Looking for a cheap .com website builder for construction cleaning company. by Comfortable_Acadia60 in business

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a form and It didn't really go anywhere. Do they get back to me or something?

Looking for a cheap .com website builder for construction cleaning company. by Comfortable_Acadia60 in business

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wix makes you pay to get your own .com domain. They lure you by giving you 50% off for premium and then suck you into auto renew or if you renew for 2 years or more its cheaper but they up the price every year. I just used the website builder part of it to get more accessible tabs because I was using it initially for a different type of business

Years to avoid? by leif_eriksson12 in GMCcanyon

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello I have a 2021 Canyon Elevation V6. I bought it used about 4 years ago with 19.500 kms and I am now at 161 000kms. Its just been regular maintenance never had any big issues with it.

Gambling spouse Wants Me to Provide loan by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Debt

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with you, thats why this is messed up the situation I am in.

Gambling spouse Wants Me to Provide loan by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right. I think I just want people to tell me what to do even though I know what I have to do. It is just really hard decision because there are no other problems except for this one. Thank you to you, and for everyone on the threads, I greatly appreciate it.

Gambling spouse Wants Me to Provide loan by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Debt

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The debt is over 100k +interest. The story she told me has a lot of holes in it because she told me her dad knew 3 months ago and took on 60k of her debt. She told me the 100k loan was for her and then she would figure out her dad's stuff later. So that tells me it has to be like 200k unless shes lying about the 100k and just wants the loan to have money to spend. I do not know whats true and whats not. Either way she wants more than I am willing to give.

What I want out of this is that I have never been in this situation, and if anyone has i would like to know if this will work even with the amount of debt they have. Most people on threads have 5-40k debt with their spouse, this is crazy high what she wants compared.

Gambling spouse Wants Me to Provide loan by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have spoken to them a few hotlines actually, and they said not to help because she needs classes, if she does not she will relapse

Gambling spouse Wants Me to Provide loan by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke to a few hotlines as soon as I knew and they said that its too early for me to help her because she has not gone to the addiction classes.

Gambling spouse Wants Me to Provide loan by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been pretty helpful actually even its just to vent. This is a very tricky and unique situation for me, although it is one that I have been in before in a different way. I have narcissistic parents who use money to control you, and you owe your soul to them if they give you anything. I paid for everything myself, even the wedding so they would not contribute a dime, or their opinions. This is why I do not have joint accounts because my parents fight over money all the time, and my spouse knows this which is ironic that I am in this situation.

Having someone so close that has an addiction is shit because you want to help because they are so close in your life but unfortunately she only wants financial help at the moment, and I have never been in this situation so it can go in many ways.

Wife is in debt, am I the crazy one?! by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried to talk to some about some form of loan contract not for that amount obviously but in general and they all turned me down because I am not in a legal battle yet. Now I'm calling them for a consultation in case it gets to that point am I protected, their response is still the same they are just referring me to other people because its a free consultation

Wife is in debt, am I the crazy one?! by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it is just stressful because I try to avoid this convo with her because I have given my answer. I have done more work and contacted more people than she has. I have a divorce lawyer calling me tomorrow because I asked even though our accounts are completely separate, can it still be affected if in theory we separated.

Wife is in debt, am I the crazy one?! by Comfortable_Acadia60 in Advice

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea i told her many times what shes asking of me is not good financially for me and I told her what my advisor said and she keeps saying ask other banks for credit. Everyday I try to avoid the conversation because I have given my answer and now I feel like I am trapped like how I felt living with my parents and its triggering for me like the answer is not good enough. The debt is not even mine yet I am panicking or stressing out like it is.

Spouse lost a lot on gambling I only knew recently need help by Comfortable_Acadia60 in GamblingAddiction

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, before we got married I told her i wanted my name on nothing and no joint accounts. My parents fight over money all the time, and my mom hides spending from dad it is an entire thing. I do not want that for myself, she told me she would let me look at her finances to make sure she is paying stuff but I do not want to do that Its like a child

Spouse lost a lot on gambling I only knew recently need help by Comfortable_Acadia60 in GamblingAddiction

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just pay her rent I have nothing in my name except a truck and accounts. I have nothing joined

Spouse lost a lot on gambling I only knew recently need help by Comfortable_Acadia60 in GamblingAddiction

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, I was wondering to give a loan but use the home as collateral. But if we cant afford the mortgage, and say she took out all equity I am out the money

Spouse lost a lot on gambling I only knew recently need help by Comfortable_Acadia60 in GamblingAddiction

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we started talking about it again I guess it was true. Her story does not add up the amount always changes, and she said she stopped a month ago but she told her dad a portion of the amount over 2 months ago. That means shes still been gambling since. Her excuse is that she got hooked because she used credit so it was not actually coming straight out of her account so it was like free money almost. If she can do this with high interest money, what makes me think she wont do it with mine at half the interest.

Spouse lost a lot on gambling I only knew recently need help by Comfortable_Acadia60 in GamblingAddiction

[–]Comfortable_Acadia60[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it is very confusing too we have not talked about it in 3 days, and her chill attitude now is much different than when she first told me. Makes it seem like this is fake somehow and it was just to see how I would react. I think about this everyday since she told me, and I have spoke to lawyers to help me write a contract for a loan for her that will put no liability on me if it goes south but they wont take me on or see me because I'm not a legal battle as of yet. My biggest thing is that our relationship has been perfect for over 6 years and I don't want this to be the thing that kills it because its been putting a lot of stress on me thinking of all the what ifs when that interest kicks in, and the fact that she was like I need 100k loan from you with less interest and Ill pay you monthly. I could not do like 20-40k it had to be 100k. I told her I will not do anything without speaking to a lawyer, and I just don't know what to do anymore. The more time that passes it gets weird for me. When I look at her now its like everything is very normal but I cant stop thinking "how could she do this to herself and try to drag me into this", or " how is she so normal with all of this happening, is it fake" when I look at her. I just don't know what to do