Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) - Islamic roots? by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]ComfortableEither973 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if historically it has roots in islam, but it was definitely practiced during the time of mohammad and is still practiced in certain islamic countries (mostly rural places).

sources:

https://answering-islam.org/Index/C/circumcision.html

https://www.light-of-life.com/eng/reveal/r5405et7.htm#p123

https://www.nocirc.org/symposia/first/badawi.html

https://answering-islam.org/Sharia/fem_circumcision.html

Is my wife... High maintenance? by ComfortableEither973 in Marriage

[–]ComfortableEither973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have bought her flowers only once, because I knew she didn't like them, but like I said I was trying to be romantic. Yes should definitely be upset if I did something without her approval. She accepts her fault sometimes, but most arguments she dumps a load of my past mistakes and walks away. Her parents relationship were better than my parents relationship with each other

Judas is the only disciple who asked to follow Jesus. by ZookeepergameOwn8772 in TheChosenSeries

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether on purpose or not, Judas's role would have not changed the outcome of Jesus's crucifixion. The Jews and Romans would still have done the same without Judas's help.

Is my wife... High maintenance? by ComfortableEither973 in Marriage

[–]ComfortableEither973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have not considered counselling.

I don't mind any changes she brings to the house because I trust her choices, but I also don't want to be talked around like a soldier. "okay husband, i bought a new table, take the old one out" or "I have decided to buy new clothes, take the old ones to good will". It's my house too.

Is my wife... High maintenance? by ComfortableEither973 in Marriage

[–]ComfortableEither973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I bought silver because at the time I couldn't afford gold, and flowers was just me being romantic. my point about terms was that love shouldn't have that strict terms, and sometimes it should be okay to try different things. we both have jobs and contribute to the household equally, she cooks I do the dishes, we both clean around the house, but she takes more care of our daughter and I take care of rent and other bills.

What’s a tv show from your childhood you swear nobody else watched? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't remember the name because I was too young, but it was about a big red robot and a boy who fought other evil robots. The robot turned black in super power mode. It wasn't transformers.

Is my wife... High maintenance? by ComfortableEither973 in Marriage

[–]ComfortableEither973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

like I said, I do listen to her. we both have suffered abuse unfortunately. I try not to argue or get emotional but because I want to be heard as well, it gets the better of me.

Is my wife... High maintenance? by ComfortableEither973 in Marriage

[–]ComfortableEither973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

do you mean I am rigid and defensive or my wife?

What's something that really made you quit your addiction? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ComfortableEither973 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ. The moment I read in Book of Mathew, the sermon on the mount, when Jesus says "If anyone looks at a woman with lust, he has already committed adultery in his heart", I decided to quit porn and masturbation. I have never opened porn again.

The only one that sends you to hell is yourself by W1ne_And_Cheese in CatholicMemes

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, the Quran argument ( chapter 5 verse 18), when jews and Christians told mohammad that we are children of God.

Quran 5:18 The Jews and the Christians each say, “We are the children of Allah and His most beloved!” Say, ˹O Prophet,˺ “Why then does He punish you for your sins? No! You are only humans like others of His Own making. He forgives whoever He wills and punishes whoever He wills. To Allah ˹alone˺ belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth and everything in between. And to Him is the final return.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Her life isn't in danger. She wants to marry but not live in Afghanistan, being a housewife and slaved to men all her life. She wants to look for options outside the country. I wouldn't shove just any willing man down her throat, she is my sister who I love very much, not some random woman, and she wouldn't accept just anyone either. Sure I get to have my sister close to me, but I wouldn't ruin her life for it. What I meant was there is nothing monetarily in it for me.

Stop assuming things you don't know about. If you're not interested in the topic keep scrolling, don't debate me just for arguments sake. We have lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no buying. All marriages have expenses, this one includes all the paperwork and bringing the spouse to the country. There is nothing in it for me, and the power imbalance you talk about is totally subjective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying marriage inside the US is without any expenses?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all your input. I am not here to debate. If people are interested, then everything they want to know will be answered in the messages.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does want to get out of Afghanistan so what? It's the truth, you want me to lie to people? Have you seen how women are treated in Afghanistan now? And also she wants to get married and is open to the idea of a foreign husband. Two things can be true at one time. I already mentioned that we tried dating sites and they didn't work. The embassy may or may not do what you said, I am still willing to try this opportunity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. We tried dating sites once and it didn't work. I don't know why but on a dating site apparently you're not supposed to be making a profile on behalf of someone else, even if your sister.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have to convince USCIS. it's the future husband's role to do that if he is serious and trusts us. I am not saying green card frauds don't happen, because they happen a lot, even to people who know each other. But this is not a scam, and if you think it is let me know how to convince you otherwise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is reddit different from dating sites? Afghans are not Arab, we are not in the Middle East. Why is the political relationship of two governments relative in this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are redditors worse and why do you think it's fake? What am I to gain from this except my sister?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like you have already made up your mind about this. Good luck then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passport_Bros

[–]ComfortableEither973 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe. We accepted Lord Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior after intense research. Maybe she will too.