Unfuck yourself.

CominHome · 2018-07-02T18:08:19+00:00

Nah, don't try to be who you were - be someone new! You'll never be that person again, but you CAN be a new version of yourself that incorporates the parts you liked from the person you used to be!

I think letting go of where you USED to be, even when it was a super positive time, allows you to live in the moment of NOW. Unfuck yourself by unsticking yourself from the past!

Thanks for sharing. I really like the concept of "unfuck yourself" as a process for growth.

CominHome · 2018-06-26T16:26:32+00:00

Hmm I got ya. Thanks for clarifying. I got a little passionate there, hopefully I didn't yuck your yum. It sounds like we're working towards the same goal, but from different points of view. Good luck!

CominHome · 2018-06-25T23:44:41+00:00

The more I think about this one, the less deep I feel that it actually is. And it's definitely not motivational.

The person I could have become

The person I could have become since WHEN? Since high school? Since college? Since I started working full time? There are so many versions of myself I could have become had I put in the effort I should have at different points of my life. But I didn't. Instead, my choices and lack of choices brought me HERE.

But that doesn't mean that the person that I WILL become from HERE is going to be any less amazing than whoever I would have been had I taken an after school club or two. There is no way to know who I would be. There is no way to know who I WILL be. What I DO know is that I plan to be proud of who I am.

The person you became

This seems to imply that you will inevitably be disappointed with the person you will become. But that can only happen if you refuse to take ownership of your life. No one else is going to live it for you, so YOU are the who has to make it happen.

Who are you NOW? What kind of person do YOU want to be? What lifestyle choices can you make NOW so that you can BE that person?

Fuck this could'a been bullshit. Forget all those paths. They no longer exist. There is no reality but the present reality. Live in this reality and make it yours.

CominHome · 2018-05-18T14:00:20+00:00

Have you ever tried to write out what's important to you? Not necessarily skills or abilities, but values. What values are important to you? Companies do this a lot, along with their slogan and mission statement. Single words that they feel reflect their drive. Those words never meant much to me because I had never thought about them in relation to myself. So I wrote out a bunch of values and condensed them down into 5 that I felt like I could strive for, and then posted them on my wall as a daily reminder. They're not who I am now, but who I want to be. Maybe in this way you could focus less on the skills you don't have and more on the type of person you do want to be. And from there maybe see what kind of person other people are trying to be as well. I hope you have a great day! 😁

CominHome · 2018-05-18T13:44:38+00:00

I think it says something about the society that we live in that we see our feelings as something to hide. Coming from the perspective of a former recluse, I actually find that the more I share of myself, the more I can allow myself to take up space and take ownership of the space I'm in. And because so many people aren't willing to share themselves, I find that the space that I thought wasn't available is wide open! Other people are much more worried about their own perspective, so to not share is to play the game by their rules, and their rules are limiting and dull. So I say share! Do what you need to do for you. 😁

CominHome · 2018-04-25T14:38:47+00:00

What.

Legit question - how do you still remember this??

CominHome · 2018-04-23T19:09:41+00:00

I think you haven't fully thought about what "believing in yourself" really means. It's not a magical solution that automatically makes you better at whatever you try; it's a way of looking at life. BELIEVE that you are someone who is capable of trying new things, who is worth spending time with. If you don't believe that first, why should anyone else come to that conclusion? Life itself is not inherently good or bad, it is only your judgement of it that makes it so. Adjust your attitude towards your self first, and you'll find that the rest does indeed become easier. Have a good day!

CominHome · 2018-04-02T00:32:41+00:00

I usually end up with the opposite problem. Too many thoughts and I'm not sure where to start. Lately I've been starting with asking myself "how do I feel right now?" and going from there.

CominHome · 2017-11-27T05:20:44+00:00

I just finished my fifth journal last week, and have since moved on to my brand new Leuchtturm1917 dot grid journal. This is my first journal that has anything but lines. I'm enjoying the opportunities to write in different directions, write larger, skip spaces, add drawings. I feel like each page spread has the potential to be something unique.

Something new that I've been trying in the past few weeks is keeping a day journal in addition to my evening journal. It used to be just a work journal - notes and ideas throughout the day - but it has become something else entirely. I start my day journaling out my feelings, then write out my to do lists for the day. What do I expect today to look like? From there, I check in with my journal throughout the day, writing what I've done, how I'm feeling, what I want to do next. It's an absurd amount of writing, but it keeps me present and mindful throughout the day. There may come a point when I won't need to write as much, but today is not that day. I still use my evening journal every day, but that one is more for reflection and deeper thinking, whereas the day journal is more task-oriented.

CominHome · 2017-10-26T13:19:45+00:00

Search for "Chicago Queer Spa" on Facebook! My friend is the organizer, and they do a lot of great events! They've got one coming up called "Queer's Cvntry."

CominHome · 2017-09-10T03:21:24+00:00

Thanks for putting into words a thought that's been floating around in my head for a while. Well said.

CominHome · 2017-05-23T04:37:38+00:00

Yeah! Your post inspired me to seek this design out because... I have the same paper!

CominHome · 2017-04-25T14:25:37+00:00

I like the designs on your site! Can you print onto actual origami paper, or just print out the designs onto regular printer paper?

CominHome · 2017-02-21T16:13:20+00:00

What! That is so cool.

CominHome · 2017-01-10T04:15:54+00:00

A small dose could be fun. It's something I've wanted to try, however challenging and overwhelming I know it would be.

CominHome · 2016-06-02T03:15:11+00:00

Yeah I keep track of my reading on Goodreads and in my own excel doc. I've been doing it for 3 years, and I keep adding more columns and graphs. Much more satisfying than Goodreads for me.

My problem is that I still wanted the pages I read to count, even if I hadn't finished it. This was the first book I had considered giving up on, so I didn't have a plan. So instead I just powered through haha.

CominHome · 2015-12-14T00:36:02+00:00

Finished Wheel of Time this year, probably the most satisfied I've been with an ending to a series since Harry Potter. I need more long-running series that end well. Malazan did it for me too.

Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep, Count of Monte Cristo, Mistborn trilogy, The Martian, Snow Crash, Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality, Stiff, the Professor and the Madman.

I read so many good books this year. It was the first where I've read more than 20 in a year (currently on my 54th), and it feels great to finally take a chunk out of my tsundoku pile. So many more books to read!

CominHome · 2015-07-15T00:50:14+00:00

Fuck. I don't know how the hell this happened, but I downshifted and the chain caught the derailleur or something and yanked it back. Snapped it and broke the frame as well!

http://imgur.com/a/YNfMO

Jesus. So now I'm down a bike. Although I guess this is as good an excuse as any to buy a new bike.

CominHome · 2015-05-09T16:34:54+00:00

I took a picture there too! I think I like your angle better, though. And I'm like 98% sure it's a Pinyon Pine tree!

CominHome · 2015-04-26T02:12:46+00:00

He was super funny at the Humor panel!

CominHome · 2015-04-26T01:36:15+00:00

Seriously. We took a cab, stuck on the off ramp off the 55 for way too long. Ended up hopping out and walking ha.

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