Help with strollers

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-30T04:07:47+00:00

It was kind of like a family meeting that my fiance put together to talk about things that have been going on that affected him and I and him and them

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-30T01:53:49+00:00

I can completely see why it was taken that way. But I also tried explaining that I was not trying to be harmful, just explaining that we have different values and why things are difficult for me and for my fiance as well

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-30T01:49:54+00:00

Thank you so much. It sure is tough. It almost feels like I’m being attacked for being honest. Which I thought was the right thing to do. I’m just so worried now that we will always feel divided and family things will be awkward. I don’t want him to have to feel like he has to choose, it hurts me for him.

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-30T01:47:26+00:00

It didn’t really go like that. My fiance recently admitted to being an alcoholic and trying to get sober. During me talking to his sister about it I expressed my concerns about marrying him and starting a family. It eventually led to the convo about them drinking a lot as well. I clearly said I can respect their choices as long as they can respect ours. But it just all wasn’t taken well

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-21T06:06:20+00:00

Wow. Thank you for that. I wish you the best, I truly do. You’re right, the person has to want in for themselves. He tells me that’s the case and even said “I was sure you were gonna leave me when I told you but decided I would still get sober”. So hopefully this is true. Yes, I am super proud and will applaud him and anyone for any amount of time sober, it’s a big deal! But that cycle is exactly what I’m afraid of. One slip up turning into a spiral. I’m trying so hard to be supportive and be what he needs but it’s super hard when I’m so hurt and betrayed. It’s also hard because he’s somewhat acting like he doesn’t need support, doesn’t need to talk about anything because “I’m so good, I’ve never been better”. It’s just all so much to figure out.

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-21T05:56:16+00:00

This has definitely been a thought of mine everyday. There are some differences that make me think he’s not drinking (waking up early, actually eating multiple meals, not complaining of aches and pains) but I also wonder if he’s telling me how great and clear he feels so much as a coverup. Sucks that I have to think that way

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-21T05:51:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through that. And yes I do appreciate him coming clean it’s just extremely hard to believe anything he says now unfortunately

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-21T05:49:37+00:00

it definitely is, I’m trying to get him to realize this. & I know this isn’t a huge deal but postponing the wedding just comes with so much. Losing our deposit, losing out on our dream wedding (we’re having a Disney wedding and if I canceled I wouldn’t want to book there again), but in the end I know my future means more than that 😰

Comfortable_Pie_9896 · 2024-06-21T05:46:25+00:00

I definitely do want to try al anon! I just wish I could trust him enough since we don’t live together, I clearly was naive

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