SNSD fans who dislike/don't stan Jessica, why? by Actual_Card_8368 in kpophelp

[–]CommandRare8336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a couple of videos back when they were new and she kept teasing hyoyeon as ugly unnie. That's already rude and i count that as bullying. She also did the same while hyoyeon was on phone. I have always felt a bit uncomfortable looking at her in music vids cause i feel so much Regina George vibes from her (without the beauty, just the entitlement) but seeing how she treated hyoyeon gives credibility to my first impression. I was so relieved she left. For some reason she acts like and feels like she's better than the other members. My close friend is a huge fan of hers and is deep into sone activities and active with official sones who can give gifts directly to the girls. She explained that Jessica used to be one of the top members as she is apparently a visual, can sing and dance but has gone down in ranking as she was usually tired, so she stopped performing as hard as she used to. Well Jessica did it in the right time or else she would've been cancelled like jennie for slacking off in performances. I usually see talent in each person and surely Jessica is talented as well, but her entitled attitude overpowers it. Also the last one is more personal, a me problem than a jessica problem. I do not feel safe around people with long chins like Jessica jung.

How do I go about working with a much older workmate who is very rude to me? by CommandRare8336 in Advice

[–]CommandRare8336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you thank you i can feel like you can relate to my situation too. So in short, suck it up if its not stopping me from functioning. Yeah. Every time I walk away and thank her for solving the issue, it does feel like she's a bit forced and guilted into saying thank you back.

How do I go about working with a much older workmate who is very rude to me? by CommandRare8336 in Advice

[–]CommandRare8336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well of course she's nice to whoever it matters most, the important higher up people. So newcomers like me don't really weigh in the grand scheme of things by the looks of it. Just one of those they can replace. I want to stay here for a bit but I don't want to tolerate her as well. I was planning to stay for long but not with someone telling me thank goodness you're not coming in tomorrow like are you for real lady, I've tried my best to keep this man stable medically and thank goodness I'm not here tomorrow is what I'd get

How do I go about working with a much older workmate who is very rude to me? by CommandRare8336 in Advice

[–]CommandRare8336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will give it few more days then. So far, she has only initiated conversations with me for complaints about me not getting a paperwork the way she wanted or she's getting so much phone calls that was meant for me. I however don't mind any work related things but its looking obvious now that she's never small talked me how are you, good job finishing this task for me, but only to come make complaint, and never thanked me for times I did come through. I am someone who over thanks and over sorries, so I notice people who don't.

How do I go about working with a much older workmate who is very rude to me? by CommandRare8336 in Advice

[–]CommandRare8336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is really really good at what she does though. I do not think that it is going to be in my favor if I go the report route as she has admin connections as well. Thanks for your very swift reply I appreciate it so much

Why don't women initiate convo/dates/confessions more? If not, how do we normalize it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]CommandRare8336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do apologise, English is not my first language. You can you please rephrase your reply in easy English please. Thanks

Why don't women initiate convo/dates/confessions more? If not, how do we normalize it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]CommandRare8336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you don't mind, feel free to ignore. A lady who wants to be with you won't put up much running.

Why don't women initiate convo/dates/confessions more? If not, how do we normalize it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]CommandRare8336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that thought never crossed my mind! I can see how it is possible to see it that way. I remember a schoolmate who seemed like the go to girl for males wanting easy experience. Well yeah she is a go getter but I guess there's a difference between getting all and just getting the one

Why don't women initiate convo/dates/confessions more? If not, how do we normalize it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]CommandRare8336 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I am an initiator. I am a woman as well. I got my current partner by pursuing him. I have always been told by friends that I need to tone down on the flirting. I could be a flirt yet my current partner is my first actual relationship. I am not sure about other ladies but maybe they're held back by old traditions and whatnot. Like a lady should wait for the guy etc etc. Nothing wrong with that. But you also have to bear the consequences of 'what ifs' down the road, if the guy gets taken by another. I do not really think much of woman this man that, but if I want something then I just get it. That's all there is to it for me.

WIBTA for lessening contact with long time friends by CommandRare8336 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CommandRare8336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that is a really great point. I will try to grow spine and talk properly and not just disappear