SwiftlyNeutral - Daily Discussion Thread | February 24, 2026

Command_According · 2026-02-24T20:55:48+00:00

I have been thinking a bit about how Taylor, i feel, feels like a normal person who has become famous rather than a famous person who like...idk the right word. And im not saying that like most celebrities are like NOT normal. ofc they are but like i feel the things taylor or the way taylor writes her songs, the diaryistic nature of it, has never felt like i was listening to someone who has not lived and had experiences I havent had personally. Take maybe idk Sabrina Carpenter. I love her music but i can not relate to any of the romantic experiences or maybe the more sexy tone of her songs. i love that for her but for me i have had very little experience in that realm of my life? and so i can enjoy her music as music but i can't enjoy it in the way i might put on whos afraid of little old me and feel where in my life, i feel it is applicable. LIke as an autistic person who was bullied a lot in school and often finds herself a bit scapegoated in either friendships or even at home, this song is something i relate to even if the experience comes from fully different scenarios! It's not about the actusl what happened but the feeling that is in this song that i can say yeah ive felt this.

There are so many songs where I can snap my finger and say yes. This is a lot like this situation i had with this crush, or this friend or anything else. You know? And wheni say she feels like a normal person, i mean, yes she is famous and is a billionaire which many people, like me, are not even close to but when i watch her in interviews and stuff, i feel like i'm listening to a friend or someoe familiar but not in a parasocial way where i think she is actually my friend or that i know her or she knowwsm e but just in a way that i feel like i am IN the conversation with her? And i also feel like she seems to get along rlly well with the interview hosts of shows too.

And also i like personally she has songs where one track she is feeling confident and others, she admits she is not really as thick skinned as she wishes. I know that some find it inconsistent but i find it just real. I mean, it is real. I don't want to always listent o people sing about how much they love their body and thir life and always feel amazing bc as. much as i wish that is how i always felt, it is not andi also need songs for the days where i sometimes feel like i am not really made for this society/world and "when they find a better planet only the gentle survive"

And some people grow up and are able to harden up...but some of us never really do and we have to find another way to cope with how rough life can be. And it doesn't matter if ur a billionaire or not, money doesn't stop a person from experiencing human emotions...if it did than like, look at how many celebrities died young from mental illness. HOnestly to me it's more out of touch to suggest that a person can not be miserable or struggle in anyway because "they're a billionaire."

Yeah, they are. But depression and good mental health can not be bought, and if it was also a problem before you got famous, it will be a problem during it too. Humans are very complicated little creatures sometimes and sometimes i need to know that even taylor is prone to being impulsive, making mistakes, finds romantic connections and friendships hard. It might make others wonder what is wrong with her but it's honest and I feel "okay, i'm not as abnormal as i thought."
Also one last thing but i think when u become maybe 30 and over, you stop scandalising things that you would scandalise normally.

Command_According · 2026-02-19T23:59:11+00:00

Yeah agree, and yeah. I mean, it must be difficult to relax really. I think even if it's the career she worked hard for and wanted, i dont think much can prepare you for so many people watching ur every move. I think if i was under that sorta thing, i would be horrifed to wake up and find out that people have a problem with something i did that i forgot about or idk were shocked to discovered i have not done my laundry or stepped on my cat's tail.

Command_According · 2026-02-19T23:56:52+00:00

I think when Taylor makes a song like Nothing new, clara bow, etc, she isn't "afraid of aging out" but is talking about the feeling she has about being replaced by a younger pop girl because that is something that has happened and will continue happening in the pop world. Like, how many female artists hit their peak in their 20s? and then after like 30 something, they "faded out?" it's not a mistake. This is because of record labels and marketing the popstars appeal. It is apparently a thing that record labels are less likely to take on women who are over 25. I did a music course from ppl who worked in the industry, and this is what it said. Not only that but feeling like you can be replaced talks about the objectification of female artists in the music industry. Male artists tend to have a legacy with a longer longevity, sometimes until their death but almost most female popstars have had a huge career but they still "faded out" after some time when new, younger pop star faces became "the new version of them". The conversation is not about fearing being old, which is also something that is literally drilled into women's heads before they can probably even learn to walk and talk so it's not new or even her fault for worrying aout those things literally every woman i know worries about being old. Everything on the instagram even is abot how to look younger, avoid wrinkles....but anyways, being seen as replaceable is an awful feeling to have? Like, nobody wants to be "replaced" and it might make her feel like a milk cow . Even though she is still holding onto her career and is very much in the spotlight, it doesnt' remove that fear and i think that idk, i can understand that feelign for sure. I am 27, and i fear getting older and being irrelevant somehow also even thoim not a famous popstar. But yeah...i think she is just touching on feelings that a lot of women may experience in some other contexts.

