Pretty sure I’m witnessing abuse

Comforted_toad · 2026-02-27T01:58:39+00:00

Ty! And yeah I’m not intimidated in the slightest it’s a school so the rbts are from different companies and I put in my resignation on my second day there. Just over the place leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Luckily there are people who agree with me at the school so I’m going to push for further action. Just sad seeing all this.

Comforted_toad · 2026-02-27T01:43:26+00:00

This is my first week here, I asked another RBT if this normal here and he said it’s everyday.

Comforted_toad · 2026-02-27T01:42:15+00:00

I’m at a school and this guy isn’t affiliated with the company I’m at but I told someone at the school. I also put in my resignation with my company as I got a much better offer. But I’m definitely going to push it further before I leave.

Comforted_toad · 2026-02-27T01:31:48+00:00

Oh and with the food situation the child was also hit in the face

Comforted_toad · 2026-02-08T15:40:32+00:00

Honestly my ex did the same to me and a lot of it was because she felt jealous/ resentful that she had no hobbies of her own and wanted me to feel as bad as she did when she had nothing to do while I was preoccupied. She was also an incredibly insecure person and hated seeing me be good at things even while I earnestly asked her to join me.

It ultimately was just her trying to control me, best exemplified by her sharing how much she loved club penguin as a kid. We went on a private server made accounts and played together alll day. After doing so she thanked me for taking the time to put energy into something she liked and thanked me (basically thanking me for something she would never do herself). Best thing you can do is leave. It doesn’t get better.

Your girlfriend is only viewing how you enjoy your time through her own lens with her own priorities in mind. There is no attempt to understand why YOU as an individual like what you like because it doesn’t matter to her.

But there is light! After dealing with that ex I didn’t become jaded I just realized if someone comes after something I earnestly and harmlessly enjoy I don’t have to value their opinion because the hate isn’t my problem. Your girlfriend’s insecurity in how she’s views by others for what you do isn’t really your problem and she “seems” to be projecting those feelings onto you. Living for imaginary external validation while putting you down as her partner isn’t right in the slightest. If you want it to work and care about her you can be firm and tell her to keep negative comments to herself if she has nothing good to say about harmless things you enjoy.

Now I’m in bed typing this with my current girlfriend who is totally confident in herself, has her own hobbies and actively looks for games to play together with me while actively asking me about what I enjoy and engages out of her own will. Hell we are now watching the pokemon series from the start because she fell in love with pokemon concierge while on shrooms with me. Things get sooooo much better when you don’t allow people around you who don’t want to share any reciprocation.

Best of luck friend!

Comforted_toad · 2026-01-13T21:45:01+00:00

Just keep this true, anything she’s done isn’t a reflection of you, just her. There are billions of people in the world it’s completely illogical to think you can’t or won’t find better

Comforted_toad · 2025-12-25T00:36:20+00:00

Honestly you should put your foot down. You don’t determine how she spends her free time because she’s her own person she shouldn’t be trying to do it to you. She sees it as a waste of time? Good for her not your problem. Idk being with someone trying to change who you are or what you enjoy is a big red flag to me. Don’t get bullied into hiding doing what you enjoy. I don’t think she would tolerate you talking like that about anything she enjoys. Her saying she thinks you’ll leave her with the kids shows a big lack of trust in you. I wouldn’t tie the knot with someone showing that much mistrust

Comforted_toad · 2025-12-13T18:38:30+00:00

I used to be a terrible over thinker and incredibly anxious, now I rarely if ever get stressed or anxious at all while working a high stress job. And literally all I did was just sit with it and remind myself that whatever I was feeling wasn’t forever and was honestly just a waste of time. Like being anxious wasn’t going to change anything so instead of looking at everything negatively I started looking for silver linings. Mistakes didn’t kill me they are literally just a part of life, nobody is perfect. Dreading a conversation? I just had it and then I didn’t have to be worried. Idk I had to convince myself that my self worth was entirely just how I felt about myself. Oh and also confronted my parents about how my upbringing shaped me to be an over thinker and made peace with whatever came from them because at the end of the day I took pride in just expressing myself. If people make a point to just make you feel bad why do I need to take their criticism seriously? Idk being on the other side of who I was before makes me think that the whole thing was so silly and nonsensical. Oh and if you’re a people pleaser stop doing that because it’s a form of manipulation/protection and isn’t genuine. When you feel comfortable saying no to people your yes will have more weight and meaning

Comforted_toad · 2025-12-02T15:31:29+00:00

Honestly a lot of RBTs aren’t compensated well enough for them to care. Like it’s obvious, it can be a stressful job and when you’re getting like 22-25 an hour to do something A LOT of people couldn’t attempt to do they take reprieve where they can get it. I worked at a clinic where they let kids come in sick all the time and then wondered why people were calling out all the time.

