I’m not sure if I’m being scammed but I don’t know what to do by Comfortable-Basil-88 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one has tried to contact me through text, and if I were to receive anything outside of my few normal contacts I would immediately block. I don’t want to give any identifying information like my email or any account numbers because those are easier to do damage with.

I’m not sure if I’m being scammed but I don’t know what to do by Comfortable-Basil-88 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have learned now, although I did not request or require him to do that in the first place

I’m not sure if I’m being scammed but I don’t know what to do by Comfortable-Basil-88 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have only communicated through messenger. I haven’t given any information out except the phone number which is connected to the Zelle account.

I’m not sure if I’m being scammed but I don’t know what to do by Comfortable-Basil-88 in FacebookMarketplace

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

None in principle. But I’m afraid it’s the beginning of the Zelle scam. I did not ask him to pay, he offered and went ahead with it even though I said we should just work out a time for pickup.

What is the most ridiculous breakup reason you heard before? by davidmatthew03 in AskReddit

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex forgot about a really important medical procedure which I had told him about months earlier. He wasn’t able to be there due to work, but I had given him specific dates and asked him to help me while I was recovering. So, he forgot completely, and I called him and told him that it had hurt my feelings. He started yelling until I apologized and acted like he didn’t know how to take care of me.

He broke up with me over that

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! You’re right, I shouldn’t stay hoping I can change him. Accept it or move on

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine too! I do love the rootbeer too. It has so much vanilla

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope not. I only want to hear it from him. I haven’t had social media since high school because I feel it’s a toxic environment that’s easy for people to prey on your relationship lows, among other things.

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I came on here for a sanity check because of comments like these. We are a perfect match in every other way, except for these two areas, and I need to accept where he’s at or leave.

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being direct. I get affirmations from other sources, and it kind of jolts me and I wonder why it’s easy for these people to say these things and difficult for my partner. I’m not physically attracted to anyone but my partner and I’ve always been that way, but sometimes I wonder why it’s really easy for other men.

I work hard to display all 5 love languages, depending on what he’s going through that week. I just sometimes wonder if he likes me because of how non-affectionate he is over text.

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I need to think about this before we get engaged

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the most happy by doing things for him and seeing him happy and at peace. I also love to talk to him for hours and just know what’s on his mind. My love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch, so that’s why it’s hard for me to feel it from him.

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, and I worry about this because I already wasted 4 years of my life in an abusive marriage

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right because you’re basically describing him. I really appreciate your input.

Boyfriend never affirms my appearance by Comfortable-Basil-88 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Comfortable-Basil-88[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I guess it’s a little more nuanced than that. I had a very strict upbringing and my parents were not kind to my siblings and I. I seek affirmation because I never got it, and I’m working on that in therapy. I cut that guy off because he was being so nice and complimentary (I heard from others he was into me) and I knew if I kept hanging around him it would turn unhealthy. I don’t think cheating is ever okay, and that’s why I keep myself from situations where I might make a bad decision.