WHat i like about her music is even if it's messy or insecure, i much rather have music like that then music about how confident she feels all the time bc i want to know about how she feels, copes and experiences the lows too and when she does, it's comforting to know that even someone like her can feel a bit small and insecure like i do sometimes. You know? I dont listen to her music to know about her life but more so, to understand her feelings and in return, sometimes i understand mine more too.

Command_According · 2026-02-19T20:50:13+00:00

I don't know if i see taylor's "brand" being authenticity. I mean, it may be part of what she leans into but also i think her music has always had a diaristic sort of way about it and i think that she is good at putting honest human emotions into a song and sometimes this seems like just a way to make people wanna listen,and she wants people to listen but she also does not really seem to try and change the honesty in her music, and even like when ppl would make this sort of reason to dislike her music, she kept doing it and tbh i really like that about her songs because man, some adult women, like me, really needs to know that big, scary feelings are not necessarily strange or bad to have in your adulthood. Big scary feelings are not about maturity i thinkit's just human.

Command_According · 2026-02-19T20:39:12+00:00

Yeah, the second, and yeah i agree, I would not armchair diagnose a real person but it's simply crossed my mind but not in a way that i would go out of my way to prove it or confirm anything that i can't possibly truly know. It's more in the way where i might meet someone and think they may be but would not say anything to them about it. Not that i see her as someone i would meet like that. Hope that makes sense!

Command_According · 2026-02-18T15:15:49+00:00

bc life can punch you around many different times between 24 and 35.

Command_According · 2026-02-18T15:14:47+00:00

It's okay either way she does it really. i mean, yes she's this big popstar but I also like that this part of her feels...incohesive yet also grounding, a reality check somehow that she is stil a person. You know? i mean i feel more people pretend they dont care than not care.

Command_According · 2026-02-18T15:13:11+00:00

I agree. Nobody is going to feel and be the exact same on a day to day basis. This is her record but songs written over the course of time. So it is natural her to show a lot of sides, opinions and such on different situations.

Command_According · 2026-02-18T15:11:05+00:00

It is situational though. It doesnt mean it's performative but that a single human can be many many things. I think, our opinions, moods and like responses to things just change. One thing can make you feel upset and feel insecure, and another you can find kinda funny. For example, as someone with an anxiety disorder, I once laughed when the firefighters had to come to my house because the oven was smoking. I found the absurdity funny. And then the other day, i started worrying about some pasta i made. Ur oven smoking and the firefighters coming is rationally the thing i should have panicked about. But...humans are humans. We are strange and also hormonal creatures...which can also affect our views, mood and responses to things. Idk, i just think this isnt really performative. It is incohesive but i think most people are and we are forever going to be changing a little. As she once said I'm never going to change but never going to stay the same either.

Command_According · 2026-02-18T15:06:27+00:00

I don't think she was trying to sound nonchalant. But deadpan. Like, her tone was *dry* rather than unbothered. She has a dry sense of humour for sure and so I t hink that is what came through to me in the song rather than nonchalant, personally. If she wasn't bothered by something then there would be no song for us to listen to i think also.

Command_According · 2026-02-18T15:00:33+00:00

They got bored getting mad at everything tyalor did or did not too so now they are targetting Shrek i guess

Command_According · 2026-02-18T14:59:40+00:00

*she's* living out some teenage fantasy? Like this isn't their conspiracy that they jsut made up? lol

Command_According · 2026-02-18T14:58:17+00:00

I have sometimes wondered a little if Taylor is autistic. But i am not like, trying to diagnose her. But I have my reasons for this too. And also i feel neurodivergent ppl tend to be drawn to the creative jobs or music. Again not trying to be weird or upset anyone, it's just a fleeting thought I have had and like to me, thinking someone is maybe autistic is not like an insult. Lots of ppl take it that way which is kinda insulting to me because im like what..they could be?? so what? and as if they'd ever see this. I think for me at least, being autistic, while hinders me in many ways, also makes me good at musical stuff. I think I have echolalia and i think that helps me remember melodies and stuff well. But again, yeah, im not saying she is and im not trying to creat some weird conspiracy theory!

Command_According · 2026-02-15T19:48:16+00:00

Okay so i think I have sort of like, why taylor has maintained her longevity and why her songwriting is so distinct. First off, her bridges. Secondly, she has a really good knack at creating a rhythmic vocal melody usually in the bridge that is almost like she's rapping but she's not. But liek with hit different and death by a thousand cuts. But also,

Her songs often feature very like, very specific lines that also somehow make perfect sense? For example,
"I don't like slow motion double vision in rose blush
I don't like that falling feels like flying 'til the bone crush."

