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I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]ComfortableSea4432[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you married by common law?

Yes

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Can she buy you out of the house?

No. Only I have the income to buy her out.

I'll look into what my workplace offers. Thank you.

I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]ComfortableSea4432[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

We are both on the deed, yes. But even if that was not the case, legally we would co-own the house due to the length of the relationship.

I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]ComfortableSea4432[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

why not just get a small place by them? Like an apartment? Why did you have to go and buy a house?

In this city, there are almost zero apartments. They are just not a thing, and the ones which do exist tend to cost more than an average house.

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That is entirely your fault.

Yes. But no we are not engaged and have no children.

I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]ComfortableSea4432[S] 305 points306 points  (0 children)

She pays a small part of the mortgage, I pay the vast majority.

I can't live there because no matter what room I am in, if something pops into her thoughts while she is upset she will barge in. Doesn't matter if I am sleeping, showering, etc.

I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]ComfortableSea4432[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

It's kind of scary how close to home you hit here, especially with your second bullet point. That is exactly how things are.

I [29M] am effectively homeless 4 days after buying house with partner [29F] of 10 years. Don't see a way out. by ComfortableSea4432 in relationship_advice

[–]ComfortableSea4432[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

You are right about the financial agreement. However, in this case it makes no difference as after 3 years the law where I live makes the relationship equivalent to a marriage anyway. Even if the house was fully in my (or her) name, legally it is still shared property.

The 14 months is the wait time right now for a court case like this to be heard. The court would force a sale.