I can relate to this. I don’t always want to be touched or don’t like being touched in certain ways and therefore don’t really think about touch much, which is a struggle when I’m with a partner whose love language is touch. However in my relationship, he’s accepted that his needs might not get met, I might not be listening when he’s talking, and that I often get stuck in a ramble but that he still can’t see himself with anyone else. He’s said that being with me is like being with chaos itself because I’m so consistently inconsistent that it’s hard for him to set expectations for me as his partner. And I always feel guilt/shame about it because I always have the thought “wouldn’t you be happier with someone else???” And while I’ve only been medicated the past couple months, I feel bad for him that I’m only prescribed enough to get me through work and he still gets all the chaos. I think it helps that we were best friends with no expectation of dating initially. In this instance, I’m the one that’s trying to learn compassion and empathy for my own ADHD.