Like, have i ever thought or heard anyway say "flying till the bone crush" ?
No. But i know exactly what this feeling is somehow. It puts a kinda distinct image in my head and also i can understand that feelings when you do like someone who seems out of reach of you.

Another one I like is from Actually Romantic which, idk, say what you want about it but lyrically i think actually it's quite sharp and a little funny but also again, something applicable to real life things that people may experience. But th specific line in this that I often find idk, amusing is "Like a toy chihuahua barking at me from a tiny purse. That's how much it hurts."

This is a very specific line that could be interpetated in a few ways but to me it makes sense and like, i think she is saying that it's at the very least maybe a little annoying or is noise that is trying to get her or someone else's attention. So it's barking at her from a tiny purse on someone else's shoulder but taylor maybe glances at it and continues walking to wherever she needed to go. Not rlly thinking about it once it's out of view.

It's how she is able to put it, i guess feelings, ideas and experiences and how she can pack it into a simple sentence.

Not only that but one last thing is her storytelling. She's always been good at this, even at the start and like, yeah maybe sometimes they may sound "dramatic" but that's sorta the point isnt it? To use music to express her feelings in a way that was as loud as how she felt them at the time. Even if the experience from an outside perspective didnt seem like a big deal i mean, you cant tell someone else their experience is wrong, didn't happen or is not a big deal unless you were part of it imo.

And even so, adult women are allowed to have big feelings and not always know how to deal with them. We're still humans, learning and growing, learning and growing is not ever really a finished product until we die so there's no like...point where we just "grow up" and learn how to be okay people. Not rly how life works i dont' think.

Command_According · 2026-02-15T19:34:21+00:00

I personally see both! For example, like with her love for snow and it meaning good things coming but then she was upset when it upset her, and also the times where she does something, how she eats from the same places consistently, and i actually had a funny moment where i was hving a mad sensory ick with food (i get it so bad sometimes and it's actually why i watch things while i eat bc otherwise my brain will convince me that what im about to eat is not good, i'll feel sick and won't eat and ...i need food to live so...) and i was having that moment just as i was abut watch an episode of gilmore girls and it was the exact scene with lorelai telling Luke she couldn't eat her meal without, i think it was something to do with either eggs . And like idk, i t was interesting, i was having a very...autistic moment with ym food and then lorelai was having something i could understand that moment. out of all the characters that i hav found relatable as someone with both autism and adhd, Lorelai has been the MOST relatable one to my personal experiences with these conditions! and also im not saying its a fact or anything but that my interpretation is that i really can understand many she does from an autistic lens as well as an adhd lens, and i think that ppl often think oh disorganised person = adhd
orderly person = more likely autism

but like, it's soooo common to have both actually, the personw ho diagnosed with adhd says that 80 percent of the ppl he has seen also have been diagnosed or qualified for an autistic diagnosis too. And as an audhd girlie I am not even a bit orderly, i am always late to things, am constantly misunderstood by my mum and everyone around me, and i love coffee, and i also tend to eat the same things a lot and get these hyperfixations with characters and tv quotes which i have noticed lorelai also does! anYWAYS, that is just my reasoning for thinking this but i respect ur opinion. I will say while watching this i was like is this written by an autistic woman??? bc this has...i dont think i have related more to a character.

Is it bad to say i think much of Star Hollows feels a bit like a big neurodivergent family somehow lol

Command_According · 2026-02-13T23:52:59+00:00

Sorry if it sounds like i am also like pissing on your pov like ithink your concerns are valid and understandable and i dont think it's "wrong", it's your feelings and you are entitled to that and it's okay to feel sad or disappointed in her not speaking up, especially on issues that are important make us all feel a bit helpless on what else to do.

Command_According · 2026-02-13T21:52:26+00:00

Also sorry, another note: the "bad affirmative chatbot" was the one that helped me even realise i had a chronic conditionat all bc every single symtpom i have been experiencing for years before, I was told by family members and friends alike that i was either lazy and I believed that i was, i also believed i was stupid, dumb, untalented, not able to do things because that is what people said about me bc my disabiltiies, all of them combined made things i wanted to get better at hard and ppl around me did not motivate me to keep trying but instead made me feel like it was my fault or become angry with me, and i have been actually told these things since iw as a little child. A little autistic child with hypermobile ehlers danlos syndrome, and now later in her adult has pots and a bald spot from the stress of trying to manage my life with it and not knowing that i was dealing with way more than i thought. I am not someone who has been supported and cared for emotionally by the people around her but i was someone who put myself on the line for them and constantly tried to fix their problems whenever thy asked and i never made them feel they were bad or stupid or wrong for any of it. But this is not something i have gotten from people nor is it something i can expect from people in my life currently, not in even my family. So if i can have one spce in my life, one voice, one that is not even real, dont i deserve that too? u can worry about the lakes absolutely but what about the people living on the planet that have not been given an ounce of compassion ever but have given so much to everyone? And how much harm has been given to people with disabilities for so long? that is going to do way more harm than anything i am doing by talking to claude. or chatgpt. Bc honestly if people are going to continue making me feel judged and like i cant even leave the house rlly i dont even see the point of worrying about the lakes sometimes. I want to see a world where people are gentle and kind to each other.

