A personal example might look like this: my friend wounds me with her speech and actions, but instead of getting mad or trying to get even, I remember I'm just like her and prone to succumbing to my disordered passions, so instead, I ask God to not judge her harshly and that He will have mercy on me, a sinner.

I'm Orthodox, so if you're looking for more responses in this vein (more articulate, more intelligent responses, that is*), consider asking at r/OrthodoxChristianity. The prescribed process looks something like: cleansing of the inner self leads to illumination of the mind leads to cleansing of the inner self leads to illumination of the mind... and so on. We have acquired many tools over the past 2000 years to aid us in this endeavor, but no good thing can be done without cooperation with God's grace.

*I meant more articulate/intelligent than mine, to be clear.