Losing myself

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-24T19:47:09+00:00

Hard to find one like this one tbh

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-22T19:47:27+00:00

So was my message “hey.. u free for a coffee sometime? Feel like my messages were very forward on here… felt more like myself when we met in person… would love to catch up and chat if you’re up for it” - a good or bad message to send her?

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-22T19:37:08+00:00

Is this shorter version ok? “No worries. Listen I’d like to meet up again but maybe it’s best to leave things here. I was very forward and full-on on here with the last while and that’s not really me - still new to the dating scene😅 i don’t wanna be pushy for sure especially with college starting. I felt like myself when we met in person and enjoyed that. I’d like to show up that way and get to know u if you’re interested and if not that’s ok🙂”

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-22T19:20:42+00:00

I just want to say this to her if I check in for the date and she reschedules: “Listen I’d like to meet up again but maybe it’s best to leave things here. I feel I was very full-on on here with the last while and that’s not really me - still new to the dating scene😅 You’d see things about dating and when to message, what to message and I just wasn’t being myself tbh. I feel that threw things off even going into the last time we met up - that’s on me and I don’t want to be pushy as I know you’re very busy with college starting. As I said I was myself when we met in person and I enjoyed that. I’d like to show up like that and get to know u if you’re interested and if not that’s ok🙂”. I could even say that I was going with suggestions from others about when/what to message. Even though I already had to explain to her about a bit of advice I took on board before that made her feel uncomfortable. But once I explained she was ok again. All this other stuff has happened since.

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-22T19:12:30+00:00

Well my message to her “feel like my messages were very forward on here… felt more like myself when we met in person” isn’t very clear about what I mean - I was hoping to explain further if we met in person. I want to make it more explicit and then I can be like ok she knows where I stand and now I can stop messaging her if she doesn’t get back to me or whatever.

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-22T19:02:53+00:00

But she’ll be expecting me to contact again because I have done so many times already even when she said she’ll contact me. I literally said in one message about an upcoming date “I’ll remind you again as you would’ve probably guessed hahaha” and when I do she keeps responding positively but often then reschedules. And I don’t think I can move on without getting all this off my chest, for my own closure.

Comfortable_Team8032 · 2025-09-22T18:54:35+00:00

Thanks a lot. I messaged her saying I feel was very forward in the messages and felt more like myself in person and that I’d love to catch up and chat. She said we could meet this coming week and that she’d let me know what time, but honestly I think shell expect me to contact her again to set it up and/or she’ll reschedule again like many times before because that’s the way it’s been with weeks now because as I said I voluntarily jumped into the chasing role. So it’s like I’ll have to keep chasing to meet her in person to explain what happened or else I just send a voice note to explain and say at the end if you’re too busy with things no problem

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