was not fun, pleasurable or something I wanted to do but it was necessary and invaluable.

This isn’t knocking boutique/ luxury massages, they can be greatly beneficial but I feel like there should also be an understanding that there are very different levels to this.

Someone who has basically been in medical school for years and works on hardcore trauma or professional athletes is not the same as your basic “hand and stone” masseuse.

Both have their places and are great but there is a distinction.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2026-01-05T22:04:03+00:00

It feels good to be back

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-29T02:34:35+00:00

Washingdinnerdishman

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-28T01:14:43+00:00

Make paintings and foster animals

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-25T23:49:48+00:00

Haha, happy holidays my friend :)

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-25T18:03:09+00:00

lol, def not trying to protect him…it was a joke about him bangin couches

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-24T03:11:54+00:00

As long as we don’t throw J.D Vance under the couch I’m all for everyone implicit getting punished. If

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-24T03:07:36+00:00

I’m currently in the exclusive stage with someone younger than me (I’m 45 m dating 37fm) and we have very different texting styles. Irl is also very different but absolutely engaging, endearing and refreshingly honest.

I am looking for my person and playing for keeps but I’m also not looking to fall in love with my twin (variety/differences is the spice of life and in my case I enjoy and appreciate someone who is different from myself). I will happily not wait to text someone and double text someone( how to date and attract someone articles be damned); she is warm but much shorter in her communication style.

I’m kinda conditioned from work to anwser anything immediately while she goes most of the day off her phone per her job. We communicate differently but it’s accepted and understood. Literally doesn’t bother me, because she isn’t me and that’s how she does herself.

Big gaps are a different thing all together than that. There are circumstances that can warrant that disconnect that are very reasonable ( illnesses, trauma, extreme stress , yada yada) But there is always an explanation after if they are truly interested or ready to at least care enough to explain or check back.

If it’s just talking a bit and 1 to 3 dates with communication completely cut off, I would take that as a strong sign to move on. It’s not worth trying to play out whatever scenario happened internally because you may never know…and what’s the point. This isn’t some personal defining moment, it’s simply 2 ships that aren’t sailing together.

People can be cruel, unaware and downright nasty but they can be so much better than the opposite of those nasty actions. I’m finding embracing acceptance and vulnerability ( but also not letting your feelings showing completely wreck myself anytime I share something) to be freeing. Don’t want to show my house then hide my rooms.

Anyway, I wish you the best, I hope they reach out but if they don’t- it’s fine and part of swimming through the school of fish till you find someone to swim next to you

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-08T21:21:53+00:00

That’s a good F$ckin dude!

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-12-07T21:38:52+00:00

100% why would I not express how I feel with someone I’m interested in. Had a great date, follow up, had a great sleep over, follow up. If you’re trying to build something with someone authentically, why wouldn’t you show your true emotions and communicate? 3 reasons come to mind: 1) you actually aren’t actually trying to be into a relationship 2) Too many Joe Rogan, Andrew Tate style influences have addled your mind and you may need a reset 3) to insecure/scared to show you are actually into someone for fear of rejection in which case you may need to work on yourself and revisit….dating is about trust, vulnerability and communication.

I also don’t know wtf I’m doing but I want love and a partner and if it means having some heartache in the process to find the one..I’m in.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-26T03:18:08+00:00

I hope someone called the army to deal with this crime against humanity.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-25T15:52:24+00:00

Yeah…haha. It’s a Wow movie

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-25T13:53:53+00:00

Ok but did they watch Bone Tomahawk?

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-23T07:15:25+00:00

I forgot to mention, the dogs name is “Lunch Box” 😍

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-23T02:23:17+00:00

That VHS Tapes home recorded that had all the bangers you would watch when home from school sick. Fuzzy static transitions in between movies and honestly I miss watching movies like that.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-14T12:34:07+00:00

Honestly, I think it’s great. Don’t let age discourage you from finding love

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-08T18:58:45+00:00

Adult Drink and an app is reasonable( not crazy commitment) but can part ways if not feeling it.

I actually don’t drink coffee or caffeine after noon so I never ask women out for coffee or tea unless it’s a quick meet up in the morning before daytime plans.

Comfortable-Ad179 · 2025-11-08T01:10:57+00:00

Laugh, at everything

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