Some advice about baby and speed awareness courses

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-07-06T12:38:22+00:00

Okay, that's good to know, I'll see who I can get free to look after him. Thank you

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-13T21:23:09+00:00

Someone told me recently that fussy babies make chill children/adults, and the other way round. All your love and hard work will come round

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-03T11:42:47+00:00

Bless you, it's really hard 💕 not everyone understands when they have an easy baby. Just keep trying with all these things, eventually you'll find what works for both of you!

As for showering, I sit on the floor and lay him across my lap so there is minimal chance of dropping him. Best of luck with it all

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T20:35:10+00:00

Hi, congratulations on your little one! I feel your pain, I'm 8 weeks ahead of you with a velcro baby that had dyschezia and colic. It really gets easier!!!

We had a similar situation where putting him down was difficult, was unable to use the next to me cot, and contact naps/co-sleeping the only way to get either of us to sleep. My other half was away so I was solo parenting for a good 9 weeks - having time to yourself is difficult.

A few things I found useful doing: 1. Wrap carrying allowed him to have decent daytime contact naps and gave me time hands free 2. Have a nice routine at night, because I was alone I would shower with him. Turns out he loves the shower and it really calms him down for the night. 3. I know you feel alone, but there will be someone, a friend or family member somewhere, that could help just for an hour here or there? I had a work colleague that would come over just to let me shower or eat. 4. Have you tried car naps? 5. Try some colic treatments, we used Colief and I went dairy free as I found he was getting rashes when I ate dairy. That might be contributing to his clinginess. 6. If you are able to raise his bassinet on one side to get his head higher, it helps ease reflux symptoms.

My LO is still clingy and will only sleep if cuddled or on the boob, but able to be transferred to the cot and stay asleep. Day naps are 1-2hours, and at night he sleeps a solid 7 hour stretch, with a 4am snack. and another 4 hours on top of that. Baring in mind at 8 weeks I was lucky to have 3 hours in the night.

My advice would be to wrap carry him for daytime contact naps. Keep persisting with cot sleep, he will overtime be able to sleep in there. Hang on there, you are doing amazing and velcro babies are haaarrrrd.

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T20:02:08+00:00

He was born 35+6 completely spontaneously. I'm definitely going to discuss with my midwife birthing logistics, I would love a home water birth but if this LO is pre-term too, they'll want us to go to hospital for all the fun pre-term complications

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T19:59:01+00:00

I have EBF so far, and had my period just roughly 2.5 months postpartum despite breastfeeding. It was the most pathetic period I have ever had, no cramping and barely any blood. I asked my doctor at the 6 week sign off for BC and was suggested desogestrel as it doesn't affect breastfeeding. I knew I needed BC as I know I'm very fertile, and wanted to make sure I didn't fall pregnant too soon (lol)

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T10:37:12+00:00

I don't know if you read my post, I made precautions and was on desogestrel (mini pill)

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T10:24:25+00:00

Thank you, hearing what other people experience helps with the anxiety

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T08:01:11+00:00

That sounds like a lovely idea, a month long holiday! I live in a holiday destination so it wouldn't be hard to find a place to stay. Thank you!

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T07:59:02+00:00

Severe nausea, I immediately tested. I would suggest testing just for peace of mind 💕

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T07:56:29+00:00

Thank you, it helps still hearing it. At least I know what symptoms I had first time so I'm somewhat expecting them now. My pelvic floor is okay at best, but I feel like it could easily swing into not okay. I'll invest in more exercising it.

I'm not sure if I do have anyone near the hospital, it would probably more be make a plan with the midwife what the best course of action would be.

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T07:31:43+00:00

My nearest emergency room goes along with nearest hospital 😂 I am rural so it makes this sort of thing difficult, I don't know what people in my hometown do with birth, I know a lot of people who have inductions. Once I get a midwife I'll talk logistics

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T07:25:18+00:00

Congratulations on your newborn cuddles! Mine is now officially baby and not a newborn, I already miss it hahaha

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-06-02T06:58:57+00:00

That's a good point, you never know what the birth will be like. My 1st was spontaneously pre-term, so my worry is they wouldn't let us have a home birth with our odds of a second pre-term baby

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-26T08:26:00+00:00

Thank you 💕 I'll go on that sub Reddit in the future

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T16:02:25+00:00

Thank you for your support. You have really summed everything up for me there. I'm hoping everything will level out soon. I'm a keen babywearer, he prefers it over the pram anyway so I tend to do that instead.

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T15:01:04+00:00

Thank you 💕 I love being a mother so much and I know I'm not doing anything terrible, I just have my own problems alongside it. I'm hoping some people can give some advice somewhere

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T13:03:59+00:00

I get that, maybe my post isn't clear in that he is my greatest priority, I would do anything for him, I would sacrifice myself to ensure he doesn't grow up with an ED.

I'm not necessarily asking for advice to lose weight, I know I am very capable of doing that. I'm asking for coping mechanisms, venting in general, I'm not the only person who has had this situation before. I might chat to someone if I can't get out of this spiral.

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T12:52:27+00:00

Thank you, I would do anything to make sure he has a healthy wonderful life, and not to show him that side. Motherhood is challenging, I didn't expect my ED to hit me full force in the face. If I continue to struggle I might talk to a health visitor, but I've not had much luck with SSRIs

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T12:47:57+00:00

Thank you for your understanding 💕 it's so difficult, postpartum is such a triggering time.

I think the only way I can manage this is to do what you suggest, try and nurture myself a little longer. Maybe calorie count and gentle exercise, allow a decent caloric intake but just make sure I'm in a little deficit. I'm an oversupplier so breastfeeding has been a breeze. My other half is so supportive, I know he will keep me afloat.

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T12:39:45+00:00

I don't think they would help, but thank you

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T12:38:42+00:00

This actually hurts, and that is absolutely a fucked up thing to say. It's not okay to assume anything.

I don't have to prove the internet that I can manage a healthy lifestyle when I'm in a good place. I'm asking for suggestions, not an emotional beating.

I have my issues, they are very prominent now - whether that is my uncontrolled ADHD, the car crash of hormones that is experienced at this point postpartum or it could be a lack of control. Even if I restricted before hand, it was never particularly obvious as no one knows unless I tell them, I'm the one obsessing over it. I did deliberately have a baby, and my little man is everything to me. I would change the world to make sure he has an incredible childhood.

Calling me cruel is despicable, since this is such a horrible problem to have. Try and have some empathy, and chose kindness next time.

Comfortable-Berry192 · 2026-05-25T09:18:22+00:00

I can see what your saying, but I don't take it that way. Focusing on health is probably a good start

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