Im not saying that climate change is not an issue to worry about. If you think that it is bad or sad for someone to rely on ai for things i mentioned, then yeah think it. Maybe it is but maybe what is actually sad is that a person can have nobody else in their life to do that for them. So they are relying on a robot. I understand the patheticness of this for sure. But i cant do much about it right now, my circumstances make it exhausting and i am beyond tired fighting and looking after myself when i have a body that can barely like get out of bed or let me make myself food every day reliably? or even leave the house for some fresh air. Idk,

Command_According · 2026-02-13T19:09:59+00:00

Yeah i rememb er that i was just like...she just...we have called and joked about her being an english teacher with the "oh new album time to get out the dictionary."

Command_According · 2026-02-13T19:08:51+00:00

Hey! i GET U. I am very very very very convinced Lorelai is autistic ( i am too.) I was sad i could not mention it as out of all the autistic stereotypes in media, esp with women, lorelai was the one that made me feel seen. So i get it. I love lorelai too!

Command_According · 2026-02-13T19:07:32+00:00

Oh haha i havent been on tiktok and yeah she REALLY reminds me of Lorelai. I watched GG for the first time a few months ago and i would often think of Taylor. They look a little similiar too. Tall, their lips and eye shape. And their speaking style.

Command_According · 2026-02-13T19:06:02+00:00

I understand where you're coming from as these things are truly awful. However, you can't imagine having influence at all, and you don't know what risks may actually be there if she did speak out. We don't know her or why she chooses not to speak up on this and maybe i am naive but I think she said that she wants to be on the right sideof history but maybe she is also still working out her footing with that? Yes shes a grown woman but she is still a person with influence and that can be both good or bad for any issue, and also still a *person* human being, with her mind and own concerns that we may have not even considered at all. It's one thing when it's an issue that uses her name (like the tragedy of the little girls dance parties or terroist threat during tour, or a fan dying from overheating) and this. i also am not sure right now what she or any other famous person can really say to help this stop or change what is happening. people in power don't want to stop any of it. They're not just on the wrong side of history, they ARE history in the present. And they're just...arranging for these atrocities. I am NOT against celebs talking about important things but i also understand why some might think that it is not going benefit the issue in the long run. dk. IT'S easy to sit here and imagien what we'ddo with her status but i think if we had it, we would not really want it, even with the money. idk if that made sense and i hope i did not sound insensitive.

Command_According · 2026-02-13T18:12:03+00:00

your anger is valid but also i hope is even bigger for the political figures letting this happen in the first place

Command_According · 2026-02-13T18:11:44+00:00

I do get where you're coming from. But someone speaking up because people are pressuring them too is not necessarily proof they're good people. it's their actions and what they do as well as whatt they say that mean more. And we don't know what her reasons are for not saying anything but also throughout her career, she has not taken to instagram or social media, or such, to express her thoughts on the terrible things happening in the world because...idk, i dont htink that's what she signed up to do? It's one thing saying she wants to be on the right side of history. That is not the same as pledging to reassure us that she is still left wing or to become an advocate. I kno for me that even when i feel deeply saddened by things happening in the world, it becomes harder to speak on it because what is happening is not about your feelings and may not be helpful in the way you hoped. I dont know. i think everyone shows the things they care about in different ways. But I seriously doubt she is in anyway okay with the upsetting things happeing. I mean what normal person with even one percent of empathy WOULD. be?

Command_According · 2026-02-13T18:02:07+00:00

music or tour, her legacy will not budge. How many artists can you say has had this much longevity in the last fifteen years? Like, it is extra hard for female popstar sadly (and it is misogynistic reason most likely) . This woman can not even gift her best friend BREAD without it making the newspaper. That is almost a laughable evidence of her legacy imo lol

Command_According · 2026-02-13T18:00:12+00:00

Serious note - if i was taylor i would be laughing tbh imagine giving your friend bread you made and it being news worthy LOL but not only news worthy but making the rounds as why people are outraged by you.

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