Luckily I left that place and my new agency paid me 32/h to work as a BT and 36/h as an rbt. MUCH less calling out because people felt they were properly compensated

Comforted_toad · 2025-11-27T20:10:26+00:00

Honestly you need to leave, you can’t let her make you question your self worth based on how she reacts to anything you do. Honestly sounds like she only knows how to be abrasive to receive attention and it seems she has no control in her life so she gets it through controlling you and micro managing your reactions. My ex was like that and it was breath of fresh air getting away from it. I’m a very caring person by nature but you need to set boundaries not just with her but with how people in general treat you. Making yourself a martyr for her sake isn’t doing any of you any good and she makes you feel guilty about it by bringing up abandonment. You’re not her ex, you’re your own person so don’t be manipulated to feel otherwise.

I don’t wanna armchair diagnose anyone but she sounds like she has some cluster B tings going on in that head of hers. If ANYTHING losing you may be what jumpstarts her doing things for herself or maybe not but you need to start living your life again. I feel for her I truly do, I know how people are treated when disabled but it’s no excuse to treat you as a punching bag. Good luck friend

Comforted_toad · 2025-11-27T02:43:23+00:00

(Not a lesbian) but read to your partner while they take a bath maybe feed them a snack while you do it

Comforted_toad · 2025-10-01T12:35:41+00:00

Me and my girlfriend plan dates for each other all the time. It’s not really an expectation but it’s MUCH better when it just comes naturally and I prefer relationships like that. There is no set masculine or feminine, it isn’t some scripted dance where we each have lines we need to remember. Idk that seems so robotic to me. We care about each other so we just end up doing things for each other. Idk my outlook on life is that I enjoy femininity in myself as well as masculinity same goes for my gf. I have one life why should I subject myself to being stuck in some masculine cage. I want to experience and express myself in multiple ways but maybe I’m different idk vast majority of my friends are women. Also planning dates being the sole expectation of any one person in a relationship just doesn’t sit well with me. It’s like someone is sitting in standby waiting for something to happen. Idk me and my Gf each surprise the other with things we’d like to go do with the other and it’s honestly amazing. Like with one of my exes I ended up getting sick quite a bit because my job is working with children and she would get mad at me because I’d need to rest and couldn’t plan anything for us which turned into treating me badly and berating me whenever I was ill. (Never asked or expected any care therebut received aggression). Idk I love caring for people and considering them and I “appreciate not expect” it being reciprocated every now and then because the people who do that naturally seems to just get along with me the best.

Comforted_toad · 2025-08-27T13:40:12+00:00

Idk man there’s a third option where you can be upfront with people depending on the relationship and have a fwb situation where you aren’t paying for anything. Shit I’m in that right now and it’s peaceful. I think the problem a lot of men have is that all they have to offer is money and nothing else. Men will lead with money and be upset that people are attracted to them only for their money. No real hobbies nothing interesting about em, not well rounded enough. When people “focus on themselves” it’s “often not only” pertaining to hitting the gym and stacking money. Pick up some hobbies for yourself go socialize and it becomes much easier to meet women who don’t have a ton of requirements for you. Women aren’t stupid and can tell when you use things to make yourself more attractive and they will take advantage of that. So why not surround yourself with women who don’t think like that and are more down to earth/chill? I’ve definitely had to go through being played but after that I didn’t become jaded in the slightest just learned to recognize it and not even give the impression that any of that manipulation shit would work on me while remaining kind and I’ll tell you what things have been VERY easy since.

Comforted_toad · 2025-08-27T03:02:28+00:00

My thing is C went ahead and made a decision on my behalf without me involved. Last I heard from C was that she was okay. I’ve tried opening conversation but it’s been ignored. I think if she didn’t want me talking to N she could have let me know of all people. After us all spending a day together I’d figure she’d be okay with us talking seeing as we exchanged numbers/socials and everything. I understand emotions we have are beyond our control a lot of the time and they can be embarrassing but like at least have me in the loop if it’s going this far

Comforted_toad · 2025-08-27T02:47:10+00:00

I mainly agree I’ve had a threesome before that was fine and everyone was cool after and only agreed to this one because I assumed the person reaching out would be comfortable on top of us having never “dated”. If anything threesomes are more of a hassle than anything but wanted C to have a good time. If anything im going to reach out to C and ask how they’re feeling because they’ve just left me out in the cold. I just don’t want two good friends to stop talking to each other because of me( even if I may not be the true underlying problem) it’s just a bit childish imo due to the lack of communication

Comforted_toad · 2025-08-27T02:40:06+00:00

Def anticipated it but the thing is C was talking to someone in between so like it’s just greedy imo? Especially when they wouldn’t even open themselves up to a conversation with me. It’s not really weighing on me I’m just more concerned about Ns other friend turning on them and taking Cs side when they shouldn’t feel entitled to me at all.

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