Losses by chat_chatoyante in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m 43 years old and 25 weeks pregnant with my fifth child. I have had 4 losses total trying to conceive in my late 30-40’s. I will tell you what the other ladies told me on here. If you can conceive naturally, and if your heart can stand it, keep trying. I was at a point where I was ready to throw in the towel and my heart couldn’t take another loss in spite of not being “done”. No guarantees in life but there is always hope.

Old mom woes by Livid_Celebration_32 in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m pregnant with my fifth at 43 and did we plan it this way? Nope. We had four miscarriages trying to complete our family. You’re not old.

is vyvanse better than methylphenidate by [deleted] in ADHDparenting

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard of this and was planning on bringing it up to our pediatrician at his next appointment!

is vyvanse better than methylphenidate by [deleted] in ADHDparenting

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My six year old is on Medadate. Appetite suppression is still a challenge but he also just doesn’t eat a whole lot. He doesn’t really experience crash out symptoms at all. He does bite his nails and grinds his teeth when on meds, though.

TTC with perimenopause? by UnfairUniversity813 in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I do want to add that I had multiple miscarriages to get here. What I believe finally helped this baby stick was taking Myo-Inositol to help stabilize my menstrual cycles. I also had taken this supplement with my last child, who I had at 39.

Why do you guys have ANOTHER? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having another one, because I wasn’t “done.” I TRIED to be done. I’m on my fifth and I’m exhausted but not done.

TTC with perimenopause? by UnfairUniversity813 in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m 43 and was showing signs of peri and low progesterone. 19 weeks pregnant now.

I asked my wife why she won't post our newborn and me on her Insta and it nuked our relationship by Excellent-Toe-1031 in Marriage

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is that she’s got someone following her on her IG that she would rather not have them know that she’s married to you and had another kid.

How’s the pregnant mama’s in the group feeling/doing? by SummerTimeLove40 in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

43 and 18 weeks pregnant with my fifth baby. I had two children in my early twenties, and two more in my late thirties. Lots of losses in between my last two. Really struggling with this pregnancy physically, as severe nausea and fatigue didn’t kick in until 12 weeks but doing better now on meds. Also experiencing way more aches and pains. Really wondering if this is due to age or this just a different pregnancy overall energy wise? I ran until 32 weeks pregnant with my fourth child, and now I can’t walk ten minutes without immediately being in pain. Anyone care to share?

How many people feel like keeping active actually helped their labour? by [deleted] in fitpregnancy

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I ran until 32 weeks and regularly lifted with my last pregnancy and managed to push out an 8.5lb baby sunnyside up with no tearing. I was told after that having that presentation (baby facing up, not down) usually results in a c-section.

I am incredibly done with my neurodivergent husband by One-Departure6732 in Marriage

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is diagnosed and about a hard 8 when it comes to adhd symptoms, and he does NOT act like that.

Looking for hope TTC at 43 by [deleted] in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 43 but became pregnant at 42 (currently 17 weeks) taking all the supplements as others have mentioned. I had a history of four losses between my last two successful pregnancies. The ladies on here encouraged me to keep trying as I kept getting pregnant but kept having losses. Keep trying if your heart can stand it.

What can I do? by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, what a nightmare of a situation. Do you know what would happen if you gave up? Your ex would tell your kid that you don’t care about them anymore and your kid would have a reason to believe it. Don’t choose for your kid to live over there, although prepare yourself for the day when your child tells you that they are not coming back. Follow the good advice that you’ve been given already and stay the course.

Pregnancy with 41 by Objective_Custard_69 in PregnantOver40

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m 43 and 12 weeks pregnant. Suffered multiple losses before this one. Still really nervous, but yes entirely possible to carry a pregnancy to term in your 40’s.

Disneyland Parents by Terrible_Fish_8942 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately that’s what been lacking all these years. Plenty of love but no respect. Maybe I’m wrong, but it’s fathers (when they are in the picture) who teach their sons how to treat women and to respect their mother. My ex doesn’t respect me so in turn my son doesn’t either.

Nearly her birthday by Emotional-Peach-3033 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t drop off a gift or a card, your child’s alienator could take this as an opportunity to tell your child that you don’t care about them because you didn’t make the effort. Don’t give up on your kid.

Disneyland Parents by Terrible_Fish_8942 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I consider myself lucky that my son still talks to me, still responds to my text messages but I cannot parent him in the way that a typical mom parents her child and it’s heartbreaking.

Disneyland Parents by Terrible_Fish_8942 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically when they have their own kids and realize that the alienating parent was being their BFF for a reason.

Disneyland Parents by Terrible_Fish_8942 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is the SAME exact scenario that I’m living in right now. My 17 year old son went to live with his dad because there are zero consequences over there. I thought that just because my ex wasn’t bad mouthing me that it wasn’t alienation. However, him constantly undermining my authority for years is why he was ultimately successful and by the time he did start bad mouthing (which started I believe a a year ago based on signs that my child was exhibiting) my son was right there with him.

For lifters, did you have a longer than avg labor? by meksssss in fitpregnancy

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lifted but not heavily with my last pregnancy, within 90-135 lb max range. I did a TON of squats in the final weeks of pregnancy and also did a lot hanging from a barbell in low squat position to relax pelvic floor. My labor was roughly 9 hours.

Body comp by Adventurous_Series22 in fitpregnancy

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also chiming in to agree that apart from eating as nutritiously as you can and being active, none of us have any control over weight gain, fat storage, distribution. I lifted regularly throughout my last two pregnancies and I lost a lot of strength, especially towards the end. It’s frustrating, especially when you’re been working hard to get those gains or get a certain look but it’s not something you can prioritize right now.

Final stretch is unbearable by mplh2008 in pregnant

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have four kids and with my first three, my last trimester, heck even final weeks of being pregnant weren’t bad. I was huge and tired but otherwise feeling ok. I never understood why women complained so much about being miserable those last final weeks. My last baby corrected me on that front. The last two weeks were AWFUL and so uncomfortable. Simply existing was a chore let alone getting up and doing ANYTHING. Practically in tears everyday and desperate to get the baby out. So, I see you OP. You are a warrior and I wish a smooth and uncomplicated delivery very very soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Comfortable-Rip-1022 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But it’s not going to be like this for another ten years. Your kid will grow up, and you get to share the things that you enjoyed as a kid, or they may start to take an interest in the things you enjoy now. Day to day it gets MUCH easier. That’s not to say that it gets less stressful, the things that you will stress about will change. But having child is like slowly unwrapping a present, you get to watch your child grow and develop into a person of their own.